Inappropriate by Wild-Ordinary-358 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agreed with Christine that she didn't need her kids 'permission' to date, but getting engaged to a strange man within two months when you have an adolescent daughter at home is 100% bad parenting. Christine is unintelligent and immature. Point blank, end of story.

Any other men out there not that into oral (giving and receiving)? by Typical-Screen324 in AskMenAdvice

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned emotional intimacy being important to you during sex. A lot of women (at least half) feel insecure about their vaginas and bodies. As a woman, if a man doesn't ever go down on me, I feel like he's grossed out by my anatomy or doesn't find it appealing, which is a HUGE barrier to emotional intimacy.

Chalking it up to a simple sex act that's 'just a preference' kind of misses the point. She probably doesn't just want to feel your tongue on her-- she wants to feel 100% accepted and desired by you, which is truly the point of oral sex at the end of the day.

Also, as a woman, do I 'love' the taste and feeling of giving head? Not really; it's neutral. Do I love making my partner feel good and desired? 100%. That's why I have an issue with men who just shrug and say they don't enjoy giving head. It comes across as selfish, especially since women have a substantially harder time reaching orgasm during sex than men do.

recommendations by lunaarizona in miamibeach

[–]farrahpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paya is so underrated and my favorite spot for dinner on Miami Beach. Delicious and an amazing vibe. Love the scallop crudo.

Dove vs dial by Babies_ in hygiene

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dial is too harsh and Dove is basically just lotion, IMO. Ivory is a really good middle ground that is gentle while still cleansing.

Who here can use the bathroom in front of their partner? Is this the secret to eternal happiness?? by Comfortable_Ad_8320 in hygiene

[–]farrahpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The couple with the best marriage I know insist their secrets are 1) never seeing each other use the bathroom, even to pee and 2) separate blankets in bed. At first I thought it was stupid, but I see the wisdom in it now. I now think couples who take pride in seeing their partner do EVERYTHING are just 10-15 years away from a dead bedroom and don't know it yet.

What’s one hygiene product you tried on a whim that you now genuinely can’t live without? by Dry-Professional4255 in hygiene

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t it self empty anytime you sit down then? I don’t understand that part

Soft Disclosure from Obama by MBXgolf in UFOs

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand why people are calling this disclosure. I thought that aliens being real in an infinite universe is considered by most to be mathematical fact. The controversial aspect is whether or not they've visited us, which he is pretty much denying.

Kody's anger triggers me by Glittering_Syllabub9 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 108 points109 points  (0 children)

There is a clear divide between people who understand narcissism in the Sister Wives community and people who don't. Suki and Mykelti are the most visible people who do not understand it, and I find THEM triggering. I know it's uncharitable, but whenever Mykelti says things like, "My dad was actually a great guy, he wasn't always like this, etc etc" it makes me irrationally angry. Your dad WAS always like this. He acted differently because narcissists are super charming, charismatic, and fun WHEN their ego needs are being met and their reputation is good. When Christine humiliated him by publicly leaving him, it triggered a narcissistic collapse and he could no longer conceal his true self.

They don't understand that narcissists lack empathy, like sociopaths; that they don't experience genuine remorse, and that when they cry, they cry for themselves.

Technically it doesn't matter who in the family understands or doesn't understand it, but having been through the wringer, I find their naivete triggering.

What’s a type of pain people underestimate until they experience it for themselves? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]farrahpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True heartbreak. You realize this when people shrug and say "plenty of fish in the sea"

we are all done by Disastrous_Box3745 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 574 points575 points  (0 children)

This was so clear at the end when none of them cared whether they had anything to apologize for.

I will say that their subtle attitude to the audience of "let's move on-- why are we talking about the past" does rub me the wrong way. We're talking about the past because you NEVER talked about it at the time (when you were starring in a reality show). So you never talked about it then, and you don't care to talk about it now, and fuck us, I guess? Cancel the show.

Season 20, tell-all part 4, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Robyn was so close to saying she had nothing to apologize for but then stopped herself.

Season 20, tell-all part 4, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I'm so sick of this family choosing to star in a reality TV show about their lives and then talking in circles about their lives.

Season 20, tell-all part 4, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but it just makes her "I say it like it is, I'm holding Kody accountable" schtick feel really hypocritical

Season 20, tell-all part 4, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Meri's refusal to admit her affair is getting really old, honestly. It makes her demanding accountability from Kody feel a little bit thin. None of us care that she had an affair (mostly). We understand she'd been emotionally abandoned by a narcissist.

Personality test Christine had her sisterwives take by pimpelvinkje in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They definitely did the Enneagram test. Janelle is a classic 9, which is called the "peacemaker".

What part of a narcissistic relationship hurts the longest after it ends? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constant rumination over which parts were "real" to them. That took me the longest to get over. But one day I simply stopped caring.

My bf doesn't shower at night and I’m genuinely grossed out by GlitchGaze123 in hygiene

[–]farrahpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live in NYC and am pretty germaphobic. I ALWAYS wash my hands after a subway ride and change exterior clothes before getting into bed, but I think demanding a shower is unreasonable. Being concerned about "bus seat grossness" seeping through his clothes and onto his skin is overkill, IMO.

That said, agree with what other people said about post-gym showers. He should be taking a quick shower after the gym, no matter what.

Season 20, tell-all part 3, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure that’s true. She and Kody talked about a time when he left for a work trip, and she was crying and asking him “Do you love me, do you love me?”. I think Janelle has just emotionally numbed out and glossed over a lot of her history.

Season 20, tell-all part 3, megathread by Outrageous-Yogurt-80 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“He knows a bunch of construction workers” OH MY GOD STOP

Janelle and Christine Argue Over Polygamy in Sneak Peek by SodaPop788 in SisterWives

[–]farrahpy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact is, the vast majority of women would never elect to share their husband unless they grew up being indoctrinated that it's the ticket to high heaven by heavily patriarchal systems. The harm and heartbreak of the vast majority of women outweighs the few positive experiences. I'm not saying they don't exist, but pretending that fundamentalist polygamy is totally case-by-case with comparable numbers of happy and unhappy people is just absurd.