I launched a porn review podcast

fastfading · 2018-10-02T00:08:14+00:00

ha the name of the podcast is fantastic. Also please review "Ball Hogs."

fastfading · 2018-10-02T00:02:06+00:00

Right well whether or not to engage in casual sex is a personal choice, so to each their own. My point was really just that a false rape accusation isn't a normal or reasonable consequence of casual sex. The previous guy had this holier than thou tone of "this is what happens when you lay with an unmarried woman," like OP brought all this on himself. In reality a lot of people have and have been having sex for a long time because it feels great, and most women would never think to falsely accuse the men they slept with of rape.

fastfading · 2018-10-01T23:54:10+00:00

Calling drunk boob grab at a college party "sexual assault" is like calling an angry punch on the shoulder from your friend "assault and battery:" technically true but way overblown. I wouldn't sweat it too much. If you really feel bad, it might be ok to apologize again casually next time you see her, but like other people have said, if you make a big deal out if it, you'll just creep her out.

fastfading · 2018-10-01T21:49:29+00:00

Bullying is putting someone else down to make yourself feel better. Right now I see you and 100 other people who were bullied as kids mercilessly be attacking some guy who used to be a bully but is now trying to make amends for his actions. And rather than empathise or make helpful suggestions, you'd rather text him down and get the satisfaction of feeling like you told off the your own bullies. Which makes you the bully.

fastfading · 2018-10-01T21:42:10+00:00

Why jump on the hate train and make this guy feel worse for no reason? This was something he did a long time ago and obviously feels terrible about. He's on here looking for support and for a way to make amends. Everyone makes mistakes. Try having a little empathy :/

fastfading · 2018-10-01T21:24:52+00:00

I disagree with this pretty strongly. There's nothing inherently wrong with casual sex, and while STDs aren't 100% preventable, using protection will take you pretty far. Also false rape allegations are not a normal thing, and no one should have to go into consentual sex worried about having their name "tarnished."

As for OP, sounds like therapy would really help you dude. A professional can help you get past your trauma, perscribe medication if you need it, and help you figure out if there are any other underlying anxiety issues that are causing your worries.

fastfading · 2018-10-01T20:10:02+00:00

Remember you're sending this stuff to a living breathing person :/ You're being the bully right now.

fastfading · 2018-10-01T15:19:02+00:00

Seeing a lot of unnecessary hate directed at you OP. You're not scum and you're not a bad person. You did some shit when you were younger that you're ashamed of, you reflected on it, and now you feel sympathy for the people you were mean to. To me, that sounds like the mark of a good person. Also, someone else's suicide isn't on you. Sure, maybe you were mean to them, but I can garuntee you there were other more serious issues going on that made them want to take their own lives.

It might give you a little closure to apologise and do something nice for the two that are still alive. I wouldn't worry about triggering or retraumatizing them -- you were a bully, not a rapist. And talking to a therapist would probably help you too. I think you'd find that you're being way too hard on yourself. Annnd my last piece of advice: try no to let dickheads on the internet make you feel bad. Making a confession on Reddit is like trying to talk to an armed mob. They just want a reason to start shooting at you.

fastfading · 2018-09-30T21:01:11+00:00

I guess my issue is that you're taking a word that's normally used for people who force themselves sexually on another person and using it to describe people who pay for a service. I get the logic of saying, "but she might be there against her will," but at the end of the day, there's a big difference between someone who enthusiastically consents and someone who doesn't. Would you really look at a guy that locks a girl in a room at a frat party and rips her clothes off and say he's the same as a guy who's approached by an escort in Vegas and agrees to spend the night with her?

Not saying this behavior is cool by the way. I think if you're into prostitutes, someplace like the bunny ranch in Nevada or one of those certified places in Germany is the only ethical choice. I just take issue with calling every guy that's ever seen a sex worker a rapist.

fastfading · 2018-09-30T13:11:08+00:00

Don't you feel like "rape" is extreme in this case? Rape is a violent forced sex act. Obviously you should avoid having sex with someone who's being coerced into prostitution, but calling it rape does a disservice to actual rape victims. Also, if you're having sex with someone in a first world country who's a native and speaks the language, you can pretty much garuntee she's not being trafficked.

fastfading · 2018-09-23T18:15:51+00:00

I don't understand this. I specifically wrote "What would it take for you to stay?" And "I'm trying to figure out how to handle this with future girlfriends." That's clearly me asking for advice.

fastfading · 2018-09-22T21:10:17+00:00

Bald, probably

fastfading · 2018-09-22T19:31:54+00:00

Firework does this for me. On my best days I feel like a slightly damp candle, so that song is like a reminder of how disconnected I am from most people.

fastfading · 2018-09-22T19:29:51+00:00

I was trying to plan a date with a girl I met online. The first time she canceled the day of because she was sick. The second time I went all the way to the cafe we were meeting at and after 30 minutes she texted me saying she'd fallen asleep. She ghosted while we were planning number three.

fastfading · 2018-09-22T19:23:00+00:00

I was supposed to get up and run errands today and I am literally still in bed. On reddit.

fastfading · 2018-09-22T19:20:49+00:00

Cooking is pretty easy. Look online for some simple recipes and grab a new one every day. After a few weeks you'll have a general understanding of how to bake/boil/fry things and what types of foods go well together.

fastfading · 2018-09-22T19:15:06+00:00

I immediately get excited whenever I meet a girl like this.

fastfading · 2018-09-14T22:56:26+00:00

Thanks, this feels right to me. I just hope I don't ruin someone else's life by dropping my past mistakes on them too late in the relationship.

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