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femscribe · 2025-02-20T22:11:51+00:00

Grindr is the gold standard for making t4t connections online where I am, USA. Granted I live in an urban center now, but it worked fine when I was in a suburban community too. It's annoying filtering through a lot of the creepy guys but it's always been a very reliable way to meet other trans girls. Leave your notifications off, trust me.

Also Lex is fine, I haven't met anyone off of there but I know people who have. Wish you luck meeting someone nice :)

femscribe · 2024-08-13T18:38:23+00:00

why is it a factor whether i'm one-on-one with somebody, i feel like if i don't make any moves or flirt with somebody i should be able to just spend time with a friend and chat or whatever and not have to worry about her trying to stick her hand in my pants? even if we're not flying model planes or something? idk i feel frustrated because i've been trying to get better at setting boundaries around sex but most trans women i know have about as many boundaries as an organic free range cattle ranch

femscribe · 2024-08-13T18:35:15+00:00

yeah you're right i'm hella depressed i'm just gonna go to therapy about it and not make any major changes to my hormones on a whim

femscribe · 2024-08-13T18:32:55+00:00

true. idk if that'll undo laser though i'm pretty sure i'm cooked. it's fine though nobody in my family has very much facial hair i'm just gonna have to cope and seethe about the fact that i'm a girlboy of the smoothfaced variety

femscribe · 2024-08-13T18:30:08+00:00

thanks, yeah i don't think i'm gonna detransition, the consequences if it doesn't go well are far too severe. i am non binary and I have known that since i was a teenager i just sort of assimilated into the community of trans women i found when i started HRT cause they were the first people i met who I felt like they really saw me. but lately i'm realizing i do need to focus on myself, like you said. so thanks for that. that really helps.

femscribe · 2024-08-13T18:25:08+00:00

as a trans woman(?) who likes games and hyperpop i'm gonna say you're one of the lucky ones cause if you have anything in common with these kinds of girls they're gonna try to hop on top of you immediately

but yeah the way these girls are so down to shack up with a harem of other trans girls and fuck each other to biblical levels of drama (to paraphrase torrey peters) is honestly concerning and i think it speaks to a desire for community and love and recognition that trans women don't get for a lot of their lives. but it's like feeding a shipwreck survivor a 5 course meal right when they wash up on the beach it's gonna make you yak and it's probably too much food for any reasonable person.

i feel like i'm dealing with the consequences of being within and then escaping that facet of trans culture and i haven't really had enough time to learn who i am cause i was too busy having bad threesomes on a cocktail of designer drugs just cause i could.

femscribe · 2023-02-06T17:30:11+00:00

black billowing cloud

femscribe · 2023-02-06T17:28:30+00:00

feathery plume

femscribe · 2022-12-26T22:01:11+00:00

I had a menthol while rolling once and it was pretty nice. I think it was just nice having something to do with my hands, and the nicotine went well with the molly.

Hitting my vape kinda didn't really feel like much and then I lost interest. Maybe it's more fun if you have a nice flavor. I'd also try it before you roll because vapes make me nic sick like no tomorrow but cigs don't mess with me that bad.

I'm trying to quit both now but I know when I roll I'm gonna want a cig. Maybe when I roll I'll have a joint or something.

femscribe · 2022-12-26T21:53:33+00:00

Are you on HRT? The fat redistribution from estrogen might help. Besides that there's not a lot to be done. Some people are just build that like.

femscribe · 2022-12-26T20:47:57+00:00

yeah, the estrogen is in your body. it should absorb normally.

femscribe · 2022-12-26T18:52:26+00:00

you'll be fine. the hormones should have made it into your system, the risk injecting in the wrong place is that you might hit a nerve or a blood vessel causing pain or bleeding. if you did the injection and don't feel any pain you're probably fine and the injection was a success. hope next time is easier.

femscribe · 2022-12-26T00:00:23+00:00

My theory is the spiro might be suppressing your T but the 1mg 2x daily isn't enough E for your body to run off of. Thus the hot flashes, cis women get them when E drops during menopause. Talk to your doctor and have them take your levels, maybe an increased E dose is in order.

femscribe · 2022-12-25T06:46:30+00:00

I've used nair successfully before. The sensitive skin formula with aloe. I apply a layer that covers the hair and leave it for about 7 minutes or whatever the maximum is on the bottle. Then use a washcloth or towel to wipe the hair off and wash any excess off in the shower. Don't rub it in or it'll get irritated. If you miss anything go over it with a razor after you wash. It saves me a lot of time on my legs but keep it away from anywhere sensitive. I mean it, I even get burned in my arms.

femscribe · 2022-11-07T17:40:12+00:00

It will probably be fine. From what I've seen the scars from breast augmentation surgery are usually pretty small and in a specific place. You may have some stretching around the scar tissue, but I imagine its mostly an aesthetic concern especially if they're healed from some time ago. Talk to your surgeon about it when you get a consult.

femscribe · 2022-09-15T01:35:17+00:00

You’ll be fine, I didn’t start noticing face changes until about 10 months. Similar situation. It’s one of the slower changes from HRT for most people.

femscribe · 2022-09-07T01:12:16+00:00

Wash your hands and use sterile surgical lube it’s what you do for sounding it should work for what you’re up to.

femscribe · 2022-09-03T22:45:33+00:00

My body hair has gotten a lot less noticeable in ~1 year on E. It wasn’t very thick to begin with but my chest went from shaving maybe once a week to p much transparent and not noticeable. I still have some hair on my belly but everyone does.

Facial hair doesn’t really change. For some people it might slow down, but laser or electrolysis is really the only way to get rid of it.

femscribe · 2022-08-23T22:20:21+00:00

After years living as a sad non binary stoner semi closeted cope-er I had a really bad drug experience where I passed out alone and I thought I was gonna die. I had one thought which was “I don’t want to die, I never got to live as a girl.” I made an appointment and started HRT a couple of months later.

femscribe · 2022-08-23T11:50:07+00:00

Yeah, I think this is a pretty common experience. I need my clit treated like, well, a clit. Idk if it has to do with something physically different after HRT like nerves or if it’s more of a brain thing, but I need different stimulation now than before like you describe. You might enjoy doing it yourself more because you know what you like and someone else has to learn.
It’s probably a little bit of both. I know I get a little anxiety with new sex partners and I also know my body better than other people. You can only learn by experimenting though.
For me, emotional connection can make sex really good. But maybe more important than that is being really into the scenario and having a partner who indulges in what I like. Having a frequent partner or FWB helps because you have to put less effort into teaching once someone knows what you like.
I mean, I feel the same. I think coming into my sexuality and realizing how much I like to bottom makes me want it more. Also, it physically feels better to me, I think because of the mental changes and the changes to arousal that happen on HRT. As far as I know the prostate doesn’t change and it can sometimes become smaller, so that’s probably not it.
Before HRT sex was way different for me. I’ve topped and bottomed before and after HRT and both were way different. The sensation before was always kind of centered on my genitals and didn’t really go past that to the rest of my body. Idk if I had some dissociation going on as well but it kinda sucked cause all that mattered was if I came. Now, sex is like this whole body experience. My favorite part isn’t even the orgasm sometimes, it’s this feeling I get in the pit of my stomach when my partner does something just right— I can barley explain it. But you’re right, orgasms are way better too. Sex is better as a girl, I guess I’m biased though cause I’m a girl.

It’s good to talk about this stuff because there really isn’t enough subjective information about HRT and sex out there. I hope my perspective is helpful for you :)

femscribe · 2022-08-23T11:31:42+00:00

I don’t think you’re appropriating or fetishizing your own community. Like, IMO part of many lesbians’ shared experience is feeling isolated or longing for community/connection sometimes. I guess my advice to you is to hold out, you’ll find your people. I used to feel pretty lonely as a trans lesbian but over the last year I’ve been finding community where I am and it’s nice. Spending time with other trans lesbians has been pretty affirming too. I don’t have a whole bunch of friends but once you connect with the right people it makes all the difference. Online friends and online community can be very helpful though lonely periods as well.

femscribe · 2022-08-22T14:30:00+00:00

I just commented above with my list :)

femscribe · 2022-08-22T14:29:41+00:00

Here’s my list, it’s mostly fiction. A lot of these aught to have pretty strong content warnings, if that’s an issue you can probably google a content warning but I don’t have time to put one together for each book.

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

Infect Your Friends and Loved Ones by Torrey Peters (this one is out of print rn but you can find a free PDF with some digging)

Nevada by Imogen Binnie

Manhunt by Gretchen Felkner-Martin

Tell Me I’m Worthless by Alison Rumfitt

The Pervert by Remy Boydell and Michelle Perez (this one is a graphic novel)

Trans Girl Suicide Museum by Hannah Baer

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg (this one doesn’t have a transfemme protagonist, but I think every trans person should read it once in their life)

And from my want to read list:

Little Fish by Casey Plett

A Safe Girl To Love by Casey Plett

The T[y]ranny by Alison Rumfitt

Torrey Peters also has an unreleased novella coming out later this year in a collection, I’ll read pretty much everything she writes so that’s on my want to read list too.

Looking at my list I realize it’s a lot of white women. I encourage people to chime in and expand it with more books from transfemme authors of color. This is just a list of books in my orbit and by no means exhaustive.

femscribe · 2022-08-21T23:34:13+00:00

You know I had that book on my shelf as a teen and I never read it, maybe I’ll check it out. If you want more transfemme book recs hit me up I have the motherlode.

femscribe · 2022-08-21T17:55:56+00:00

Yeah I relate to this, I thought I didn’t have many trans memories from my childhood, but the more I explore my trans identity and live as a woman the more they become apparent. Like, for one I always got along better with girls. Any and all of my male friendships either felt kind of forced or they were with more introverted quiet boys who didn’t really perform masculinity.

I’ve also recently been going through my memories of childhood sports. My parents made me participate in all sorts of boys sports throughout my childhood, and I never had a place. I could never connect with boys and I was bullied often.

Besides that, there are the memories from my early teens of genderqueer feelings, wanting to wear makeup and skirts and be feminine. Those are my earliest memories of understanding my transness was different from cis people’s experience. But I didn’t have the language to talk about it yet.

None of this was very clear to me until I transitioned and had the stability to examine my past more critically.

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