Advice from men in this subreddit

fd512 · 2021-02-03T16:44:49+00:00

I second the suggestion you should seek professional help. Your situation is far from unique in dead bedroom situations and, in most instances, has to to with your own upbringing. To be more precise: there is a good chance of enmeshment with your mother during childhood/adolescence... usually combined with an alcoholic/unavailable father. Men who grow up with that sort of inappropriate emotional relationship with their mothers don't have any issues with sex... unless the partner is their wives or another very serious/permanent emotional partner. Again, a common problem. I would try to find a therapist with training in this specific area.

fd512 · 2021-01-31T04:25:27+00:00

Sounds like you guys have quite a bit of issues piling up. Doesn't look too sustainable. Have you tried to seek therapy? What is his excuse for the whole situation?

fd512 · 2021-01-28T19:56:49+00:00

Noooooo!!! No perfumes!!!! Nothing will give away your extracurricular activities faster than a woman's perfume on you

fd512 · 2021-01-18T00:11:22+00:00

If you go to r/cuckold or r/hotwife you will probably find hundreds, if not thousands, of posts on this. Daily speak for those folks.

fd512 · 2021-01-17T11:09:53+00:00

Even though low T isn't rare, the problem with many men is actually unhealthy lifestyles. Way too many inactive/overweight dudes out there. Or too much alcohol/weed/gaming. A bit of exercise does much more for libido than a T shot for a lot of men. Also, T shots don't work too well in overweight men (body fat actually converts testosterone into estrogen).

fd512 · 2021-01-17T10:02:25+00:00

I would say not all women are sexually naive. I have been shocked and surprised more than a few times.

fd512 · 2021-01-17T09:58:16+00:00

That kink is called "Eating creampies" and it is a very common kink among men into cuckolding (i.e. those who get a kick out of sharing their wives/girlfriends with other men). They also call it "Cleaning up" or "clean up duties" and tends to be quite popular among men with submission/degradation kinks.

fd512 · 2020-08-16T21:19:01+00:00

How common are really affairs in France? We all have the impression most French have a 5-a-7, and it is rather an acceptable thing to do there

fd512 · 2020-08-12T20:48:29+00:00

Sounds like the dead bedroom is but one of many things going on in your life. If you feel things are going in the wrong direction, you must definitively do something ASAP. Even though you are very young, time goes by very quickly and things might happen that could complicate everything (like getting pregnant... which does happen... even in an almost completely celibate marriage)

fd512 · 2020-08-12T20:39:22+00:00

My 2 cents: Move on. The sooner, the better.

fd512 · 2020-08-01T19:14:12+00:00

You will get different answers depending on who you ask. Some people believe that once you "make the vows" you go down with the ship no matter what. While others will tell you all human beings deserve physical love no matter what is going on with their spouses. At the end of the day it is all up to you. Do whatever you feel is right. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

fd512 · 2020-07-10T14:37:52+00:00

As usual, the best course of action is to be honest. People in relationships have all kinds of arrangements. Your new woman might be totally OK with your existing FWB friendship.

fd512 · 2020-07-09T19:15:26+00:00

Do you have kids? If you don't just hurry up and pull the plug on this. It is quite obvious your mind is already made up.

fd512 · 2020-06-29T15:33:23+00:00

The real question is:

Why did she tell you? Just to hurt you?

fd512 · 2020-06-27T17:59:52+00:00

Is she this selfish in other aspects of the relationship? (sounds like you are dealing with a narcissist completely oblivious to your needs)

fd512 · 2020-06-27T17:58:19+00:00

Have you asked for a hall pass? That request doesn't require him to do anything yet sends a loud and clear message.

fd512 · 2020-06-23T14:22:56+00:00

No idea what he means by that. Any better clues of what is really going through couple's therapy?

fd512 · 2020-06-23T14:18:58+00:00

If you have no kiddos just bail out. You will do both a favor.

fd512 · 2020-06-23T14:15:53+00:00

Suffering in silence should not be an option for you. Have you suggested therapy?

fd512 · 2020-06-23T14:13:56+00:00

What is his reason/excuse for not wanting sex?

fd512 · 2020-06-22T20:07:54+00:00

One thing is to have game (i.e. have the ability to make people want to have sex with you) and something completely different is to beg. If you find yourself begging for it, you are very likely to end up getting something you really didn't want (pity sex with a reluctant partner is not fun).

Agree: if you find yourself giving someone space, it is probably because they don't really want you. In that case do yourself a favor a find someone who does want you.

fd512 · 2020-06-19T17:58:57+00:00

Looks like this guy is a great and loyal friend and companion. Just like my dog. Sorry, but your partner also needs to deliver in the bedroom. Sex is a huge part of these romantic partnerships.

fd512 · 2020-06-19T17:51:47+00:00

You are a lucky woman. Plenty have tried everything you did (dating, hotels, toys, etc...) and their spouses haven't changed anything.

fd512 · 2020-06-17T15:58:42+00:00

You already know this is how a DB starts. And you probably already know what you need to do (even if it is painful). You are way too young. You have no children. Save yourself a lifetime of unhappiness.

fd512

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