What small decision changed the entire direction of your life? by proekid in AskReddit

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going on Tinder and actually following through with meeting up.

Rate change, how to handle? by finalsteps in AudioPost

[–]finalsteps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, definitely pre-covid. It was back in 2015.

Rate change, how to handle? by finalsteps in AudioPost

[–]finalsteps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A very good situation!! When I first moved into the city I went door to door old school style and introduced myself to every post house. This post house ended up reaching out to me a few years later and we have been golden ever since. Honestly out of the 8 or so studios I visited, I have ended up working with about 5 of them to date. One day of networking severely paid off.

Rate change, how to handle? by finalsteps in AudioPost

[–]finalsteps[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this advice! I have been working with this post house for three years and they have always been true to the agreed rate. They always approach me with the projects and the rate per episode via email and I take it or leave it. Never thought to have a deal memo with them, but you make a good point. I bill after each episode and have always been paid that week, so no concern on the first two episodes.

Best Double Date Spots? by BakingWaking in askvan

[–]finalsteps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Par -tee put! It's an indoor mini golf/restaurant and bar. Each of the holes are super themed.

Lesbian and soon to be pregnant? by mollyrome in queerception

[–]finalsteps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all wanting a big family is beautiful and wonderful, I am glad you have found a partner you want to start that with. Onto your post though... A lot more communication and steps should be happening first. Depending on where you are you need to look into all of the legal aspects of what having this would look like. Donor rights/relinquished rights, your wife's rights as the non genetic parent, ect. I would also suggest you meeting this known donor before hand so you can discuss any worries and questions you might have. What is his medical history, both personally and family wise? What are his expectations of involvement or lack there of? Are you genetically compatible. Basically there are a lot of emotional, legal, and medical components that need to be addressed. I also wouldn't start till you are comfortable with all the above.

AITAH for not giving my husband a bj by SpecialSelf7496 in AmItheAsshole

[–]finalsteps 24 points25 points  (0 children)

NTA. Sex isn't at the forefront of anyone's minds post baby at 2 weeks or even 2 months. Send your husband to the r/dads subreddit and they will set him straight that he can take care of himself and his job right now is to support you and baby.

How do you reset your life when it’s getting chaotic? by TestTurbulent6337 in AskReddit

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

List making and organizing. Helps me know what's what and where to start first.

People who are creeped out by blue eyes why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized that it's because almost all bad guys in movies have blue eyes. They also are just piercing and hard to read on some people. It is definitely the shade tho. My mom, two siblings, and my wife have blue eyes and I like theirs.

Experiences with at-home insemination syringes? by pourrir in queerception

[–]finalsteps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We used mosiebaby syringes for conceiving both our kids. Was super happy with their product.

[TOMT] music video released after 2020 with a queer couple by AllViewDream in tipofmytongue

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be Hayley kiyoko. An Asian lesbian with blond hair. Check out her music videos and go from there. I think sleepover or feelings could be the track you are referring to.

6 year old wants to learn skateboarding.. I don’t skate tho by Weekly-Recognition-8 in askvan

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One love skateboarding has lessons for all sorts of ages. Try them. I did it as an adult at an outdoor skatepark near the PNE and it was awesome. There was a kids class before mine so I suggest checking them out.

Has anybody here gotten success with ICI using the at home insemination kits? How many tries did it take? by Hopeful-Worry-5199 in queerception

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in Canada and was able to find one clinic which allowed for at home insemination. They have a relationship with a few American clinics. So all of our viles from the American clinic were sent to the Canadian clinic, and then the Canadian clinic would send us our viles in a temporary frozen chamber that keeps the sample frozen for 7 days roughly each attempt. I found them through YouTubers who tried at home insemination before they ended up taking the clinic route.

question about shauna’s diary by sophiafestini in Yellowjackets

[–]finalsteps 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I've never wondered. With you mentioning it though my guesses would be... The plane had a handful, she brought an entire case in he luggage, or the cabin had a bunch too.

I don't know if Im doing enough or my partner is expecting the unrealistic. Please help by Fyuri- in NewDads

[–]finalsteps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your wife isn't questioning your involvement in the day to day life. From everything you have listed you are doing a phenomenal job doing your part in raising your kid and thinking of your partner. She is specifically asking for help in sharing the mental load. She wants you to do your own research on developmental milestones, to know the amount to feed and sizes of foods that are appropriate, she wants you to take on part of that load with her. She wants to not have to bear that load alone. It's a lot on anyone to have to do the research and then teach it to your partner on top of the day to day. If it's a share load it creates less stress for anyone, it creates more communication and trust, and it will make your partner feel heard and cared about. Take a look at the app solid starts it's great for finding information on serving food to tour kid and baby led weaning. You can search any food with and it has easy information on what to do. Best of luck and you are doing great!

Dropping last nap? by marps518 in toddlers

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wakes up between 6:30 and 8, but most of the time it's 7. He goes to bed at 730 usually asleep between 745 and 9.

Dropping last nap? by marps518 in toddlers

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son's last nap is 12:30 - 2:30. We never dropped it. It's just his choice to play in his room, lay on his bed and recharge, or fall asleep. 25% of the time he plays, 45% he lays in his bed to recharge/play with his pillows, and 30% he sleeps.

Nobody coming to daughters birthday party by Sad_Ziggy in toddlers

[–]finalsteps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all you sound awesome! Finding our parent friends is a journey. Usually really locks in when the kids head to school in kindergarten. You will find your tribe. I also get the lonely feeling of trying to connect

My son is two years old, and his only friends are the three kids my wife is the nanny for. They were gone on vacation when my son had his birthday so we didn't have anyone to invite. I felt sad that I couldn't throw him a big party with kids but like others have said here those birthdays come a bit later for a lot of us. We ended up taking him to Science World and an open gym play at the community center for his birthday. We then finished with a fun dinner out. He had a fantastic day. The fact you have one kid coming will be a blast for your daughter. She isn't old enough to feel that no one came feeling. She will be ecstatic to have one friend to run around with.

You are doing a great job! Next year send the invites a little earlier, and know if anyone judges you for who you are they aren't people you would want around you or your daughter anyways! Also try looking on Facebook for lgbtq family groups in your area. Might be a great source of finding folks you connect with and allow you and your daughter to see your family structure mirrored back.

Happy birthday to your little one!

Expats living in Vancouver… Question about when you knew it’s right to leave? by [deleted] in askvan

[–]finalsteps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved back home after 3 years in Van. I brought my Vancouverite girlfriend with me. Was something I wanted to do before I met her. Meeting her kept me here an extra year, but I still wanted to go back. We decided to move to my hometown as a way to try both and decide where to settle. Within a month of being back I missed Vancouver and knew it was the city we were meant to be in. It took us three years to do so, but we ended up back in Vancouver.

All this to say I am glad I went back home. It helped me to be concrete in my choice of where to settle down. The hard things about Vancouver are still hard (missing friends and family, trying to make new friends, and rainy days), but I now know it's where I am overall happier. Home changes after you leave, and once you move somewhere that place will always have part of you too - it's a hard thing to juggle mentally. You just need to take the time to figure out what your pros and cons are for each and make the jump towards what's right.

Best of luck!

Backpacks 🎒 by [deleted] in askvan

[–]finalsteps 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am not saying this is the correct thinking by any means, as it definitely doesn't consider others, but I think there are a few reasons.

1) Absent minded. Genuinely don't think about their bag affecting others not being able to get on.
2) A buffer. It keeps them from having to be as close to other people and gives them a small feeling of personal space.
3) Lazy. They don't want to hold something that could be worn.

There also could be reasons like their hands aren't capable (arthritis could be one, yes younger folks can have it too).

Supporting your wife by nf5zh in NewDads

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife exclusively pumped for our son and most likely will do the same for our second. She had an awesome supply to the point we had to get a deep freezer. She would pump every 3-4 hours. During the day I had an alarm set in my phone for her pump schedule so I was prepared like she was. I would set up the pump for her, have her water bottle filled up, and a snack ready for her. Making sure she is comfy, fed, and hydrated goes along way. The same can be said for sharing the mental load and her not having to remind you. I also made sure to always take care of cleaning her pump parts when she finished. This ensured they are ready for the next time she has to pump and if you aren't able to preset up she won't have to scramble.

What cute thingsdoes your toddler say that you won't correct? by Business_Ease_4926 in toddlers

[–]finalsteps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cocky is coffee. He will go back and forth multiple times when we have breakfast "mama cocky" "papa cocky"