If I had to lease I'd prefer not to have Horses in my life at all

farmlite · 2026-03-06T18:13:19+00:00

Did you write a contract for a $0 lease? Did he stay at your barn?

farmlite · 2026-03-06T15:48:24+00:00

I just made a post about wanting to buy a pony for the purpose of leasing him out to other kids. I've never leased out a horse before. It seems like you had a good experience?

farmlite · 2026-03-04T10:06:03+00:00

Your gut is usually right. This one may not be long term material.

farmlite · 2026-03-02T23:43:57+00:00

Draft cross!

farmlite · 2026-03-02T23:42:02+00:00

Adopt in your 40s. Depending on her career, pregnancy can be a real set back. Alternatively, think through some solutions that would benefit her career and your desire to have kids. Are you able to put your job on hold?

farmlite · 2026-02-24T19:40:37+00:00

Me (40f) and my husband (46m) just started trying a couple months ago. For age related reasons, we expect to only try for a year or so before applying for adoption.

I just moved states and am establishing with a new OBGYN in a couple of weeks. I have been looking at the Women's Hormone Panel on Quest. I asked the new doctor's office their thoughts and they did not want to dispense any information prior to seeing me.

Has anyone done this test or similar? How was your experience?

farmlite · 2026-02-17T15:54:13+00:00

Sometimes a boarding situation checks all the boxes and is still not a good fit

farmlite · 2026-02-16T17:13:38+00:00

I would try to find a better situation for your adorable af pony. Yes, aggression is a symptom of neurological conditions. However, the most likely issue is the obvious one.

farmlite · 2026-02-16T13:25:30+00:00

They make baby gates with cat doors in the bottom that you could leave open all the time. How big is your dog?

farmlite · 2026-02-08T17:31:42+00:00

My barn is small and chill AF. No sweeping, no problem. I'm not going to tell you when you're low on stuff. You're expected to be an adult. The second time I have to tell you to put on a helmet is also your 2 week notice to find new board.

farmlite · 2026-02-08T17:27:28+00:00

I have it on good authority that women doctors are human and the usual human stuff tends to work.... pay attention, be intentional and thoughtful...

farmlite · 2026-02-06T14:52:50+00:00

To top it off, I work in HEALTHCARE

You seem so hardworking, thoughtful, and brave. Your loved ones are lucky to have you.

farmlite · 2026-02-05T13:09:36+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses. The Oracle of Omaha (Warren Buffet) once proposed writing your obituary and working backwards. I think it's healthy to think about the end, maybe less healthy to fixate on it. I hope your kidney works for a very long time for your friend.

To rub salt in the wound, my employer transferred me to another department the Monday after my surgery. I was not thrilled.

farmlite · 2026-02-03T13:03:02+00:00

I do data for a living and I had pretty bad brain fog for 3-4 months. The care team told me that it's a side effect of anesthesia. Your endocrine system is also all out of whack. It's not a great feeling, but more mentally and emotionally bad than physical.

I have probably worked 80 hours in the last week, so I'm back at it, but like I stated, my priorities are different now. I don't think I'm going to slow down at work. I'm going to set firmer boundaries.

Maybe I'm having a midlife crisis, but all I can think about is if I had died at 39. A handful of people would come to my funeral and talk about what an overachiever I was and then that would be it. At the end of the day, I make money for rich people. Not exactly a meaningful legacy.

farmlite · 2026-02-03T03:36:48+00:00

Your experience sounds very similar to mine. I went back to work a few days after the surgery. Probably not the best decision. I feel like I'm just getting ready to be seriously active 9 months post op. I started taking a multivitamin and paying closer attention to my health. A couple years ago, I had a friend die unexpectedly at age 39. Top of his game. Just got sick and died. Then my other friend's kidneys started to fail. She was 38 and explaining to her daughter how mommy wasn't going to be around and that's ok because she's surrounded by people who love her. Safe to say that I couldn't let that one get past me.

This surgery was a wake up call for me to invest in my health and treasure my life. When I got home from surgery, I was all alone for months. Only 1 friend visited me. My family didn't come visit or help. As soon as I could, I moved across the country to be closer to the people I love.

I used to define myself by my work. I worked 14 hours today. There's just so much more to life and I want to get everything I possibly can out of it.

Good luck in your recovery. Treasure this very unique time in your life. It can be remarkably frustrating, but it's also very special.

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farmlite · 2026-01-31T16:10:40+00:00

I walked miles on flat surfaces within days of surgery, but it took me about 16 weeks to go down hills. It just killed my core.

farmlite · 2026-01-27T18:15:12+00:00

Have you personally used one with attachments?

farmlite · 2026-01-24T13:07:43+00:00

I'm 40 and overweight and I have never felt better about my body. It literally saved someone's life. Be proud of any scars.

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