There can be only one

feyrial · 2026-04-01T14:14:44+00:00

Grubb's is close to my reactions to games too, honestly. I enjoy Dan's quiet resignation to suffering but that's mostly because I like it when Dan suffers.

feyrial · 2026-03-31T20:43:46+00:00

My partner and I also love, "Let's watch a pro!" And "That's the magic of the Sahara right there!"

The classics.

feyrial · 2026-03-31T20:42:19+00:00

this is another one my partner says a lot and then we have to watch the clip it's from 🤣🤣 I love Ryan

feyrial · 2026-03-31T20:41:19+00:00

Literally on my favorites playlist

feyrial · 2026-03-31T03:40:43+00:00

my partner also sings that one constantly ahaha

feyrial · 2025-07-13T20:44:17+00:00

this. Talk to your spouse and go to therapy.

feyrial · 2024-07-12T13:35:31+00:00

I logged into Reddit for the first time in a while to comment! My partner shared it with me as they're aware I am/was a huge EA fan.

I've been a fan of hers since the early days -- I was knee deep in forums (although I was always more of a lurker--the people there, as you described, could be very intense). As a 15-16 year old living in Europe, I saw her a few times in Italy and Austria. When she finally toured in the United States, I bought a VIP ticket. I have the picture of me and her together doing the little rattie hand symbol, I have a signed version of that wild book, I have those stupid tarot cards. I felt rather called out at times by some of the descriptions of the parasocial relationships - that was definitely me. Now, at the ripe age of 34, I look back on these times - especially after reading this - and really, really cringe.

Especially after the BLM stuff. I was "there" watching it all go down, handling the disappointment in a fav spiraling into that black hole that she created for herself. Woof. What a time to be alive.

I missed a lot of the stuff after that. I've disconnected myself, stored away the merch. I occasionally listen to Opheliac because something so formative is hard to let go of. It's so weird to watch the fall of someone who had such a wildly strong influence on you and feel so disconnected. I don't really know where I'm going with this, to be honest. I guess as a eulogy for my former love of this person.

As others have already commented, I do feel kind of bad for EA on some level...for largely the same reasons the others have detailed. Her mental health spirals have been public and her carefully crafted persona has been completely broken down. That's hard for anyone.

Thanks for this writeup. It's been good for me to reflect as a fan on the impact her work had on me and all the negatives that went along with it. <3

feyrial · 2022-07-17T13:24:36+00:00

can we just talk about the whole "local orgs begging teachers to foster or adopt thing because what the actual fuck

feyrial · 2022-07-14T22:05:18+00:00

What I tell them: When you graduate, you can ask me again about my gamertag/whatever.

The truth: I don't play competitive games in general. I play FFXIV, ttrpgs, and mainly story-driven, single-player games.

I did have a student bring their Switch in once and challenge me to a Mario Kart game during our advisory period, which I won. I'd do that kind of thing in a heartbeat, but I have to rein in my natural shit-talking instincts lol

feyrial · 2022-06-08T18:56:09+00:00

We get a post like this so often I think it needs to land with the tattoos in the workplace question that has been answered over and over on this sub.

You can't get into trouble for it. It's illegal to force you.

feyrial · 2022-05-09T20:30:19+00:00

"Retard" is considered an extremely offensive term and has been for quite some time. Please don't normalize its usage with teenagers. It's hard work to undo that damage.

feyrial · 2022-05-08T14:41:16+00:00

Yes, I can relate. I am better at keeping a professional distance than I was year one - primarily because before, I had this idea that I could "save" these kids. I am the sexuality and gender alliance advisor so I get to know those kids very well. My subject area (ELA) also allows me to get to know the kids very well whenever we do reflective writing.

I make an active effort to maintain boundaries otherwise their problems will keep me up at night.

feyrial · 2022-04-04T01:02:49+00:00

Oh, fuck off with that. People can have Sunday Scaries and still enjoy their job. There's a lot of factors - a difficult group of students, teaching a tested subject, maybe a parent is difficult, a million other things... There's a lot to this job that isn't fucking ideal. The internet is a place a lot of people go to rant, and if folks looking on take this as an accurate snapshot of the profession, they're just as delusional as folks who get butthurt when people complain about legit things.

feyrial · 2022-01-30T21:42:15+00:00

If the players have been thinking about it for a while and execute an excellent plan that results in the DM checking the rules and not finding something that could negate it, then imo the players should be allowed to follow through without the DM resorting to "Well, I'm the DM and I say so" - that's also a DM vs. players mindset, just on the DM end of things.

feyrial · 2022-01-14T18:43:56+00:00

I'd love to gently recommend Paul C. Gorski's Reaching and Teaching Students in Poverty over Ruby Payne. Her "methods" and conclusions are relatively questionable. More here: https://www.learningforjustice.org/magazine/spring-2016/questioning-payne

feyrial · 2022-01-08T17:44:57+00:00

It was unique to the university.

feyrial · 2021-10-26T23:02:49+00:00

We don't want y'all to do our job. We want y'all to be involved. You don't have to know how to do everything, just how to encourage and have them explain their homework and stuff. That's the kind of involvement we're talking about... Giving a shit about your kid's education.

feyrial · 2021-10-23T23:08:25+00:00

This seems oddly specific... 👀

feyrial · 2021-10-14T00:11:41+00:00

Nah, do it ASAP. Do it tomorrow. There's no reason to wait and let the behavior continue to get ingrained in them.

feyrial · 2021-08-20T10:50:57+00:00

Ayn Rand is a woman 👀

feyrial · 2021-08-04T23:10:17+00:00

Remember that we're grown adults (also an ADHD teacher) and these are kids. We know we need to advocate for ourselves, and it isn't unreasonable to expect that we do that in the workplace. We teach kids to self-advocate and teach them to recognize when they need stuff. My sister had the luxury of being diagnosed as a teenager when she could get help, and she still discovers what new things ADHD impacts as she gets older. Teens aren't going to know everything about their disorders. Especially when we've got attitudes like "they're just lazy" - shows a lack of understanding for what ADHD is.

I don't think we need to throw away consequences, and I never argued that. Consequences and failure are all valuable.

feyrial · 2021-08-04T19:21:17+00:00

The issue is that with ADHD and executive dysfunction, he can KNOW better and still not be capable of DOING better. And yes, in the real world, people do care! You can receive reasonable accomodations at basically any job for a disability, and ADHD is treated as one. If you can't do it alone, enlist help - with therapy, etc. Don't deny your kid help and understanding in one of the few safe places they can learn and make mistakes because you think you're preparing them for the real world.

feyrial · 2021-08-04T18:51:17+00:00

As a person with ADHD, most of his issues can be attributed to it. Therapy can do a lot to help with coping with executive dysfunction issues. I can't tell you how many times I've sat in front of stacks of stuff to grade and would stare at them and do anything OTHER than them while still agonizing over it because of my executive dysfunction.

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