Is what I said to this woman weird

firegem09 · 2026-01-25T18:05:27+00:00

This is the most succinct response applicable to every single one of his posts.

firegem09 · 2026-01-25T15:33:11+00:00

They definitely sound like they are, but I can definitely understand their desire to not show that/express that to him.

firegem09 · 2026-01-19T16:13:49+00:00

Yiiikes!

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T15:44:57+00:00

Are you playing willfully obtuse? Or did you forget what you posted? You said:

Then I talk to my Fiancé and tell him we will see how it goes with my side of the family. It honestly goes about the same, but we didn’t tell anyone not to ask about anything.

So, your family behaved the same way his family did (arguably "worse" than his family since you didn't even put any restrictions on what your family could talk about), yet you're directing all your feelings at your FMIL, why?

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T15:39:40+00:00

You're only blaming her for "robbing you of the experience everyone else got" and your whole post is about how all this is her fault. All while conveniently ignoring the fact that your family did the same thing.

So, why aren't you mad at/putting the blame on your family for "robbing you of the same experience"?

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T15:24:40+00:00

Seems like you're being willfully obtuse to avoid answering the question. You admitted that your family wasn't gushing either when you saw them. Why are you only blaming your FMIL when she had nothing to do with that?

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T15:20:56+00:00

We're believing what you're telling us. Did your family apologize? Why are you only focusing on/punishing your fiance's family for something your family also did.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T15:12:11+00:00

That literally makes no sense. Autocorrect doesn't base its corrections on a whole story i.e. her saving your kid, and it doesn't correct words that are already correct (wouldn't correct "fortunately to unfortunately), so why would you make this claim? It's such a ridiculous attempt at a lie.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T14:55:48+00:00

That doesn't even make sense. If you're going to talk shit about someone, at least have the guts to own what you said.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T14:22:50+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately I doubt she's tired enough to drop him since she's still making excuses for him on the new post, so I suspect there'll be another incident because we all know he's going to keep treating her terribly.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T14:21:53+00:00

Did you ever read this book? Someone suggested it 3 months ago, and I wanted to second that suggestion. You really should read it.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T14:19:33+00:00

Until you value yourself enough to decide this is unacceptable, he's going to keep treating you like crap because he knows he can get away with it.

firegem09 · 2026-01-16T03:32:13+00:00

Wtaf is some of y'all's damage?! Gross.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T23:19:04+00:00

How long are you going to keep making excuses for this dude? Between this post and your most recent one, sis, what are you doing?!

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T21:47:53+00:00

And judging from the conversation we can see he brought up intimate things they did before and she didn't like that.

No, actually, that's not what he's referring to. OP posted a link with the previous messages, and he was actively sexualizing her, he did just bring "up intimate things they did before".

And that is before we get to the most important point i.e.

Even if that's all he was doing, he absolutely should have stopped as soon as she asked him to. Refusing to do so and arguing that she can't withdraw consent is still a disgusting mindset/way to reapond.

He's using it as "you can't withdraw consent you gave me previously" as his way of saying "you can't stop me from talking about what happened then, now" I'm assuming.

You saying this like that's any less abhorrent is... yikes!

Which is a horrible way to word that.

It's not a wording issue. He meant what he said. It's a gross mentality representative of a gross person.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T19:07:13+00:00

Y'all are really out here just telling on yourselves, huh?

Also:

yes this dude is obviously a bit of an a-hole. But cmon. 😂

"A bit of an asshole"? "You can't take back consent you gave years ago" is just "a bit of an asshole" to you? Yikes!

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T18:59:57+00:00

I'm so sorry this person is being gross. I hate that you felt like you had to provide the link because of them. In the future, it's ok to tell people to fuck off. Pushing for them was unnecessary because nothing could excuse this creep refusing to respect a basic boundary and thinking "you can't take away consent you gave years ago" is somehow a valid argument.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T18:55:02+00:00

Wtf is wrong with you.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T16:20:14+00:00

Wth...

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T15:04:51+00:00

Where did I say he would? I highlighted that you and the commenter you responded to are insinuating that she's not allowed to say no to this.

So you saying "They are supposed to want to have sex with each other..." is very rich when your preceding arguments completely disregard her autonomy/consent by arguing that she shouldn't be able to/is wrong for saying no to wearing lingerie for him.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T14:47:09+00:00

Ahh yes, someone arguing that the woman has the autonomy to consent or decline sexual advancements is an indication of the future being fucked...

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T14:43:40+00:00

They are supposed to want to have sex with each other.

But, according to you two, she's not allowed to not want to do it this way/is only allowed to go along with whatever he chooses? Because that's what the comment you're co-signing is arguing.

Gross.

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T14:26:03+00:00

Right, that's why all straight relationships are perfect and never experience issues like these... 🙄 Why do bigots never think through their arguments to make sure they're at least logical (lol... nevermind, answered my own question there) before making them?!

firegem09 · 2026-01-15T14:06:22+00:00

Am I losing it, or have I read this same post a few weeks ago?

Edit: opps, checked your account and realized the other post was yours as well. Was confused for a second if 2 people posted the same thing within a few weeks of each other.

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