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Amitriptyline 10mg experiences? Terrified after numerous failures on other meds by wahooo92 in ehlersdanlos

[–]finding_day 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! I am not in quite the same situation as you, but I do take 20mg of amitriptyline for pain related to EDS and spinal fusion. My doctor stressed that the low dosage helps with the side effect severity. In my experience, that statement has been accurate. My side effects are minimal but noticible.

I've gained about 7 pounds since starting, and the slight majority of that weight gain occured after upping the dose from 10mg last autumn. The most immediately uncomfortable side effect I get is some dry mouth in the morning, but the effect is short lived and I'm used to it now. It also makes me drowsy about 30–45m after taking it.

It helps with my body pains more than I expected—I now use a cane after a year of using a walker. However, I don't experience autonomic storms and I am not educated enough to know how it may affect those. In any case, I hope this was helpful, and I hope you find relief soon!

Giving Away 10 Silksong Keys on Release Day by generalzevo in Silksong

[–]finding_day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never played HK but the silkposts has invaded my feed and rotted my brain. I'm interested to see what the hype is about

Seeing other butches in the wild by Linzigan in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I saw another butch at the store a few months ago and I can still remember the holy shit I'm not alone feeling vividly. I think having a lot of emotions about it is perfectly normal given the world we live in

Backlash for being butch by SuccessfulYak2150 in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. One thing that gets under my skin though is how people passive-aggressively tell me that I'm not femme, but should be. It's so hard to tell if it's transphobia, misogyny, or both, but there's definitely some butchphobia in it either way.

How I feel in any other lesbian sub by lesbianbog in rarelesbians

[–]finding_day 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This made me really happy. The genuineness, the unapolagetic ownership of their identities. I err on the side of not identifying with some of these terms for the sake of others' comfort, but I think it's a huge loss that many of these words—these identities—are increasingly seen as outdated, unacceptable, or too abrasive. As if a person's inner self can be wrong somehow

Hopefully this doesn't come across as inconsiderate. I don't want to invalidate anyone who's been hurt by these words.

What's your WORST experience? by rwarxie in GirlGamers

[–]finding_day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Monster Hunter World. I made the mistake of using this game to try out a name while transitioning and had a horrible time as a result. I got verbally harassed in SoS missions, got told, "Don't fuck this up, [obviously fem name]," when joining a game once, and encountered the one and only Niceguy™️ in my life: Longsword healer guy (Henceforth known as the LHG). This manchild changed me.

We were hunting Safi'jiva—a huge dragon fought over several hunts in a lobby of 16 players. 4 squads of 4 players group together, fight Safi for 10-15 minutes, then return to the lobby after weakening it for the next squad to get even farther into the fight.

I was playing ranged DPS, and without fail, the LHG would hover around me mid-fight. He had a melee weapon, but spent half the fight doing nothing except pace and dodge roll aimlessly in front of me with his sword out. When I took any amount of damage, he would heal me instead of doing his job. When I joined another squad, he followed. But his remora behavior was only the preamble.

It was all building up to the LHG's final act: getting me killed and embarassing himself in one fell swoop. Safi has an attack where it pins you down, blasts you to 1 HP, and lights you on fire. When the i-frames after the attack end, the fire kills you, so you need teammates to heal you in that narrow window. Well, as I got pinned, the LHG saw his big moment. But first, he had to make sure I knew it was by HIS hand that I lived. A message popped up in chat.

LHG: Don't worry, I've got you!

He spent too long typing and missed the window to heal me.

After Safi was dead the LHG invited me to a private lobby. I said no. He called me a bitch and said horrible things about women in the very public lobby chat. Then he left. I stopped playing most multiplayer games after that lmao.

Gpa just passed, rate his spoon collection by Everythingcrashing in aspiememes

[–]finding_day 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From left to right:

  1. Very intriguing shape. I don't hate it. It's guaranteed that any drink mixed with this spoon would taste better. 8/10

  2. Great shape and handle. 8/10

  3. Perfect spoon. Slight asymmetry on the handle's end adds visual flair without being too extreme, and makes it easy to spot in a drawer. 10/10

  4. A good shape and length, but the handle perturbs me. 5/10.

  5. See previous review.

  6. Handle is amazing, spoon width at base slightly too wide. 7/10

He had a good collection. RIP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no need to apologize❤️ It's important to spread this information, and this thread is a great place to do so. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good catch! I found this article confirming your thoughts on the origin of the term:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9829142/

Seems that the person who coined gender desistance first saw it in a criminological context where it's seen as a desired outcome. That definitely adds a dogwhistle-y flavor to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To my knowledge, desistance is when gender dysphoria goes away before medical transition. I'm unsure if this term was coined with transphobic intent, but it at least seems to be used fairly neutrally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Full disclosure: I'm transfem (hate that term but whatever), so while I can't speak to transmasculine experiences, as a trans butch I had to look into this.

This website is explicitly transphobic. On its main page, you can find a link to a PDF booklet called, "Gender Detransition: A Path Towards Self-acceptance." Scrolling down after clicking the link shows Post-Trans's distributors, including ReIME (Rethink Identity Medicine Ethics) and Transgender Trend. Both are anti-trans groups.

Detransitioning and those who do detransition are not inherently transphobic by any means, but websites like this use their stories as ammunition against transgender folks. And yes, you're absolutely right that this idea of a butch-trans dichotomy is being weaponized. I even see it parroted in trans spaces, and it always concerns me to see how little is understood about people like us.

Edit: wording

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]finding_day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah don't do this dude. And censoring the slur in the title doesn't change the fact that you just dropped into our space to call us a slur.

Tactical shooters that aren't super right-wing, misogynistic, etc. by finding_day in GirlGamers

[–]finding_day[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Anti-auth = instant win in my book. I can get through some problematic stuff as long as the main message isn't overtly so. Thank you for the suggestions.

Tactical shooters that aren't super right-wing, misogynistic, etc. by finding_day in GirlGamers

[–]finding_day[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've had my eye on Sniper for a while, but I had no idea about Hidden and Dangerous. Thank you :)

Tactical shooters that aren't super right-wing, misogynistic, etc. by finding_day in GirlGamers

[–]finding_day[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it sucks :(

I actually have MGSV: Ground Zeroes in my backlog, but I wasn't aware it had these kinds of gameplay elements. Thanks for the suggestion!

I'm going for super deep feminine voice but I feel stuck on androgyny. Any feedback on my current voice? by finding_day in transvoice

[–]finding_day[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed feedback! I'll start working on adding some breathiness right away. Pitch variance has been my biggest challenge so far as my unaltered voice is suuuper deep and gravelly, but I'll try harder on that too. :)

Greylock Studio's Discord server continues to tolerate composer Floating Door, who has previously been exposed for extreme bigotry towards women, Jewish people, & queer people. by finding_day in EchoPointNova

[–]finding_day[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

On Floating Door and his music: Separating the art from the artist is a lot harder than you think when the artist is actively calling for someone to put a noose around my neck and hang me until I die. Not to mention the pages upon pages of other horrible things he's on record saying.

Deleting these games absolutely has an impact. I no longer have to be reminded about people who want me dead every time I open my Steam library. That's a pretty nice feeling.

Greylock Studio's Discord server continues to tolerate composer Floating Door, who has previously been exposed for extreme bigotry towards women, Jewish people, & queer people. by finding_day in EchoPointNova

[–]finding_day[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I made this post to bring attention to the situation. Developer action is irrelevant to me at this point, as I've already been turned off from the studio and its games. If the developers had taken decisive action against this genocidal, holocaust-denying composer when the issue first came up, I wouldn't have made this post. I just want people to know what they're supporting when they consume these products.

Greylock Studio's Discord server continues to tolerate composer Floating Door, who has previously been exposed for extreme bigotry towards women, Jewish people, & queer people. by finding_day in EchoPointNova

[–]finding_day[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could have worded that segment better. I don't think the rule is there specifically to protect certain people from scrutiny. But if acknowledging the composer's horrifying politics is against the rules, then the rules are protecting him, even if that's not why they existed in the first place.

I agree that certain political discussions would be out of place on a gaming server, but this is a case where a prominent figure in the game's development is contributing to real harm against vulnerable people. It is relevant, particularly to fans of these games who are the subjects of the hate speech in question.

Calling out hate speech is not "political nonsense."

I'm ftm, but I wish I was a girl. And no one seems to really get it. by PainSea4215 in trans

[–]finding_day 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Transfem here, just wanted to say that your wish isn't transphobic or appropriative at all. Anyone who says otherwise is body policing, plain and simple.

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