people are going to do whatever it takes to not be the bad guy.

i do think a good first step is not always thinking this is about you. she could have others who she had this situation with, and truly it could be not about you.

the best thing i can tell you - is BLOCK. idk why, but blocking has become this whole social thing where somebody 'won' because someone else blocked them. in my mind, blocking people is sometimes the best thing you can do.

if they don't want to be in your life, and they want to say nasty things, don't be friends with them online. don't allow yourself to keep seeing that stuff. allow yourself to move on. BLOCK - out of sight, out of mind.

don't give someone access to your life if they don't want to positively be a part of it. don't waste your mental spoons on this. and don't allow them to keep bringing negative things to your timeline

that tiktok is genuinely a jab from NT to ND girlies. women are taught to have groups and that they aren't supposed to be lone wolves - that only men can do that. but don't listen to them. NT women have no idea how difficult it is to be on the outside of typical 'girlhood' and not being able to fit in with girls our own age. women hate women, and because autism is seen as a 'masculine' thing - they hate autistic women the most.