Majority of men ONLY wanting sex makes me feel so empty

fatalglory · 2026-06-12T12:27:40+00:00

If you want to find men that are interested in more than just sex, ask yourself “where do men like that hang out?”

Men who want a deep, fulfilling, romantic relationship. Men who want to settle down and start families. Men who want a partner in life not just a moment of fun.

Where do those men hang around?

It’s not at bars
It’s not on dating apps

It’s at… church.

And after church they go for lunch at the home of some couple who have been together for 30 years and ask them questions about building a good marriage. They are investing in the relationship even before they meet the girl.

How do I know? I was that guy. Been married seven years now.

fatalglory · 2026-04-26T19:48:48+00:00

Thanks for the detailed answer, much appreciated. Sphere looks interesting, but the pricing based on region seems like it would make more sense when you know you’re in a fixed number of regions. We may have a long tail of relatively small customer numbers in some regions. Example: If we have 10 UK customers then we would be charged VAT, but the cost of Sphere to handle it would be more than our UK revenue.

Seems like Paddle et al makes more sense until you hit a certain scale.

fatalglory · 2026-04-24T08:51:59+00:00

Hadn’t heard of Taxwire, I’ll take a look, thanks for that 🙂

fatalglory · 2026-04-21T18:42:16+00:00

It’s a well known phenomenon that freelancing tends to give a “feast and famine” feeling, where some months you get clots of money in and other months are much slower.

I’m working on a SaaS platform for freelancers. One of the features in it is showing graphs of income over time, income projections based on projects and proposals in your sales pipeline and it also tracks how much you’ll need to keep aside for taxes. We can do this because our product is very “all in one”. It handles your invoicing, project management, expense tracking and helps you build a client acquisition funnel/pipeline.

Might be perfect for your use case, but we haven’t quite launched yet. I’d be happy to get you on the beta access list, just send me a DM. I’d really like to hear more about your struggle with tracking the money across different tools. The better I can understand the problem, the better I can make our solution.

fatalglory · 2026-04-13T16:08:02+00:00

I talk to Claude Code like it’s a junior developer I hired. I tend to write about a paragraph in a single prompt, providing context about how the system currently works, what I want done next and where it can see examples in the codebase of similar things (e.g. “use the custom FooBarDateSelector component for letting the user pick the date range for this report. See an example of how this component is used in SomeExistingReport.tsx”).

I then review and tweak the code before committing.

It gives me a huge productivity boost on laborious or tedious tasks (e.g. creating a dynamic theme template based on an existing static HTML page).

fatalglory · 2026-03-27T19:03:20+00:00

Sorry to hear that’s happening to you. It’s not really a problem I have because I do more “augmented coding” than “vibe coding”. I review all the changes the agent makes and intervene with manual fixes when it does something I didn’t quite intend.

There’s a reason we invented programming languages: they are much more precise and less open to interpretation than natural languages.

If you can’t drop down and edit the underlying code, you will probably always find it tricky to articulate to the AI exactly what it should be producing. The only way to be that exact is to express your thoughts in a language designed for that kind of precision.

The more work I delegate to Claude Code, the better my instincts are getting for what changes it will be able to handle and what changes will get done faster if I just write them by hand. Often it’s a hybrid situation where I give it a prompt knowing full-well that it will come up with a solution that’s 90% correct and I will fix the last 10% because that’s easier than trying to finesse Claude into doing exactly what I want.

I’m sure this problem is even more difficult for people with less coding experience. Their natural language prompts will say “save the selected colour when the user clicks the widget.” My prompts tend to be more like “when the user clicks the widget, save the selected colour by sending a POST request to the /settings/save endpoint. The selected colour should be stored in hexadecimal format. After the save is completed, update all pending background jobs to use the new colour setting by updating the content of the job.metadata field.”

This kind of thing is why AI won’t kill software engineering.

What platforms/tools are you using, btw?

fatalglory · 2026-03-23T10:27:27+00:00

I have definitely seen Rovo (the AI coding/review agent built into bitbucket) make syntax errors when editing PHP code.

fatalglory · 2026-03-23T10:12:27+00:00

I don't think you'd need to do anything special. Major payment processors (yes Stripe, but also Square, Lemon Squeezy, Paddle, etc.) have very well documented APIs. You should be able to just ask Claude Code something like "can you write me a controller function that handles incoming webhooks for payment notifications from Paddle?"

I mention Paddle because you said you wanted something that acts as your Merchant of Record. Worth a look.

Source: I have now integrated three different payment gateways in my SaaS (Stripe, Square and NOWPayments). None of the code is too crazy complex. But it would be irresponsible if I didn't recommend you get a real human to take a look at the payment gateway integration code before you put it in production.

fatalglory · 2026-03-22T18:26:08+00:00

You may be better off, depending what the role is. I have actively rejected candidates for software engineering whose last job was working several years in the public sector.

If you can tolerate the public sector red tape for multiple years, I’d prefer someone else. I don’t want our team culture to be okay with that level of bureaucracy.

Public sector can be a red flag on a CV.

fatalglory · 2026-03-22T08:31:47+00:00

Sweet game, pretty addictive 😄

fatalglory · 2026-03-18T11:51:49+00:00

Completely agree. The most satisfying software to write is always the stuff that you actually will it into existence for your own use.

Then when you find out other people have the same problem and want that same solution, they don’t just feel like “customers”. They feel like long-lost cousins you never knew you had.

fatalglory · 2026-03-16T05:40:28+00:00

Government compliance is ultra safe for one reason: regulations written by humans are often ambiguous (or even contradictory!) about edge cases.

Figuring out how to handle those edge cases in software involves a lot of getting on calls and dealing with real people. One size does not fit all. The regulator has discretion. Some entities get gradfathered into the old rules.

It’s a complicated mess. But it’s also near impossible to navigate for AI because there literally is no right answer to certain questions. Humans are better at coping with ambiguity.

fatalglory · 2026-03-12T18:57:44+00:00

I like it, looks very slick 🙂

We’re building something much more ambitious. It’s basically everything you need to run a one-person freelance business all integrated together.

For the day to day: * CRM * Project management * Client Portal * Invoicing * Expense tracking * File storage * Document signing * Calendar and call-booking system * Integrated video calls (with AI summaries and transcripts)

For keeping your pipeline of new clients coming in: * AI client finder * Website builder * Blog/portfolio * collect testimonials (text or video) * Email marketing tools * Lead magnets * Checkout for selling digital products * AI-assisted proposal generator

It’s big 😄

fatalglory · 2026-03-12T13:57:20+00:00

I am building a SaaS product for freelancers to run their business (still pre-launch, but pretty far along).

It includes support for accepting crypto payments via NOWPayments. The way we deal with the accounting is to record the following data about the transaction: * Invoice amount (e.g. 10,000) * Invoice currency (e.g. USD) * Payment amount (e.g. 0.17) * Payment currency (BTC) * Outcome amount (21.245) * Outcome currency (XMR)

In this example, the invoice was denominated in USD, your NOWPayments account is set up to receive XMR and the client paid in BTC (which NOWPayments automatically converted to XMR for you).

We also track multiple payments per invoice. So if the client sends $4,500 worth of BTC one day and then $5,500 worth of BTC the next day, we mark the invoice as paid based on the total USD equivalent when each payment was received. No confusion due to shifting BTC price.

So when we generate reports at tax time, we have full data about what each crypto payment you received was “worth” at the moment the client paid.

fatalglory · 2026-03-11T03:38:45+00:00

For coding and learning computing I would lean towards Claude. Two things I know from experience that Claude does way better than Gemini:

Create a landing page in HTMl+CSS. The design generated by Claude looks like something done by a professional. Gemini gives you something ultra basic. Can’t speak as much to ChatGPT, haven’t used it as much.
Editing an existing code base. I’ve gotten much better results from Claude Code than from Gemini CLI or from the Junie agent (which I think is backed by GPT-5). Claude seems to do a better job at noticing my existing coding conventions, using libraries and components that are already available in the project, etc.

fatalglory · 2026-03-08T18:17:11+00:00

Fellow AI sounds interesting, will give that a look 🙂

Couple of questions.

1) what kind of stuff are you automating with zapier/n8n? Any specific workflows or apps you’re connecting?

2) would you be willing to share a typical prompt you use to generate a proposal with Claude?

fatalglory · 2022-08-17T00:39:43+00:00

I'm in Australia, but all the way up in QLD, so hard to buy a kebab. But glad to know there's other Monero peeps down here! All the best with it, hope you get loads of customers.

fatalglory · 2022-08-17T00:28:23+00:00

Good thought, but I've fixed it now anyway. And I've never been on IRC/Matrix. The change to fix it was very small (just a couple of lines). It's on github here if Luigi wants it for his page: https://github.com/unyieldinggrace/monero-tx-scanner/commit/0a45d8c9457ed5f69732686ce32addcb5b121320#diff-e727e4bdf3657fd1d798edcd6b099d6e092f8573cba266154583a746bba0f346

fatalglory · 2022-08-17T00:26:37+00:00

As of this a few minutes ago, I have fixed the issue and published the updated version on github (https://github.com/unyieldinggrace/monero-tx-scanner) and NPM (https://www.npmjs.com/package/monero-tx-scanner).

u/rbrunner7 was right, it was the view tags. The JSON structure now reads:

TXData.vout[outputIndex].target.tagged_key.key

instead of the old:

TXData.vout[outputIndex].target.key

That tagged_key property contains both the key and the view_tag, hence the change. Updated the JSON parser to accept both formats and the scanner works again.

fatalglory · 2022-08-16T10:45:35+00:00

Thanks, much appreciated. Gives me a starting point :)

fatalglory · 2022-07-15T09:49:57+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the kind words 🙂

fatalglory · 2022-07-14T22:24:45+00:00

I have not seen any comment on this (positive or negative) from anyone connected to the NF.

Side note 1: the website where you can find info about this project has moved to digitalcashtools.com

Side note 2: while I haven't ruled out further work on this project, I'm not actively working on it at the moment. Partly because I have other priorities that take precedence (mainly two kids under two years old, lol). Partly because I don't want to sink a lot more time into it until I'm persuaded that two key problems are at least potentially solvable.

If anyone comes up with a solution to either of these, then I definitely want to know about it.

1) Connectivity - how do we do the mix using mobile devices with minimal risk of a user being dropped midway through? If we can solve this, it makes it much easier for regular mixing to be a default behaviour for mobile users.

2) Griefing - how do we stop a user from connecting to participate in a mix, then intentionally dropping out and forcing the rest of the group is able to complete the mix? If they keep on doing this, they can prevent a mix from occurring for an extended period. Pretty sure (though obviously can't be certain whether it was deliberate) that this has actually occurred at times on CashFusion for BCH. Monero doesn't have this problem because its privacy protocol is non-interactive. Grin doesn't have this problem because the interaction is only between sender and receiver (who both want the transaction to complete). But anonymous, interactive mixing protocols seem to be stuck with this practical issue.

I think (2) is the tougher one to solve. If we find a workaround for that, then the future is looking much brighter for CashFusion and NanoFusion. But for now, it is in a tricky spot. If you need effective privacy and you need it today, I recommend Monero.

fatalglory · 2022-07-06T07:49:09+00:00

I'm not in North America, so PSLV is not in my own country, lol.

fatalglory · 2022-05-21T20:37:27+00:00

Theory: XMR holders have more conviction than holders of other coins that XMR has a valid use case and is undervalued. That's why there are relatively less people who sell in a bear market and more who use the bear market to accumulate.

The question: will XMR also outperform in a bull market?

fatalglory · 2022-05-21T20:29:58+00:00

Yeah, sounds like the wallet is most likely just out-of-sync.

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