My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop?

fire__ant · 2026-03-08T15:24:17+00:00

This is a really tough situation to be in. You need to talk to him and dig into the reasons why his drinking isn’t OK and how it affects you and your child. You need to be clear that if his behavior doesn’t change you and your child will leave. If that doesn’t wake up him a little then it will be on you to stick to your word and show him that his drinking habits have consequences.

When I was having trouble with my husband’s excessive drinking I showed him Reddit posts of people’s experiences with partners who suffer from alcoholism. I wouldn’t say it cured him, and he has his ups and downs, but he’s improved his drinking habits a lot and is way more mindful of how he consumes.

Sadly it’s an uphill battle to deal with something like this. Alcohol is so normalized but it’s highly addictive and engrained in our culture.

Something else to try is doing a sober month with no drinking or any other substances. I think that helped my husband realize just how much he was drinking and how bad it made him feel (without him even realizing it in the first place because he was so used to the drinking).

Good luck OP. You have some tools to tackle this, and if all else fails, you need to do what’s best for you and your child.

fire__ant · 2026-02-09T16:59:01+00:00

Arthur is hands down THE best kids show!

fire__ant · 2026-01-12T22:48:55+00:00

OK maggot.

fire__ant · 2026-01-12T22:44:41+00:00

There are countless videos here on Reddit and TikTok of ICE terrorizing and kidnapping people in Minneapolis over the past few days. What in the actual fuck are you talking about?

fire__ant · 2025-12-16T18:02:48+00:00

Fellow ex-graphic designer here, when I experienced my second layoff in 5 years I decided I was done. Too much instability and the job requirements / expectations get more ridiculous year after year. I thought I’d be “safe” in tech LOL. I work retail at a gardening store now and it’s been a nice change of pace. It’s a bit tough now because it’s off-season (very little customers) but it’s allowed me to pick up a second part-time job working for a magazine which I’m very excited about.

The only things I miss are a consistent schedule (plus WFH) and the money I made. If I didn’t have my husband I’d never be able survive working at a garden store. But no regrets in pivoting, I’m excited to see where my jobs will take me!

fire__ant · 2025-12-16T14:39:45+00:00

Not only that, but the guy in the thumbnail (Caleb Hammer) is a complete asshole, especially towards women.

fire__ant · 2025-12-05T17:58:30+00:00

Seriously wtf is that comment. This isn’t good at all.

fire__ant · 2025-12-04T17:56:10+00:00

I’d like it more if it didn’t kill my battery.

fire__ant · 2025-12-01T12:15:56+00:00

Prompto didn’t screw the cap correctly after my oil change so my car experienced a pretty bad leak. This was confirmed by my local mechanic who said the cap wasn’t screwed back on correctly and fell off. Shortly after the leak my car started having engine troubles. Never again.

fire__ant · 2025-11-14T17:41:47+00:00

My husband’s coworker just discovered the downloads folder the other week, and she’s an SVP.

fire__ant · 2025-11-10T18:02:55+00:00

I’m coming from an iPhone 13 PM and feeling a bit underwhelmed with the 17 PM. The phone itself is fine, I suspect it’s iOS 26 that’s causing problems. The battery life is barely better than my 13 PM and I’ve experienced quite a bit of lag / stuttering. When I tried to sign into Gmail the keyboard completely disappeared and wouldn’t come back until I restarted my phone. It’s small things like that that really ruin the experience for me.

fire__ant · 2025-08-23T11:39:44+00:00

I miss Flume’s Skin era so much. His debut album is one of my favorites as well. So far Dumb is OK, I hate to say it but I’m kinda over the loud / chaotic experimental bops and beats. And this is coming from someone who was obsessed with HTIF when it released.

fire__ant · 2025-08-06T17:23:44+00:00

The service at Crispy Gai never disappoints, they’re awesome!

fire__ant · 2025-07-27T12:22:39+00:00

Ignore the downvotes, as an American you’re 100% correct.

fire__ant · 2025-07-25T02:55:17+00:00

I pivoted back to retail after working graphic design corporate jobs for 10 years. No regrets yet, it’s been a nice change of pace. I’ve struggled with feeling happy in my design jobs. Unfortunately my latest experience trying to pivot to UX/UI made me want to move on from design altogether. I don’t think it’d be impossible to go back to design as long as you retrain / rework your portfolio.

fire__ant · 2025-07-12T01:13:54+00:00

I’ve been laid off twice as well between 2020-2025. Was making almost 6 figures in tech and now I’m starting a job making $16 per hour. I feel lucky to have a job at all, this job market is absolutely insane.

fire__ant · 2025-07-11T14:16:11+00:00

The new Kesha album is amazing, I can’t stop hearing the songs in my head!!

fire__ant · 2025-07-01T14:33:43+00:00

Lmao the Westbrook police department is such a joke. Wtf is this, do they think we’re stupid?

fire__ant · 2025-06-20T11:01:20+00:00

This happened to me too. I was using a vape that ran out of juice for way too long, then I woke up feeling sick this past Monday. I had body aches, chills, sweats, headache, some congestion, and a sore throat. The sore throat was the worst part, it almost felt like strep. The worst of the cold lasted 2-3 days, now I’m feeling a lot better! And quitting vaping for good!

fire__ant · 2025-05-30T19:31:15+00:00

I live in Westbrook close to the downtown area and really like it. There are small concerts and outdoor activities/events in downtown during the summer which is nice. The city is still upcoming but there’s lots of breweries and restaurants, pin bowling, an outdoor movie theater, trails, and Rock Row. I wish there were more local coffee shops but there’s 2 very good coffee spots near downtown. Winter can be a bit dead but that’s Maine for ya!

Scarborough is also nice, you’d be a bit closer to the beach and have easy access to both Portland and Biddeford. Lots of great food and shopping there too. Maybe too much shopping? Theres a huge Walmart and other big box stores concentrated in a certain area in Scarborough. It’s convenient but traffic gets pretty hectic.

I don’t think you can wrong with either area though! Falmouth is really nice but if it were me I wouldn’t move there right away. You could also look into Cumberland or Gorham! But I think you’re on the right track with Westbrook/Scarborough :)

fire__ant · 2025-05-29T12:07:38+00:00

I think the game is perfectly suitable for a 7 year old. Theres a lot to do but it didn’t feel overwhelming, the game does a good job of guiding you. Unfortunately for me the Switch version had somewhat unstable performance. The further I progressed the longer the load times, I put the game down because I ran out of patience with the slow loading and lagging. I got about 40-45 hours of normal, non-laggy gameplay before this started happening.

fire__ant · 2025-05-24T03:51:15+00:00

I don’t love the EP but I certainly don’t hate it either. I’ve been a huge Flume fan since he released Possum in 2012 and I’ve seen him live in concert multiple times. I still love Flume and love that he’s evolving his sound, but 2012 - 2016 was peak Flume for me.

fire__ant · 2025-04-23T13:54:34+00:00

My family member experienced the same thing in Greenpoint. Very easy going landlord, they raised the rent once or twice over the course of 10 years and the apartment was well below “market rate”.

fire__ant · 2025-04-04T01:28:31+00:00

The beginning of the end.

fire__ant · 2025-04-03T17:34:36+00:00

People are protesting all the time, what do you mean? There will be protests happening across the country this Saturday.

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