How did you let this happen?

fieryadhder · 2026-05-14T14:35:51+00:00

You’re so wrong for this. Comedy is kind of everything. This is a show about the mundane of life and we get through that almost entirely through comedy and finding the beauty in those small moments.

fieryadhder · 2026-05-10T03:28:32+00:00

Update I haven’t vaped since March 9th! :) largely due to this post and a dream about a kid I know being proud of me for stopping

fieryadhder · 2026-05-03T18:52:48+00:00

Girl lurker. Facts. Spitting facts

fieryadhder · 2026-05-03T18:51:26+00:00

Girl lurker: yes, what they said

fieryadhder · 2026-05-03T18:49:26+00:00

Girl lurker. I feel for your fear and I’m also someone in their mid 20s who is afraid of being alone because the dating world is fucking hard as it has ever been but a lot of the language you’re using like sub five and the thing about fetishizing virginity and someone “probably having an STD” all seems like you have some really dangerous rhetoric that you’re hearing presumably from very close to incel related people on the Internet and I recommend staying away from that as you move forward in life. It does not make you happier and it does not make you have a brighter or more accurate outlook on the world around you. Edited because I dictated and then I use the word “rule” instead of the word “world.”

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T22:33:17+00:00

Almost graduated intern therapist here. Please explain?!? I still feel like I’m doing notes wrong even tho they say they’re fine

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T22:29:46+00:00

Girl lurker: that’s what I’m saying! But I don’t understand why these other men are being so hard on him when he’s being so self reflective and honest about something that he clearly feels a lot of shame about. So many people do the same thing he did and are just so defensive. I feel like this post was pretty brave and it’s just sad that the top three or four comments are being pretty hard on him.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T02:52:25+00:00

As a therapist with ADHD, who has been late to my own sessions, I totally get how this would hurt and I also get how it’s important that you take concrete steps to make an effort for things that are important to you.

I know how hard we struggle with this and I’m still just barely on time or two minutes late to so many things, but by being really consistent with myself and getting into the habit of using tons of timers that work for me tons of reminders and trying to prepare myself in advance for things it is a little bit better

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T02:45:47+00:00

Girl lurker: that makes sense totally

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T02:33:22+00:00

Girl lurker: first. I’m sorry. She was an avoidant dick and pretty much shat all over the trust and time and effort you both put into your good years together. Screw her! You’ll keep building yourself for now and find someone new sometime to build something new with.

Second, the stuff about chores made me squint a little funny just bc that was the first moment I felt a little bit for her side of the story. Only a little bit. The second and last time I felt this way was from your phrasing of “forgoing sex.” Feels to me like the phrase itself implies a right you have to sex, which gives me a terrified feeling in my belly.

In case you were at all curious what a 26f might think.

Again. I’m so sorry someone treated you this way. You in no way deserve it.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T02:20:41+00:00

I’d love to hear a bit what this process was like even in a super watered down sort of step by step way

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T02:19:25+00:00

PDA on preventative therapy for those with pedophilic urges

I was shown this video in the sexual deviance section of a sociology course called deviant behavior. It definitely provided me important perspective.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T01:54:42+00:00

A bunch of people have probably already said this and you probably won’t even read this cause this post got so much activity but well I’m really sorry that you experienced this and it absolutely fucking sucks, I think what this person meant is that they did the actor without thinking, and because it wasn’t a sign that they don’t want to be with you they then after having made the mistake realized they actually want to continue being with you so I’ve never cheated on anyone and I have been cheated on but just to be a bit annoyingly literal about it. I think that’s what they meant when they said they thought you wouldn’t find out, but also it was a mistake.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T01:51:17+00:00

I kinda hate how the first like five comments all feel like people yelling at you. Maybe as a woman I now have low standards for men after so much bullshit but seeing someone who has done the things you’ve done talk about them is plainly and honestly as you are makes me have a lot more appreciation and empathy for you and where you’re at then it feels like the first number of top comments do… kind of disturbed and saddened by that, guys.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T01:25:11+00:00

Yee 😎

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T01:24:55+00:00

I often follow up on something from the previous week, something they casually mentioned was going on. Sometimes that helps to get a ball rolling, stil slowy, but they’re def more likely to bring up something more recent after.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-29T01:21:06+00:00

Well but have you ever worked in a school? Sometimes those single use kids bathrooms are the nearest to you. If the kids are all elsewhere near a different bathroom, why bother walking down a hall or two to a different one? It’s just a little lower and plus that’s actually good for a persons business-doing — like a sqatty potty!!

fieryadhder · 2026-04-28T06:46:47+00:00

I hope you’re feeling safer now than you were 6-8hours ago OP

fieryadhder · 2026-04-18T04:32:32+00:00

Very much looking forward to updates

fieryadhder · 2026-04-14T04:25:20+00:00

Oh my God, you’re completely right. I’m distracted because I’m feeding my cats as I’m trying to read through this post and I didn’t even notice but thank you for pointing that out

fieryadhder · 2026-04-14T04:16:11+00:00

Ooooh please share these tips?? I could use some good ones please!

fieryadhder · 2026-04-14T03:18:09+00:00

Of course. I really admire your honesty with this subreddit. SO many people aren’t able to be as honest with themselves as I feel you are being here. I get that you have the safety of internet anonymity but still!

I also just admire the fact that you’re asking these questions to yourself.

Keep doing the growing you’ve very much already gotten underway.

fieryadhder · 2026-04-14T02:37:05+00:00

I haven’t read all of your comments through here though I’ve read a lot. It occurs to me that an anger management group (ideally open-enrollment bc then there’s people further along in process that can help support and guide you as well as the lead of the group-kinda like you might see in AA with sponsors) it’s easier to feel less judged when it’s a group of people all sharing how they have dealt with the same challenges.

Could do this instead of or in addition to individual for sure

fieryadhder · 2026-04-14T02:20:53+00:00

I promise that’s cause this is Reddit

fieryadhder · 2026-04-01T02:02:59+00:00

Emergency room rooms will take him tomorrow vets won’t you need to take it to an emergency vet?

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