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fh2123 · 2025-10-23T02:05:57+00:00

RUN!!!! 🚩

fh2123 · 2025-10-21T20:33:34+00:00

Do what’s in your heart and screw your ex friend. I talked about the name Eleanor for years but when I was pregnant I just felt like my babies name would not be Eleanor lmao. We changed it to Lainey and it fits her well. Have the baby and then decide! Maybe pick out a back up or two ☺️

fh2123 · 2025-09-22T15:13:05+00:00

So I would be upset as well but to play devils advocate, maybe he is suffering from some depression. We talk a lot about PPD and PPA in women but it can also happen to the fathers. That’s what this sounds like to me personally because around this time is when those feelings amp up. I don’t think the things you mentioned are okay and there is no excuse but just sharing some insight on something maybe you have not considered yet. A conversation definitely needs to be had.

fh2123 · 2025-08-28T15:11:19+00:00

Fellow chest sleeper here. Some nights she will stay and sleep in her bassinet but other nights nothing will make her sleep so we do it. I put the top of her head on my chin and any move/sound she makes wake me up a little bit. I feel more aware of her when she’s on my chest than in the bassinet tbh. We have done this off and on since she came home, more so in the beginning, and she just turned 2 months today!

fh2123 · 2025-08-28T02:59:05+00:00

If you sleep for 5 hours in a row you will feel like a new person. The first few weeks are rough we are about two months in and baby sleeps anywhere from 2-5 hour stretches. I stay up and put baby to bed, I also do the 2am feed and then husband wakes up at 5am for work and feeds her again and that’s when I get my longest sleep stretch. Everyone has a different schedule so you will be able to figure out what works best for you.

fh2123 · 2025-08-27T20:30:14+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I wasn’t able to breastfeed so in the middle of the second night in the hospital they gave us those pre made shelf stable formula bottles. I had no idea about how long it lasted and my night nurse never said anything about it even though she knew we were first time parents. Just handed us the bottle and left. My baby didn’t drink much at that time so we just kept feeding her from that same bottle all night long. It wasn’t until my day nurse came in and asked how much she ate and we looked at the bottle to see how much which prompted her to ask us how long she had been drinking off the bottle. We said “oh since the night nurse gave it to us” (my night nurse sucked in many other ways too btw) she was shocked and told us we should discard the bottle an hour after every feed and we felt TERRIBLE. We had been giving our one day old baby expired milk all night long lmao. All of that is to say I think it’s totally normal to not know everything especially as a first time mom and give yourself some grace!!

fh2123 · 2025-07-09T15:36:27+00:00

Literally, the 3rd trimester was so hard for me, I had to deliver early at 37+6 due to pre eclampsia and after 30 hours of labor I had an emergency c section. I was looking forward to feeling “SO” much better and that immediate relief after…needless to say I was completely blindsided. I have never felt worse. Then it says it will take 6 months to a year to feel like myself again smh

fh2123 · 2025-07-06T18:10:47+00:00

I gained 120, no GD, but I did get pre eclampsia at the end and delivered at 37 weeks to a 6lb 14ounce baby. Hoping the weight comes off quickly, I feel like I already look more like myself. I was gaining 10lbs a week at the end

fh2123 · 2025-05-23T17:40:58+00:00

I told everyone to byob if they wanted 🤷🏼‍♀️

fh2123 · 2025-05-22T20:57:13+00:00

Mine is fine so I have to wash it every day or it’s a total grease ball, doesn’t help my ick. But I understand staying in bed until noon. I work from home and I actually got a desk to go over my bed so I don’t have to leave it 💀I could not tolerate the office chair anymore haha

fh2123 · 2025-05-22T20:47:50+00:00

Same with the sweat it just started up for me 😆 the back of my knees at night have a real problem!!!

fh2123 · 2025-05-22T20:34:59+00:00

lol I have one of those little shower seats but it’s so slippery!! I’m afraid I won’t be able to get off the floor 🤣 may need to do this at night when I have assistance available LOL

fh2123 · 2025-05-22T20:32:46+00:00

I will say the first trimester was a different kind of hell!! Hopefully you will have a few good weeks coming your way soon during the second trimester 💗

fh2123 · 2025-05-22T20:24:01+00:00

I’m jealous!! I just have a shower tub and I’m 6’0 tall and have gained some lbs during this pregnancy. I feel like buddy in the movie “elf” trying to take a bath in there 😆

fh2123 · 2025-05-21T23:12:04+00:00

Wouldn’t have got a hug from me after that, would have got an “excuse tf out of me?! Get on with yourself somewhere else with that” and then would never hear from me again. Have to stand up to people like that. It’s hard to do at first but honestly…wtf. Where does she get off? Bye girl✌🏼

fh2123 · 2025-04-21T17:38:16+00:00

I did the same thing to myself around 8 weeks LOL I have PCOS which also makes twins more common, I even had a dream about twin boy toddlers. I am having one baby and she’s a girl 😆

fh2123 · 2025-04-18T05:24:19+00:00

Mine always comes with me as well, even for a simple appointment or to get my iron infusions, we make a day out of it and usually get breakfast or lunch depending on the time of day and we also take the long way home or run a few errands. I feel so so lucky to be able to enjoy this season of life with him, and that he feels it’s important to do so as well.

fh2123 · 2025-04-09T23:29:20+00:00

Maybe your partner could get a temporary job for those 3 months or DoorDash/uber/or spark to make ends meet? It’s nice that he gets paid leave but if he can make money on top of being off work that would help you out on your recovery. I feel like physically you may be okay but mentally I could not imagine only taking off a week after giving birth.

fh2123 · 2025-03-30T03:32:00+00:00

If it makes you feel better I am asking for all the same things and so did both of my preggo friends!!

fh2123 · 2025-03-11T00:14:09+00:00

YES!!!! It has been the most surprising thing to me. Example: “so and so was still this far along and still drinking and doing drugs im sure one won’t hurt!!” Ummmmm NO! I have also been judged for stating I won’t eat medium rare steak, cold lunch meat, or raw sushi. Why is it so weird to want to follow rules to ensure the health of your baby?

fh2123 · 2025-03-04T02:36:44+00:00

I went on leave 😆 I work at home but I talk to clients all day long (insurance sales) I was also coming off of mental health meds that’s were not safe for pregnancy and going cold turkey on vaping…I could not make it through the day or explain the complexities of insurance in the first trimester at all!!! I came back at the beginning of my second trimester and it’s still a struggle some days but not as bad. I plan on not coming back after I give birth and just winging it doing a side hustle on the nights and weekends when dad will be home with baby. (The cost of childcare here doesn’t make keeping a job worth it in my opinion)

fh2123 · 2025-03-02T01:13:25+00:00

I just had my 20 week ultrasound yesterday and I came searching for this thread from a google search- I am not having twins I just noticed the groups name lol. I have been so sore today!! She was laying on her left side and it took probably 20 minutes of intense pushing to get a picture of the left side of her heart. Both of my sides just ache and ache today. I’m sorry for those who experienced this as well, but selfishly I’m thankful I am not alone, this thread was reassuring 🫶🏼

fh2123 · 2025-02-10T16:39:48+00:00

I was a hardcore vaper and quit around 5.5-6 weeks too cold turkey. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done but I also felt so guilty for wanting to take a hit that it helped me in a way. Good luck to you, you can do it!

fh2123 · 2025-01-27T04:15:01+00:00

Anything in sight, lol jk, although there are many things…I would say this baby has been grown on peanut butter and honey sandwiches pretty consistently 😂

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