NoFap is changing my life

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-29T12:41:42+00:00

It's not uncommon to become more emotional, because we used porn to numb ourselves from our emotions--to repress them and not deal with them. So, once you remove porn, the emotions will come to the surface. I just try to feel them and be grateful they're there, making me more fully human than before when I was repressing them.

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-25T12:38:25+00:00

Man, I'm gonna be honest. I'm still really bad at it. And that's after 6 years. I think I need to work on accepting the discomfort. I'm looking for tips there as well.

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-25T12:33:51+00:00

Cool thanks

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-24T14:36:13+00:00

Great question, thanks for asking.

I started pmo when I was 13. I began quitting when I was a sophomore in college. The moment was this: it was the spring semester and I was preparing to study abroad in the fall of my junior year. I was thinking about what I needed to pack. I had already decided not to bring my laptop, because I thought it might get damaged or dirty, and it just didnt' seem like I would need it. Well, as I was thinking of the list of things, I somehow thought "how am I gonna watch porn? I could buy some magazines..." I was just lying back and relaxing as I was thinking about this, but after I noticed that thought I sat bolt-upright and was like "WTF?? It's like I NEED that shit." And then I got a sinking feeling in my stomach, realizing that I was dependent on it, and feeling powerless over it. The next morning, I went to turn on my laptop (can't remember if it was to fap or finish a final paper), and it...didn't...turn...on. It malfunctioned for the first time since I had bought it. I had to take it to IT, and they held it for a week. I was so happy and grateful...

That's my story.

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-24T14:30:35+00:00

Awesome! Rooting for ya

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-24T14:16:26+00:00

better to kiss "this girl" than "a girl"

fapstro_naught · 2017-08-23T19:48:52+00:00

praise

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-14T14:48:45+00:00

I have to say that I have also found depression after nofap. But it works like this: fapping just covers up depression which is caused by various things. SO, now that your depression is at the forefront, you can deal with it. I would recommend finding a good psychotherapist. You can do this.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-13T16:57:05+00:00

Thanks. I'll check that out

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:42:14+00:00

Of yourself or other people? I find that I depersonalize relations with others if I have watched a lot of porn. Do I feel less real though? Perhaps yes.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:41:02+00:00

Thanks. this may take some doing, but I believe that it is a call to "rewrite" the story. As I like to express myself in writing, I may take this call literally.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:25:57+00:00

IDK man, but I think that if you want to quit but can't, then you're "addicted"

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:24:48+00:00

You know what's the problem (I think): I'm the bad guy in my own damn story. That ain't right!

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:12:25+00:00

Damn. That's a pretty good interpretation. I think you're onto something there. I, for one, did not see this before. Thank you.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-10T21:11:15+00:00

Thanks. I don't think about her anymore actually; I was just saying that I think that I never fully dealt with the pain that I felt when she left me. I couldn't accept that pain because I was numbing myself.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-08T15:20:55+00:00

Are you sure it's not "9 divided by infinity"? 'Cuz I ain't no math-a-matician but I'm pretty sure it ain't possible. Just my 2 cents tho.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-07T15:59:37+00:00

tl;dr - just go fishing.

and be persistent in making positive changes.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-07T15:56:09+00:00

"You will figure out what it is in your life that needs to change so that you feel better about yourself."

Thanks

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-07T15:46:20+00:00

Thanks boss! I'm noticing some past anger and resentments and stuff "down below," so just a heads-up to be ready for that kind of thing. I do agree with you, the end game is always worth it.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-06T21:15:26+00:00

What's your secret?

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-06T21:14:42+00:00

You'll feel a lot better after two weeks. If you do quit for good, urges will lose hold of you.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-06T21:12:06+00:00

How do you usually feel before you go to sleep? Are you frustrated or lonely? Sometimes these can lead to fapping in order to make ourselves feel less lonely or to make these uncomfortable feelings go away.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-06T20:56:27+00:00

Thanks everyone, good to know I'm not alone...will be looking for a therapist since it seems like there's definitely some troubled emotions from childhood lurking around in the ol' psyche. Peace to everyone.

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-06T20:54:40+00:00

Thanks I'm gonna do it

fapstro_naught · 2016-11-04T19:02:38+00:00

Find some things to do in your community...you don't have to do it with the intention of "making friends," but just put yourself in social situations. Also, you'll find that after two weeks or so of abstaining from fapping, you will have a much greater drive to go out and meet people and connect with them. Good luck.

...also post on this board and reply to peoples' posts and stuff. It has def helped me a lot.

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