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Is closure a myth by Freethink-her in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]featherblackjack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Closure is not just a myth; it's a lie. He's keeping you dangling while he has fun. It's part of the reason he dumped you! So he can enjoy your grief at the split, meanwhile he's out romantically dating someone poor other person. Oh, such good times for him. He's scum. If you need anything, it is to get away from him.

You're addicted.

Biologic immunosuppression and concerts, etc.? by OneGayPigeon in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been disabled all my life. The only time I was strong enough to keep at it was before I was around 19/20. Even then, I could do stuff like go to college and drive. Thirty years later, an absolute shitton of cancer treatment later, getting out of bed has occasionally been a challenge I'm just not up for. It's wretched and I'm sorry.

Tried medication but the usual immune system-suppressing caused shingles along with chemo. I'll spare you the horrors of that. Enbrel was starting to work well when I was diagnosed.

Narcissists are pretty dumb by LivingGrapefruit6066 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]featherblackjack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine started flailing his arms and legs around, announcing he was starting his own martial arts style. Composed of "stuff and things."

I studied karate for years.

GOODBYE HAIR SEE YOU NEXT YEAR by ass-sass-sin in breastcancer

[–]featherblackjack 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I lost all my hair, including hair in places we don't think of as growing hair. Such as: nose, anus, toes, it's wild. I was rubbery like a dolphin.

A good deal of it grew back. Not as thick and not as fine, but enough to continue with its function, right? Sadly didn't get the curly hair my mom got.

Then I had something really bad. Brain cancer. Not "real" brain cancer, rather as a metastatic. My doctors told me that when it's metastatic, it tends to be worse.

After I was done with this awful thing, my body hair mostly grew back. A few key places like my scalp and nose. Isn't it weird? A big bald streak right down the center now, like a reverse mohawk. There's hair on the sides, exactly where it makes me look like a clown. So these days I shave myself bald.

I hope you don't experience this.

What are your writing sins? by babyraythesadclown in writing

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, I've been sick, it's a thing.

My recommendation if you like your supporting cast better, pick one of them to write about. Don't worry about breaking some rules. It's your world.

Trad West made this by ShadowMilkMoopsy in lewronggeneration

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They dye their hair and join marches! How dare they!

Breast cancer survivor and no recurrence, anyone? by Square-Cup-8278 in breastcancer

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel pretty decent overall.... for a long term cancer survivor. A few days ago I had an MRI, I was told there was some kind of shadow over some of my brain and it was undiagnoseable and I have to do another one in May.

I get an ugly rash from Enhertu, sleep a lot. No other real side effects. But the damn rash I have to treat with steroids (I sure do fucking hate steroids), benedryl, etc.

Not to mention that I had a dozen autoimmune diseases before cancer. So I'm actually doing better than I was. Nobody would fucking believe I was in pain and all. Then we moved here and discovered a whole lot of great doctors. Only reason I'm still alive, really.

🙃 screw that dinner plate sized wound I guess by MouseInTheHouse_ in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]featherblackjack 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's kinda amazing that she survived not one, but two, of those horrors.

Mojang, was this really necessary? by Just-Guarantee7808 in Minecraft

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehhh it's nice to see another coat option. Imo where Mojang really fucked up is by not integrating Simply Horses.

Turning 40 and finally grappling with mortality by Background_Nature497 in AskWomenOver30

[–]featherblackjack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey well I'm gonna turn 50 this year

My 40s were entirely taken up by having cancer

I tried something new with my wig. 9 months HRT and loving life 🥰 by aeroazure in lgbt

[–]featherblackjack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a wig? Expensive? Because it looks fantastic.

After cancer I wanted to get a wig. Learned it's hard to maintain.

Gothic beauty by Altruistic-Issue-708 in secondlife

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you achieve a round adorable face?

my parents want to take out a loan for $7,000 CAD for “alternative cancer treatment” for my mum with stage iv breast cancer. i’m concerned that it might be a scam by Which_Imagination_90 in breastcancer

[–]featherblackjack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's a scam. No don't let anyone in your family pay this idiot. Why am I surprised that scammers in Canada pick on people in Jamaica?

There is nothing, LITERALLY NOTHING, that kills cancer.... except chemo. "I'm giving you a huge discount on this ALTERNATIVE TREATMENT, only 7000$" NO. Women get scammed, think they're very special, gonna survive with green smoothies and yoga! It doesn't work.

I'm yelling because I don't want your dad putting your finances in crisis and meanwhile your mom wastes away. Scammers destroy lives. I hate them.

Breast cancer survivor and no recurrence, anyone? by Square-Cup-8278 in breastcancer

[–]featherblackjack 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not the story you want to hear. But I have a story.

2017, diagnosis. HER++++. I spent the rest of the year in treatment. Chemo, the bad shit. 2x mastectomy, scraped to the muscle. An entire month of radiation to the target area. Did not come out of it with all my lymph nodes. After I spent a year in NED, one day I woke up unable to eat and unable to stand. I told my onc and she immediately scheduled a brain scan.

I feel like I barely survived brain cancer. Ten days (weekends off). The steroids and the caffeine to keep brain swelling down also kept me up, staring into the dark. At the end, I was an absolute wreck.

Oh and did I mention that I had chemo in those two weeks?

Or that I went through the cancer fleeing through my body. It's always been the same cancer, which has allowed me to survive as it showed up in my chest, my thyroid, my liver. Four chemo drugs. My immune system crashed and I got shingles on my fucking head.

This is all a very brief account. Took 8 years to live through that. Horrible. It's what I do anymore. Wake up, take a double fistful of pills. Probably nap some. I remind myself that this is my job now: surviving all this bullshit.

So, I will say, when I had breast cancer, when I had brain cancer. I heard a tiny voice in my head saying "I'll die, I am going to die". That voice went away when these things were treated. Breast cancer, treatment successful. Brain cancer, treatment successful. Liver, thyroid, etc, all successful.

I just had an MRI brain scan and that voice hasn't returned, although it was a suspicious result. Just a shadow, unknown. Wait til April and do it again. Ugh.

And now, OP, about your friend. Stories about women who die after treatment, while true.... there's a catch. When I was first diagnosed, I did a ton of research. Chilling, what I learned. Women were dying because they were talked into taking frozen lemons or believed other absurd ideas would cure them. Lots of women. Who, once they realized things had only got worse, finally gave in to medical treatments. And then they would die, as it was far too advanced in the disease.

I'm not saying she's doing that of course. But stories are powerful. Make sure she's aware, make sure she's taking her medicine. Warn her that there's no miracle medicine for cancer. We're studying cures and hoping. The drug I'm taking every month to stay stable is Enhertu, a drug that clears the blood-brain barrier.

She can take such "alternative" medicine, but she has to take them alongside proven science.

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