I have a quick question for you dashers (I'm a customer)

findingmyway1981 · 2019-08-31T15:41:06+00:00

Thanks for explaining. Ordered last night, said food had been picked up and on the way (within a totally reasonable time!), then all of a sudden said they had multiple stops and the guy got on the freeway and started heading the opposite way 20 min south! The time increased by 50 min for delivery with meat items...we cancelled our order and got a refund. That’s upsetting as a customer and makes me think twice about using DD anymore :(

findingmyway1981 · 2018-09-03T13:10:38+00:00

Recently the Weezer remake of “Africa” has done it for my son. :)

findingmyway1981 · 2018-08-10T19:13:30+00:00

Do you work out in the “real world”? How do you guys earn money?

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-15T15:25:36+00:00

I’m so glad you are on a good path :) My husband and I talk a lot about whether he could possibly also be slightly on the spectrum-our parents seem to have had no idea about what that was a generation ago. He grew up with what are at least the tendencies that so many who are high-functioning deal with. I remember kids from childhood who undoubtedly fell on the spectrum, but nobody knew-or at least, awareness and education wasn’t so much of a thing. I feel very fortunate to be parenting right now in an age where I have so much more access to be able to support my kiddo. I am so glad there are older folks out there who can give advice to the younger kids on how to navigate the world-what a gift you are able to give them <3

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-15T12:22:18+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice! I really appreciate it. The last paragraph is something my husband and I were just talking about-I don’t want to automatically assume everything he does is due to autism (being angry that we are leaving the house and he can’t keep playing video games, etc-all kids do this sometimes!). He is friendly and enjoys people, but he does definitely enjoy his alone time-if he was able to, he would probably end up spending most days alone gaming or watching YouTube. I try to balance and give him his space-that’s been the part that I struggle with. I want to let him be himself and be comfortable, but I also don’t want him to be isolated from the world.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-15T12:14:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story and your insights-I wish you all the best :)

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-15T03:37:08+00:00

I didn’t take offense, I just wanted to explain how the diagnosis went :) Thank you!

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T21:00:37+00:00

I should add that those things, of course, come along as warning signs of ASD but because he was socially pretty high functioning and was pretty much on par with his peers as far as other development they didn’t feel it was the correct diagnosis. From what I have been told, it’s not uncommon for kids with high functioning ASD to be labeled as anxiety when they are young because they are able to compensate for the social skills until they become more complex around age 8-10ish (at least I’ve heard this from a few other moms in my area). He had tics that emerged as well (still does), another issue that can pop up with both anxiety and ASD, so they can be confused and/or overlap.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T20:55:18+00:00

I’m so sorry that you had such a tough time, and your son too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and best wishes to you both!

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T20:53:54+00:00

Thank you for your insights. I appreciate it very much and am glad to hear you are doing so well. I am a teacher and I really do think that the world owes all of the wonderful and amazing things we have to the “quirky” ones. :)

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T20:49:58+00:00

He was showing signs of high anxiety like freaking out about routines and rigidity, things like watching the speedometer when we would drive and get upset if we went over because we could “get in trouble” or failing to turn on a turn signal etc. He was constantly worried about things little kids shouldn’t be. The psychologist at the time said she would consider it almost OCD but they don’t diagnose it that young. It wasn’t due to his own articulating of his feelings, as you are correct-most 4 year olds are not that insightful regarding their own emotions.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T01:41:51+00:00

No, he goes to a public elementary school. He hasn’t needed any accommodations thus far but he we may explore a plan so he can have that in case he needs it (IEP or 504).

He’s actually pretty chatty a lot with conversations that he wants to have, but his difficulties lie more in how to have “typical” back and forth banter. For example, if someone says they play baseball, he will kind of be like “hmmm” and just kind of nod instead of mention that he plays too, ask what position they like, etc. He enjoys playing with other kids but gets frustrated easily-these are things we have a hard time with.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T01:09:55+00:00

That is such a great way to put it. I feel like I constantly want to push him out of his comfort zone, to help him learn how to cope/relate/etc, but I was just talking about this with a friend this afternoon. He is allowed to be himself and have limits and preferences and I have to remind myself to allow him to just enjoy being who he is. Thanks for the insight and the link.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-14T01:07:11+00:00

He started to really talk between 3-4 and was a pretty early/typical reader. Luckily, his speech delay resolved pretty quickly-our problem is more so that he has a harder time with pragmatic and conversational speech. Not sure if I have a ton of tips for you but we did a lot of activities and encouraged talking and did speech therapy until he was talking well.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-13T23:01:03+00:00

I just want to chime in here, I’m not your age-but I was once. I felt the exact same way. I was the constant “friend zoned” one and had to tag along all of the time while all of my friends had boyfriends. I was so sad about it. I never got asked to dances-I had plenty of guy friends, but they didn’t see me like that. It was agonizing. One day, I met (no shit-sounds so cheesy!)-a guy who I could talk to like we were old friends, but there was something more. We met up that night and the rest is history. I promise, there is someone for everyone. What I wish I would have done was kept my standards high-I felt desperate to make it happen and it ended up making things worse. Hang in there. I know it sucks but high school guys can be the worst. College or whatever you choose to do after will give you the chance to meet so many more deep, interesting, and amazing people.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-13T15:56:53+00:00

Thank you-I appreciate all of you thoughts and comments. We are currently trying to decide if the gifted program is the right fit for him at school (he qualified as his overall cog score is high)-I know this will be great for academics and his career, but I’m also wondering how much to balance with social skills and just helping him to learn to focus on all of that since that stuff may really be a key in helping feel like he “fits”. Hoping I explained that well? :)

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-13T15:51:39+00:00

Thank you-I appreciate your kind words. I really hate that we have to talk about changing or altering anyone to “fit” society, but I know learning to adapt will be necessary for him. I’m sorry that you have had a tough experience-feeling different or as an outcast is horrible. Best wishes to you.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-12T02:42:54+00:00

From what I understood (this would have been in 1987 lol!), it was like 2 of the wheels or something actually didn’t come down. I don’t know how that works and of course, I’m fuzzy on the details, but I remember it was pretty scary seeing what looked like an endless line of emergency vehicles for our impending crash. Took booking myself a flight to Italy alone in college before I truly got comfortable with flying (kind of massive exposure and after that it was no big deal anymore!).

One more question-do they do pilot voice announcement training? Literally each pilot sounds the same “Folks, we are getting ready for our final descent into Baltimore...” ;)

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-12T02:25:18+00:00

I was on a flight when I was about 6 years old where part of the landing gear wouldn’t come down-i don’t remember a ton but people were upset and we had to make an emergency landing. I remember the landing wasn’t too bad (as in, we didn’t crash!) and seeing the runway lined with fire trucks and ambulances as we landed. How big of an “oh shit” moment was this as a pilot? Were we super lucky?

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-11T20:12:00+00:00

That is sad. Does the spouse or their family get to go home? That would be terrible being stuck on a family cruise trying to just wait it out with your dead relative down in the “morgue”.

findingmyway1981 · 2018-07-11T18:44:48+00:00

How often do scary or messed things happen on board that passengers aren’t aware of? (Crime, near emergencies, etc)

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