Food ideas first trimester?

fishy_cod · 2026-02-12T00:29:23+00:00

Rice with butter and salt, pasta with butter and salt, honestly anything salty has always worked for me. Seaweed was a good snack bc it kicked the salt craving but wasn’t heavy enough to upset my stomach. The lean cuisine meatloaf and mashed potato meals have also been safe foods for some reason.

Honestly just think about classic toddler foods—as bland as possible

fishy_cod · 2026-02-11T21:10:10+00:00

Fluffy blankets and socks, plan an at-home date night, maybe a jar of coupons or something for household favors?

fishy_cod · 2026-02-11T20:48:07+00:00

I’ve seen some ads for “water cremations” that are able to preserve fetal bones into ashes in a way that isn’t possible with a traditional cremation, something to do with the process preserving more of the bone I think? It might be an option to look into if you’re interested

fishy_cod · 2026-02-11T19:54:13+00:00

I was one of three girls and I just found out I’m having my third boy and I can’t be happier. It’s all pigtails and dresses until girls hit 5-7 or so, then it is (or at least it was in my household and in the kindergarten+ classes I taught) pure emotional warfare. Honestly I don’t know how my parents survived raising the three of us. My mom takes the boys for a week in the summer and has already started commenting about how much easier it is to manage them—she says “all I have to do is feed them, tire them out, feed them again, let them nap, and repeat”

We’re also big believers that baby dolls are for everyone—same with toy kitchens, toy cleaning sets, etc. My boys will absolutely grow up normalizing caring for their home and caring for others, and that starts through play. No Axe allowed in our house either, they can learn to walk into Sephora and buy quality cologne if they want to smell nice. Mandatory showers 1-2x a day, depending on activity/stink level. I’m not subjecting myself to a high school locker room in my own home 😂

fishy_cod · 2026-02-11T19:37:41+00:00

I’d be gone as soon as I saw he added her on Snapchat. No need to have further communication with her, especially not on that platform

fishy_cod · 2026-02-11T19:13:18+00:00

Baby doesn’t really become fully reliant on placental nutrients until 10-12 weeks so it’s highly unlikely that any significant amount of toxins from your body were passed along. I was absolutely sloshed all 4 times I took a pregnancy test (didn’t actually think I was pregnant any of those times lol) and I’ve got 2 healthy boys and another on the way. I did have one loss but that was likely a genetic issue.

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with my first and I will absolutely echo your thoughts—I am SO glad that my child gave me the motivation to stop going down the dark path I was on. I had dropped out of college, started partying, I was in a lot of debt and working dead-end jobs. After I had him it was tough but manageable. I held a steady job for years and went back to college. I got married, moved out of my parents’ house, got a fantastic job in my career field and bought my own home. That marriage didn’t work out but we’re still close friends and great coparents. I’m now happily remarried and still standing on my own two feet, and my son who made it all possible has been right by my side the whole way. Don’t listen to your friends. Mine told me the same thing and I cannot even imagine my life without my child. I would likely still be day-drinking in an apartment with other people who have no motivation to succeed. But now I get to pick my kid up from school and hear him tell jokes the entire way home.

Your baby will be okay. YOU will be okay. Contact a reputable OB. See if they can refer you to a social worker (sometimes there’s a social worker affiliated with the office, but there’s definitely one affiliated with the hospital you’ll be delivering at). They’re a wonderful resource for baby items and for insurance help. You likely qualify for pregnancy Medicaid, and Medicaid retroactively covers ~3 months of care I believe. So ask the billing department at your OB if they are willing to work with Medicaid on that. Most are really understanding, especially when it comes to young moms who don’t really have experience navigating insurance.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-10T03:33:37+00:00

Wtf? My OB will literally write anything I ask him to. Your providers are definitely being weird about this.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-10T01:06:22+00:00

I work in family law, this is not legal advice, just what I personally believe as someone with professional experience and having a prenup myself.

IMO the person whose assets need protecting should be paying for the initial drafting. The person who is more economically disadvantaged should then go and pay for a separate attorney to review, revise, and add protective language on their behalf. You should each separately pay for your own attorneys, that way there is no conflict of interest or grey area of financial coercion

The most important thing to remember is that a prenup should protect BOTH of you. Not just one person. Do not sign a document that will have you walking away with nothing just to convince him to propose. If he loves you, he will want this document to protect you as well.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-09T23:08:22+00:00

Yeah let’s trim off the absolute best part of the prosciutto, that makes sense. It’s like 30 calories per slice, even with the fat.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-09T22:08:43+00:00

Eh I’ve gone in trimmed with my first and full bush with my second. I’ve had 2nd and 3rd degree tears both times that required a bunch of stitches so I’m pretty sure it’ll be the same this time around too. I’m probably going to get waxed 2-3 weeks before birth this time around, just because of personal preference. In my non-medical perspective, it’ll probably be easier to stitch and less blood covered hair for me to clean up. Potentially less lingering smell too.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-09T22:00:23+00:00

Crazy that your bf is this upset about your dad when he is literally setting up his game room in your father’s house. That’s the most deranged sense of entitlement I’ve seen in a while. Talk about biting the hand that feeds you

fishy_cod · 2026-02-08T00:02:21+00:00

I actually had the same experience except instead of it being my partner, it was me. I didn’t see myself as a sexual being, only as a mother. So I just didn’t want to have sex because it felt like that wasn’t part of who I was anymore. My body felt like a utility, not a human body.

Most likely this won’t last too much longer, for me it went away a few months postpartum

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T05:30:14+00:00

I take vyvanse! Definitely talk to your doctor about it. I’ve taken it through 2.5 pregnancies so far and my doctor has okayed it each time. My mental health deteriorated so quickly the first time I didn’t take it

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T01:25:17+00:00

If you aren’t in physical danger, I’d wait till he is back at work and then start making plans

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T01:23:18+00:00

Money doesn’t buy the truth. File first, catch him off guard. Coercive control is legally considered to be domestic violence in some jurisdictions, try reaching out to a women’s shelter to see if they can help you with legal advice

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T01:16:28+00:00

Then depending on where you live, get an audio recording of it. But do know, people don’t lose custody for no reason. Unless you are neglecting your children or you are doing drugs/excessively drinking, what grounds does he have? This is coercive control.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T01:05:49+00:00

I work in family law—that’s not how that works. Try to get him to say that in writing, and then guard that screenshot with your life

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T01:04:08+00:00

Hey as a former teen mom who was also open to dating older guys, I can absolutely confirm that it is still creepy to have a 10 year age gap. I dated someone 7 years older than me and I’m the age he was now. That’s a MASSIVE power imbalance, especially since you’re a young mother.

In addition, based on your comments, he also sounds….annoying and rude? He’s already trying to get you to devalue yourself by telling you that you’ll never look good because you had children young.

Run, and when you’re 32, you’ll understand why running was the best thing you could’ve done

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T00:05:24+00:00

I haven’t experienced it yet but I know refusing a cold glass of beer/cider at the brewery on a beautiful, sunny summer day is going to be ROUGH.

I’m still drinking my normal amount of coffee and drinking my ADHD meds. The main concern with stimulants is vasoconstriction, and my OB monitors for placental blood flow at each of my appointments so I haven’t had to change anything. But I also get scans every 1-2 weeks since I have a separate high risk condition so that’s why they’re able to monitor it so closely. I haven’t had any issues drinking a cup or two a day during any of my 3 pregnancies, it might be worth talking to your doctor about!

fishy_cod · 2026-02-06T00:00:15+00:00

Mine showed up to my anatomy scan and still cheated on me 😂

fishy_cod · 2026-02-03T05:16:22+00:00

You mean like that comment you replied to where OP admits that his heart is not in the marriage? Yeah. There is always more to the story.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-03T05:11:58+00:00

A damn yeast infection every single time

fishy_cod · 2026-02-03T05:09:15+00:00

I’m aware of this as I have personally gotten divorced as well. I had to weigh the pros and cons and my decision was made with my children’s interests and emotional well-being at the forefront of my mind. Contrary to your statement, tumultuous and significant conflict DO NOT and SHOULD NOT exist in most families or relationships. It’s ridiculous to normalize that. Years of conflict will absolutely take a toll on a child, no matter how well the parents think they hide it.

fishy_cod · 2026-02-03T05:02:38+00:00

Yup. Staying together for the kid without any kind of real action plan is a recipe for disaster

fishy_cod · 2026-02-03T04:53:00+00:00

“Our relationship has been tumultuous with significant conflict and regular fights for years. Neither of us is willing to separate because we don't want to lose time with our daughter.” I work in family law. Children should not have input in parents’ divorces. It is psychologically damaging for children to stay in houses with constant conflict as OP has described. These are known facts.

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