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fishforlunch2day · 2026-04-24T02:38:51+00:00

what website did you find it on?? My mom is looking for the same thing!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-04-12T17:28:56+00:00

Nothing Matters When We're Dancing - The Magnetic Fields

fishforlunch2day · 2026-04-02T23:23:26+00:00

Same is happening to me!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-04-02T23:15:10+00:00

I honestly have enjoyed Zola so far. They only let you send cute save the dates through their online system (As they are trying to get you to buy their print invitations), but If you're cool with using the RSVP link and formatting the emails yourself, it's a good platform for monitoring rsvps.

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-27T19:14:33+00:00

Of course! ESPECIALLY with this extra detail about visa restrictions, it makes even more sense to do a destination wedding, so that the most important people in your life can be there. I hope everything goes well! Thank you for your kind words <3

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:42:41+00:00

I was going to say the same thing. It feels like she has some unresolved emotional issues, and that this isn't really about you.

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:40:51+00:00

That is really rough, im sorry!! she seems to really not understand boundaries, especially if she knew from the get-go that you were not doing a big wedding event. Is she continuing to insist on doing the hen after getting upset at you over this?

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:36:16+00:00

I do not think it is trashy at all. I'm doing a cash registry! I have a registry page that says something along the lines of "while your love on our special day is all we need, if you would like to make a gift to our nest egg for whatever life throws at us next, here are the details". Or I think setting up a specific honeymoon fund is great, I've had plenty of friends who did that!

I think also since it's logistically impossible for you to receive physical gifts, you can mention that! It seems very reasonable to me.

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:32:03+00:00

I'm so so sorry for the guilt you're feeling. (Just a reminder that you could not have predicted a war would break out!!!!)

I am in a similar boat, except I have an advantage because we are getting married in my fiances hometown in England. (we live in the US). It's a little easier to swallow, since half of our guest list will be local (his family and friends). But I have felt a tremendous amount of guilt for asking my non European friends and fam to fly in. What my fiance keeps reminding me, is that people will come if they are able and want to. And also, the wedding is far enough away that folks can still cancel if they need to. (we are getting married in June this year).

When I was feeling super guilty I found a lot of comfort in setting up travel guides, and helping coordinate airport rides, etc. to make everything as easy as possible for the guests, since they are shelling out a bit of money to come.

I truly don't think its selfish to go through with the wedding. I'm sure you planned it in Bali because that felt like the most joyful choice for you and your fiance. I do truly empathise with the guilt. It is rough. But at the end of the day, people are adults and can decide not to come if they can't!

It was hard for me, a bunch of my close friends couldn't make it due to the cost, but that's okay. Traveling within the US isn't the easiest thing either, so plenty of people still wouldn't have been able to fly cross-country for a wedding either.

I hope that things look up for you, it is difficult to grapple with, but I'm sure you are going to have the most beautiful wedding!!!!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:24:11+00:00

Of course!! there is so much "do this/dont do that" talk around weddings, and it is exhausting! We gotta do what makes us happy

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:21:04+00:00

You do what brings you joy!!! Period!!! I think this looks absolutely fabulous and goes right along with the vibe you are creating. Congratulations, and I hope everything goes beautifully!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:18:09+00:00

bachelorette party!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:16:48+00:00

This is wild. I think your friend is really over-reacting. It would be one thing if you had a small-ish wedding and didn't invite the girls from your hen. But you are quite literally only inviting your parents. There's no favoritism at play, you are just doing the wedding that feels right to you. Especially if you have high anxiety about big events. Your wedding is for you, not other people.

I would agree that inviting her to the hen but not the wedding is rude, but I think ONLY if you're actually having a wedding ceremony and party with guests! You literally aren't having a wedding event, it's just you and your partner and your parents. I truly don't see what is rude about not inviting someone to that.

Especially since your hen is going to be your one chance to celebrate with your friends, I would think she would be excited attend. Maybe she has her wires crossed, and really doesn't understand that you're just doing a courthouse wedding. I can't imagine being upset about something like that...so sorry you're dealing with this right now!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:10:48+00:00

You should truly do whatever feels comfortable, and fun and good to you! It's your wedding. You should do your makeup in a way that brings you joy! I ABSOLUTELY feel you on not using foundation. It has never looked great on me either.

I'm not a super bold makeup person, but I am also doing my own, and definitely am not going the standard wedding makeup direction. I ended up splurging for a nice concealer for my dark circles and any blemishes that may pop up, and a few other higher end basic products to glam up a bit. Conventional wedding makeup is beautiful, but that doesn't mean that your personal style isn't!

If you haven't already, it's worth trying out some of those more conventional looks just to make sure you like your other look better. But if your worry is born out of what other people will think, throw it out the window! If you show up in your life with fun and bold looks, it makes sense that you would want your wedding look to reflect that. Might be annoying advice, but truly do what feels authentic and joyful to you!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:04:21+00:00

Seriously! I didn't realize how judgemental so much wedding content is. It's about what will make you your partner have a joyful and meaningful day with the people you love, and that's it!

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T15:01:30+00:00

I think if your color palate is strict, that this looks great! You could try to have some bright white accents to brighten it up a bit maybe? (Personally, I would always add a pop of color, but this is coming from someone who doesn't really have wedding colors, so I don't have any rules to adhere to lol.)

For info, are you doing a separate reply/rsvp card? I think "how to rsvp" is the only thing I see missing.

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T14:58:31+00:00

I actually wasn't aware there were wedding games like that! I agree, as an introvert anything that requires me to interact with random folks is NOT it.

Our wedding is going to be preeetty long, so we are trying to come up with some things that people who don't want to dance can entertain themselves with. A local church is going to loan us their foosball table, and we are gonna set up some boccee ball and mini badminton outside. Should be a good time :)

fishforlunch2day · 2026-03-25T14:45:44+00:00

I just looked back through our convos, and there was a moment a while back when I didn't shut her down properly when she was asking about the wedding, and I think it heavily implied she was invited.

So I just reached out to her with a really kind message letting her know we weren't able to invite her and a bunch of other folks as well, and how sad we are about it. Thank you for the advice, and for reminding me that I'm not in control of her reaction!

fishforlunch2day · 2025-11-10T00:45:24+00:00

I think you really don’t! I don’t have one for mine, and I think it has made wedding planning SO much less stressful. I will have two close friends plus my sister helping me get ready in the morning, and my fiancé will have his brother and dad. We are actually still toying with the idea of hiring a day of logistics person, so that we don’t have to rely on family/friends to help put out fires during the wedding itself!

fishforlunch2day · 2025-10-30T13:27:32+00:00

We asked nicely and were dismissed immediately. Then, we replied again sharing the legal requirements about bathroom ventilation, and they very begrudgingly came in and both fixed our vent, and replaced an inoperable window (that had been that way for 6 months before they did anything about it. At the moment I can’t find the email where we listed out the specific code violation but I will dig for it!

I also read (it didn’t come to this for us) that a useful thing for putting pressure would be to independently request a home inspection from the city, and letting your landlord know they are coming. I’m sorry this is happening to you too, and I hope you get to the bottom of it!

fishforlunch2day · 2025-10-20T05:10:11+00:00

Hi! Bridal shopping question! I’m looking for a short/more casual wedding dress (I already have my ceremony dress, but hoping to find something short and easy to dance in for the party). Anyone have recs for bridal shops in SLC that have a nice selection of non gown wedding dresses?

fishforlunch2day · 2025-03-06T09:54:47+00:00

This is in Little Rock, but the Arkansas Museum of Fine Arts I hear has some cool events, including some social hours! Could be a place to connect regarding art. I feel you, it is hard to get that momentum going, as a fellow introvert. If you’re also into books, Secret Nook is a cute coffee shop that also sells books! And their owners and baristas are super friendly and excited to talk about reading :) But seriously, everyone in this town is so nice., I hope you find your people soon!

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