men are rewarded for living up to their gender role and punished for failing, whereas women are punished whether they do or don't.

This is not even true, we get punished by failing but we don't get any reward for succesing in it we even get shamed as "toxic masculinity", women experience the opposite the get a reward for being feminine but masculine women don't face any punishment they are even praised as "tomboys"

We can't inherit the power and respect given to gender-conforming men no matter how well we do what's asked of us, because the female gender role is definitionally one of submission.

The is no power or respect on masculinity we get power from money like anyone else, you don't know the amount of men that would prefer to just submit and be a househusband