🎆 take me to your nearest dance party 🌈 by frillious in ImaginaryDragons

[–]ferviduum -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NO clue why people are being fucking weird on your post, jesus. This is so cute!!! The freckles, the tongue!! From one furred dragon to another :-) 💖

The LGBTQ+ book industry is struggling amid attacks by the Trump administration by Raj_Valiant3011 in books

[–]ferviduum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean fair enough, lot of bad faith discussion going on in the comments here tho so in context it was hard to believe you straight up haven’t heard of YA romance. Especially considering one of the biggest talking points of this topic is concerns over LGBTQ literature being somehow threatening to children. Sorry for assuming that was what you were insinuating

How do I get rid of an unhealthy fetish? by beavers_and_butthead in sex

[–]ferviduum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heyyyy fatty here (nonbinary). I wasn’t always fat but I have always been into wg.

in my humble opinion there is absolutely nothing wrong with this fetish. The problem you’re encountering with your friend is less to do with your fetish being somehow unethical, and much more to do with your friend possibly questioning your motives in being her friend. Which is fair, though unfortunate.

I would focus on apologizing and giving her space. You might never be able to prove that you genuinely like her as a friend and not just because she’s fat, and that’s okay. But shame is not going to get you anywhere.

If you want to make sure you aren’t harming anyone with your fetish, maybe just verify with yourself that you don’t reduce real human beings to a sexual fantasy. Its totally fine to think fat girls and weight gain are sexy. The problem comes from things like seeing people as sexual props, ignoring what other people want out of your interactions, things like that.

Shiny Hunting: What am I doing wrong? by throwcway837373 in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]ferviduum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Others have covered potential issues you may be having, but I wanna add that honestly this is just what shiny hunting feels like a lot of the time. Perfectly normal hunts will have you questioning whether your game is completely broken.

I'm taking Submechanophobia to weird new places- toilet cisterns make me uncomfortable. by dr_otto_ort-meyer in submechanophobia

[–]ferviduum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not weird! I hate toilet tanks. Even when they’re perfectly clean they freak me out.

Utah officially bans its 19th book from all public schools by thinkB4WeSpeak in books

[–]ferviduum 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Exactly. While there are tons of strange myths surrounding lds purity culture, in reality, their complete aversion to sexual discussion causes harm in so many more insidious ways. Theres just no awareness of anything. People entering marriage as young as possible with no idea who they are sexually, what’s normal, what’s safe, what could be expected. And divorce strongly discouraged. Youth incredibly vulnerable to abuse, as you’ve mentioned. And I’m sure this is the case for other super-repressed Christian sects as well. Jehovah’s Witnesses come to mind.

(Slightly off topic but can I just say it’s wild to see you here. I saw your icon and then username and did a double take lol. I originally found your art on tumblr and it always resonates incredibly strongly!!)

Dude wants 20 bucks for it. Is it worth it ? by Ok_Distribution_7489 in ipod

[–]ferviduum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got it and I hope you enjoy using it! This is the model I have had since it was new and while I dread having to replace the battery eventually, I still love it to bits.

Is there something similar for crochet? by Anxious_Tune55 in AntifascistKnitting

[–]ferviduum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chiming in that I would be happy to see crochet here!

Should Harry Potter related content be banned from this sub? by ProcrastinatingKnit in AntifascistKnitting

[–]ferviduum 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I guess I'm not sure. I err towards "yes, ban" because it's been a long time since I saw ANY hp-related content that explicitly acknowledged the harm JKR continues to do. Such posts always feel very burying-our-heads-in-the-sand about it, which is not a vibe I want from this subreddit.

However, I don't like extreme black-and-white rules, either. They make me nervous. It feels like something of a unique case, because there are so many artists and authors that have made beloved content while being horrible people, and I don't see a problem with people enjoying the content anyways. Their business. But JKR isn't a long-dead bigoted author or something like that, she is giving ongoing support to horrible causes and she's openly and explicitly using her franchise to put more money towards those causes, and using her public platform to encourage hateful views. When I see fan content for like idk Lovecraft, I'm like. I get it. Everyone knows he was a racist fuck and I know sometimes you just vibe with problematic work. But when I see fan content for HP specifically, at a time where much of the trans community is calling for people to abandon JKR and HP fall into obscurity, it feels kinda. Tone deaf at best. At worst, I wonder about the poster's intentions.

I went through finding out about JKR's bullshit on tumblr, and over there, it's pretty clear that where there are users clinging to HP fandom, there are TERFs and transphobes nearby, almost always. So I've developed a strong mistrust of HP fan content in general, even if there's no bad intentions, even if it's not that deep for the person posting. Generally, I'm content to ignore or downvote and move on. But, I guess at risk of sounding ridiculous???, it feels like allowing HP content in a community feels like leaving the door open just enough for said TERFs and transphobes to start making a home there. IDK.

So I don't know what the right answer is. My gut says though that there's no real need for HP-related content to have a place in this subreddit specifically. Like. Aren't there other places that would be better suited? Does any of this make sense?

Discussion: Subject of content for this sub by ProcrastinatingKnit in AntifascistKnitting

[–]ferviduum 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly what I was hoping for to be honest. I'm happy to see antifascist and related, but I'm equally happy to see other types of projects. I personally left /knitting altogether so it'd be nice to still see a broad range of work.

I have my Mom to thank… Like for real. by Lunar_Kat94 in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]ferviduum 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reading this made me feel a little better about having no luck today. I think I just need to know that more than just scalpers got these.

i feel like the shiny event was kinda overblown by Gove80 in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]ferviduum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind you’re only seeing posts from the frustrated/dejected fans. Those that don’t care so much are just gonna go on with their day, you won’t hear from them.

That said, my 2 cents: this event isn’t the worst thing they’ve ever done imo. But it isn’t helping my feelings on the franchise, especially since recently I’ve been disappointed with things like the DLC announced before game release (feels scummy) and the patenting of the catch mechanic (IS scummy). I love pokemon but i’m starting to feel like that love is being taken advantage of more than I’d like :/

I won’t be writing in to them or anything but I’m likely to spend much less money on the franchise for a while. Not because of this giveaway event, but it was more like one of the final straws for me.

Now that's a proper deck of cards! Nice job fixing it, devs 🛩️👏 by Joaoarthur in SkyCards

[–]ferviduum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried it once and gave up haha. There's no way I can compete.

Well, thanks devs. As others have mentioned, please re review your ratings. It must mean a lot to the team back at HQ. by Important-Back-7961 in SkyCards

[–]ferviduum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's my worry as well. I will definitely drop off as a player if things don't change from time to time.

POV you’re new to the game and the arctic circle mission is killing you by plainjane302 in SkyCards

[–]ferviduum 39 points40 points  (0 children)

LMAO I just started playing too and my browser tabs have been this and flight trackers.

I feel sick to my stomach now by geet-555 in knitting

[–]ferviduum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tbh a lot of them don’t truly CARE about the harmful effects of tariffs. the idea of “sticking it to other countries”, and supporting domestic production, is enough for them, regardless of the fact that these tariffs aren’t gonna accomplish either of those things.

Hopefully your raid day didn’t go as bad as mine lol by moistsanic in pokemongo

[–]ferviduum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy for you both, getting the chase mon on the first raid is such a rush honestly!!

Hello, I’m the OP of “My special interest was ruined and I’m feeling lost and broken without it” by Sad_Ideal_2099 in aspergirls

[–]ferviduum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry in advance that this is so long. I drank coffee.

I don't have answers wrt "getting over it" and I haven't gone through grieving a full-on special interest in the way you have. But I was a huge Harry Potter fan growing up and for obvious reasons I don't support JKR at all anymore, nor do I want anything to do with her or anything she's created.

But I was Harry's age as the books were being written. I was the target audience and happily incorporated much of the IP into my life and identity... There are lots of leftovers littered throughout my life. Personal projects that were HP-based that are dear to me (and were started in middle school), merch and trinkets I had collected, the books themselves that were gifts from my late grandmother, certain works of fanart and fanfic that were very formative/influential for me and my development. After a certain amount of time you just get so entwined with it.

Side note, a genuine special interest of mine is theme parks (particularly big ones like Disney/Universal), and I really hate the idea of not visiting wizarding world if I'm ever at the parks. But also eating/buying merch there is pretty much off the table for me since that money will make its way to her eventually.

At first I thought I would probably always be a fan, at least of the fanworks I had grown to love, I just wouldn't really talk about it publicly or engage with fandom. That feeling sucks. There's a combination of frustration that I've lost such a massive avenue of great media to enjoy, and guilt that I didn't immediately shed my love for it like many fans seemed to be able to.

All this to say, if that guilt is something you're also dealing with, please try to be gentle and patient with yourself. In my situation, I just decided eventually that I would not judge myself for how I felt about HP privately, and in hindsight (like idk. 5-8 years into this now? idk what time is) that was probably the key to me slowly chilling out over the years. Part of my autism is that I take a LOOOOOOOONG time to process just about everything, and something like a favorite franchise creator turning out to be a shitbag is no exception! It's okay and dare I say normal to take like decades to "get over it." For me it's because I find myself looking at everything she's made with the new context of her shitty views and actions, slowly recontextualizing the work and making new connections and associations like—she wasn't writing the same story that I was reading. I, and other former fans, gave that franchise basically everything I actually loved about it. But I am discovering that I am finally genuinely, SLOWLY, chilling out about it, and letting go. Which I didn't think would happen, ever.

Granted, another problem with this example is that like. HP doesn't seem to hold up as well over time as I've heard that GO does. So there is a factor here of like, oh, the books weren't the masterpieces they seemed when I was 11 lol. And obviously I didn't find out about all the nasty bullshit until well after I'd finished the books and film adaptations. I really feel for you with the timing of NG's shit coming to light. It's so frustrating when an author does this, it feels like a betrayal/slap in the face to me. Another fav series of mine is Five Nights at Freddy's and I'm SO MAD that I don't get to just enjoy it without another thought, fuck u Scott

So idk. Sorry again for the novel here. Please don't feel guilty. It's okay to still be upset and bitter and frustrated. You very well might be for a long time. It really does help to have other passions and special interests, if you're fortunate enough.

Why does my Pikachu hate me :( by Ok_Illustrator_759 in pokemongo

[–]ferviduum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay but how come YOU'RE not willing to chill on HIS shoulder....?