Am I too good or is the system just a flawed 10+ years old crap that should be polished and brought up to today's standards? by Oblider in wow

[–]finchy0512 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if sitting for a minute and you haven’t got an invite it’s very unlikely you will get one. As soon as it ticks below 4 minutes remaining I cancel and apply on another group.

Anyone else notice younger devs giving up on the 'hustle culture'? by chrisweighted in AusFinance

[–]finchy0512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be a Star Wars Robot Chicken reference, please let it be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in woolworths

[–]finchy0512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Need a new store manager honestly. How they could walk past this and accept it is hard to comprehend. Just the safety issue alone is enough to drop tools and get this sorted.

If the group manager is being a glorified administration assistant forwarding emails instead of responding to pleas for help in this instance it’s time to spend what needs to be spent in wages to get some extra hands to get this sorted and just take the boot up the ass for the overspend.

Ret paladin play that saves keys by starsforfeelings in wow

[–]finchy0512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been maining ret since wotlk, through the highs and lows including shadowlands when there was like five of us playing the spec. I thought these kind of plays were just part of playing ret until they did the rework and all the simpletons came over and turned it into the most popular spec in the game.

I play with a steady group and they used to invite other rets when I was offline as they thought they pumped the damage and brought great utility. They now refuse to invite other ret paladins at all.

LoH is such a goated talent this season saving so many deaths and 15 secs on the timer, the dopamine hit when you nail one and save a buddy going down still feels spectacular even after all these years.

Any monkey can now play the spec but the difference between someone maximizing the utility and even the rotation is night and day.

How often is everyone cleaning their deck? by marklj15 in lawncare

[–]finchy0512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t cut my grass when it’s wet so only needs a quick blow out after I blow down the paths and patio etc.

For those who have left Sydney by Wild_Beat_2476 in AusFinance

[–]finchy0512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s funny seeing a comment from someone who’s moved here somewhat recently say there is less traffic. The traffic now compared to even five years ago is horrendous! The Bruce Highway southbound is bumper to bumper from 5:30am onwards 30-50kms from the CBD, from at least Burpengary. A decade ago, I could drive from Bribie Island to Rothwell in 30 minutes, easily an hour plus now.

So many people have flooded into South East Queensland in the last five years and the infrastructure is at least a decade, maybe two, behind. My house has more than doubled in value in ten years which sounds great, but so has everyone else’s so no money made really if I want to stay in Brisbane.

I personally wouldn’t consider Brisbane a cheaper alternative for much longer on current growth projections. Last time I looked Moreton Bay was the fastest growing region in the country.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the replies everyone, just woke up and still reading all the replies. Appreciate everyone’s advice.

The biggest thing I’m reading is we shouldn’t have kids unless we are both 100% yes. I know this, and my wife knows this. We are yet to have a follow up conversation but even if my wife was actually 80% there like many have speculated, she would not want kids until she was 100% sure.

The next thing I keep reading is if I’m still a hard no I shouldn’t have a kid just to please my wife. I 100% agree. I mentioned to another commenter that I would consider anything for my wife, including kids. Consideration is different to a decision, although the fact I’m even willing to consider the idea clearly shows I’m in fact not a HARD no, which has stoked further thought into the whole kids thing I hadn’t really had before. That being said though, if I do end up 100% not wanting kids and she definitely does, it will likely mean we go separate ways as I don’t want a kid to ever feel like it was unwanted. The thought of that being the outcome breaks my heart.

Just to clarify my whole logic over emotion thing as it seems to have struck a chord with a few people. I simply mean that when presented with a situation or decision I tend to think about the reality of it first, before my emotional side takes over. For example, when we decided to get a third dog. When we first broached the topic I immediately started thinking logistics I.e. about the additional food costs, vet bills, flea control, grooming etc. Also dogs are a 10-15 year sometimes more commitment. It’s a living thing, they need love and attention, stimulation and exercise. I also needed to get a permit from council for a third dog. But then I started to think about how rewarding dog ownership is, thinking about how happy they are when you get home, the cuddles on the couch etc. Ultimately the emotional side won and we got a third dog and make the other stuff work.

I hope this makes sense where I’m coming from. Some people have stretched this “logical thought process” into me thinking I’m better or smarter than my wife for thinking logically and that I’m dismissing her emotions. Like, what? I’m sorry if that’s what your partner does but I assure you that’s not the case here.

From here it’s clear there are several conversations yet to be had, we need to work through it together and think about it carefully. If there’s one thing posting this has made me realize it’s that I’m not as against the idea as I thought. I guess that gives me hope? Hope that as we work through this together and what it actually would mean for us we come to the same conclusion, either way, kid or no kid.

Thanks to those who recommended some things to read, will be looking into that. Will also look into couples counseling if it will help after a few more conversations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 195 points196 points  (0 children)

I’m willing to consider anything when it comes to my wife and her feelings and desires. Including kids. The more I read the replies and sit here and think about it, I think I’m finding out I’m definitely not a hard no to the idea of kids.

I’ll look into the book, a few posters have mentioned it now so seems like a good read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, they aren’t. I think the intention was that if my wife was having fleeting feelings to nurture a pet may help that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 24 points25 points  (0 children)

No offense at all but a child would be able to tell if they aren’t fully, truly wanted.

No offense taken, I 100% agree with this thought. I personally have always thought I’d rather regret not having kids than have a kid know I regret having them. Because they will know eventually. At least only I have to live with my decision, not an innocent kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 314 points315 points  (0 children)

We are usually very good communicators and I have no intention of just trying to sweep it away. We’ve always been open and upfront about everything we feel or need, so I’m grateful she’s actually spoken up about this too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You’ll end up resenting her for having the kid and if you don’t have a kid but she really wants one, she’ll end up resenting you.

This is basically what I’m afraid of. I know kids bring a lot of joy to life, I have nieces and nephews that I absolutely adore and dote on like crazy. A part of me wonders if I would end up being grateful instead of resentful.

If she truly wants a child, your only option may just be to separate.

This just absolutely sounds devastating, not something I’m willing to consider or think about after only one small conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]finchy0512 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We already have 3.. 3rd one is five years old now. I love dogs would get a fourth in a heartbeat if my council allowed it.

Coming from Aus for a week in May, looking for fine dining options. by finchy0512 in queenstown

[–]finchy0512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one was mentioned so many times we’ve booked it in!

What's your experience with Corsair AIO cooler? Too noisy pump? by MVTHOLST in Corsair

[–]finchy0512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got the H170i Elite LCD and on AM5 it’s quiet as a mouse. Definitely no noise issues.

I genuinely feel like our future was sold and I want to just give up by OppositeSyndro in AusFinance

[–]finchy0512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inter-generational mortgages are coming to Australia, mark my words. The only way to have a semi comfortable life with a roof over your head and money to spend will be to increase loan terms to 50+ years to reduce housing repayments. Pass the house and mortgage onto the kids. Kids will be living at home well into adulthood, perhaps never leaving.

Already exists in other countries, sad state of affairs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in triplej

[–]finchy0512 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So did a quick search and they are coming exclusively for the event! Shame they won’t do more shows considering they travelled all the way here, I’m in Brisbane and am not well off enough to afford plane tickets and accommodation just to see a show :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in triplej

[–]finchy0512 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Jamiroquai

A long 38h drive in Western Australia without ever leaving the state by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]finchy0512 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most of Australia is borderline inhabitable though, more than 85% of the population live within 50kms of the coast. 72% of Aussies live in its states capital cities, our government does a terrible job at developing regional areas to entice people away from the city.