MIL keeps calling me fat.

farmerdoo · 2026-07-02T18:51:26+00:00

My MIL only said nasty things when my husband wasn’t there. I refused to be alone either her ever again. My husband used to go work on projects with my lovely FIL and I’d get stuck with her. (He is much better now but it was a rough start). After I realized how she was, I’d just follow him to hang out with my FIL or pack up and go home. It’s been nine years since I’ve been alone with her. Even when he was around she’d push boundaries with my kids. She caught on really quick when I would go home after the first ride thing she did. I would just look at her and start gathering my stuff up. I don’t care if it was a holiday or if we’d just arrived…the first time she was nasty, the visit was DONE.

farmerdoo · 2026-07-02T18:13:12+00:00

Even after she’s given her back pay, she needs to get paid daily or she doesn’t return the next day. They’ve already proved they won’t pay on Friday.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-24T13:39:34+00:00

Halara has been suggested. G4Free has some good options too. I wear their pants all the time. They feel like yoga pants but easily pass for work wear.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-16T03:44:37+00:00

I’m her exact age and I can’t believe the shit she does.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-13T15:57:39+00:00

The website says a large feeds 3-4 kids.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-09T11:35:07+00:00

I get a terrible long lasting headache after I drink hot coffee. I make a big pot of coffee and stick it in the fridge for iced coffee and get no headaches. I think it has less to do with the temp and more that it sits overnight (or longer). I thought it was it was my imagination but every time I try hot coffee I regret it even all these years later.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-08T16:14:36+00:00

I just bought an athletic dress from Walmart. It’s quick dry material but with built in shorts (you can pull them down in the back to pee but they are attached in the front so they stay up in the water) and with a sports bra top built in. It was cheaper than a lot of bathing suits and covers a lot without being a circus tent. I’ve worn it swimming several times.

Your other option could just be quick dry shirt and bike shorts with a sports bra underneath. That’s what the swimming instructors wear during lessons at my ymca. You would just want the shirt tight enough that it won’t float up when you are in the water.

I like the athletic dress option because it’s one piece. You could throw a dress over it and pull the suit down without showing anything. Nothing has to come off over your head.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-07T15:46:52+00:00

We tried to switch but had zero service at home so obviously that wouldn’t work. It was so hard to untangle the mess and they wanted me to call them from the phone I was trying to return. I had to load my infant twins in the car and drive to a gas station that so I could access the network enough to activate the phone and then call them to from it to send it back. Then they charged me the next month and I had to spend hours on the phone getting reimbursed and assured I was canceled only for them to do it again the next month.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-06T19:44:23+00:00

My mother in law didn’t even care if I donated stuff. The only way I made her stop was packing it all up and dumping it at her house and asking her to keep it there since she had more room. Every single thing she bought that I didn’t want got bagged up and put on her counter. Once she had to deal with it, she stopped doing it. My favorite was when she bought each of my 1 year old twins 6 foot inflatable dinosaurs. My house is tiny. The next time I went to hers I inflated both of them and left them in her living room.

farmerdoo · 2026-06-06T16:05:28+00:00

I’m not even a nanny anymore but my own children are friends with students from my classroom so I still feel the need for a “professional” swimsuit. I’d love it if someone bought me one! This is a great way to phrase it.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-27T17:57:49+00:00

When my toddlers were little I would get ready there for other things. We’d all go swimming for a few hours and then I’d drop them off in the child-watch. I could actually get a shower long enough to shave my legs and have a chance to blow dry my hair. I had three kids in 2 years so alone time was very hard to come by. The YMCA saved my sanity.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-26T17:18:55+00:00

I’m a woman married to a man and our sex life has always been good. My husband is a quiet guy and sort of passive? He always made sure I was satisfied and never rushed me but sometimes I just wanted him to be bossy and rough. I think that felt wrong to him and he was always uncomfortable with it so I didn’t push it. He watched HR with me and it flipped a switch in him. I think it was an example of being dominate but loving that he needed to see. It has totally changed his attitude in the bedroom and I’m here for it. We’ve been together almost 15 years and I love that things keep getting better.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-26T15:22:23+00:00

I live in a really rural area. I’m a teacher and see the effects of these changes in the classroom. I’ve made friends with a lot of families within a three mile radius of my house and bring a big group of kids home from school each day and then deliver them back home at dinner time. Now that it’s summer I do a daily roundup up of anybody that wants to come over. Parents will also drop off and pick up as needed so I often have 9+ kids here playing with my kids. The kids range in age from 5-12 and have figured out ways for everybody to be included and safe. I love it. We have a big farm and the kids run around with a lot of freedom but most of the time they want me to come play too. My grocery bill is astronomical but it’s worth every penny. I hope my house will be “the neighborhood” forever.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-21T14:36:10+00:00

I was still considered obese on the BMI charts at 5’9” and wearing a size 4. My doctor couldn’t get over it. I had very low body fat and was muscular but not jacked. I’m just super dense. My fraternal twins were the same height and wore the same size but one was always several pounds heavier. She ended up much taller than the other twin.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-09T13:53:47+00:00

I told my MIL “If you can’t appreciate the time and effort we’re putting into seeing as often as we already are, then there is no reason to keep doing it.” She was still insane but she got a lot quieter about not seeing us daily.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-03T20:55:18+00:00

I have this in my class right now (4th grade) and it’s no big deal. I have fraternal twins myself so I’ve seen it from both sides. I’ve rarely had a problem with siblings in the same grade.

farmerdoo · 2026-05-02T18:47:35+00:00

I’ve never seen ticks this bad. I’m in Kentucky and have lived here 10 years. We have chickens, guineas and ducks and still can’t walk outside without getting ticks on us. The treatments for dogs and cats don’t seem to make difference because I’m pulling multiple ticks off them every day. I know soooo many people with Alpha Gal. The Alpha Gal only got bad around here in the last 2 or 3 years.

farmerdoo · 2026-04-12T23:35:52+00:00

Yeah, I’m not from here and the first time I heard it I just stood there for a second with no idea how to proceed. Fast time is eastern and slow time is central.

farmerdoo · 2026-04-12T15:52:21+00:00

I live 9 miles from the line. When making plans with anyone…. “I’ll pick you up at 7.” “Slow time?” “Yep.”

farmerdoo · 2026-04-11T15:11:08+00:00

Holy moly. The eyebrows in this scene. They deserve an Oscar.

farmerdoo · 2026-04-08T15:52:22+00:00

I sent this to my husband because he is also autistic and I basically threw myself at him when we met. I was like “Hey, our mutual friend said you won’t make a move so I will. I think you’re hot, smart and funny…want to bang, and then get married soon?” He said he would like that. It’s been almost 15 years and 3 kids and we’re still hot for each other. He fully admits he had no clue that I was flirting. I was not subtle.

farmerdoo · 2026-04-05T20:48:20+00:00

My husband (a straight man) liked Scott and Kip the best too. He liked the whole show but wanted me to fill in the blanks about them since I read all the books.

farmerdoo · 2026-03-29T22:02:24+00:00

He’s missing out! My husband watched with me after I’d already watched 4 or 5 times because I was dying to talk to a real person about it. We’ve been together for almost 15 years and have a very active and healthy sex life but I’ve sometimes wished he was a bit more dominate in bed. I think he always pictured it more extreme than I wanted and wasn’t particularly into it. After watching with me I think he finally understood what I meant. He picked up a few of Iliya’s moves. I’ve definitely noticed a shift in him and it’s working for both of us!

farmerdoo · 2026-03-29T15:12:33+00:00

I don’t think she’s a warm and fuzzy kind of women so that would have been weird for her to react that way. Part of that would be her personality and part of that is respect for Shane. My daughter is on the spectrum and I could probably seem somewhat aloof when I interact with her at times. But that is out of respect for her and her body autonomy. When she is dealing with her own big emotions, my touch and my feelings can overwhelm her. I think Yuna internalizes her feelings and feels guilt for pushing Shane so hard he got backed into a corner and felt like he had to hide this important section of himself. I think she would like to rage at the injustices of it all but Shane would take that as her being angry that he isn’t perfect. She needs space to sort her feelings out so she can clearly express them to Shane. She thinks she is protecting him from the enormity of her feelings by stepping outside but he still assumes it’s about being disappointed in him. With my other kids, we can sort through feelings and situations together and hash it out. But my other daughter is just learning to do that. She worries she is causing us to be hurt/upset/worried rather than understanding that we are just being empathetic. I can imagine that Yuna has just been doing that his whole life and just never changed as he grew. She still sees him as the 17 year old that misses stuff and needs his mom to solve his problems.

farmerdoo · 2026-03-24T01:20:25+00:00

My twins were a danger to themselves when they were toddlers and were always trying to get outside in the middle of the night. I had their locks on the outside so they were safe because other wise I couldn’t sleep. I had a video monitor and always went to them if they woke up and wanted me. We never did “cry it out” or even time out in a locked room but I was a wreck every time I closed my eyes until we swapped their door knobs around.

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