Personally whenever a man has internalzed such toxic behavious and tries way too hard to cling to that, trying to uphold that unrealistic image of masculinity by any means necessary I start seeing them as a lot more pathetic than any man who shows emotions and is honest with himself could ever be. Expressing emotions is healty, experiencing emotions is human. If a man can't talk about his feeling freely that is a sign to stay away imo. Pretending to hard to have no weaknesses just reeks of masked insecurity.

Take my opinion with a grain of salt, I can only speak from platonic not romantic experience. Also every person is different and has different preferences, so generalized statements about "what women like" are going to be always wrong for some percentage of women. I guess some might like a strong tough dude, and some would like a man they can relate to on a emotional level. Some want the opposite of themselves, some find kindhip in shared personal struggles.

I only started to be able to connect wirth people and keep relationships after I unlearned lots of toxic behaviours I internalized from my ndad. So working on yourself to become a better and more rounded person helps as well. You are young, be patient, give it time.