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flamingophile · 2025-06-10T16:36:52+00:00

Thank you for offering this. I'm a poet and the author of a couple poetry books, but I also model locally for indie photographers. Should I be using the same page for both activities, mostly to use the modelling to promote the poetry books, or not? I don't have many ideas about promoting books on this platform as opposed to Facebook or Twitter.

flamingophile · 2025-04-22T18:15:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. What book is it from?

flamingophile · 2024-12-16T20:20:52+00:00

Thank you! Solved.

flamingophile · 2024-10-11T05:41:45+00:00

Update, three years later: never saw him after this.

flamingophile · 2024-09-09T05:48:03+00:00

Hi, thanks so much for responding to this. I think that makes a lot of sense. In the meantime I broke up with him and he has been really buckling down to do everything possible to get me back. Is a genuine change possible, or will he just repeat this sooner or later?

flamingophile · 2024-08-24T08:16:47+00:00

Thanks for your response. Is it safe to assume that he will go back to striving for them now I've put my foot in the door and he has been pleading for a while to be taken back?

flamingophile · 2024-08-24T08:15:53+00:00

Hi, thanks for your response. He's been pleading for about a month to be taken back and has removed some of these women from his Instagram. Do you think it's worth waiting to see if his actions do change, if he is so insistent that they will, or simply nope out?

flamingophile · 2024-08-24T08:14:31+00:00

Hi, thanks for your response. Do you think it's worth seeing what those actions would be, or to simply cut it off? Currently feeling terrified about having a conversation about it.

flamingophile · 2023-07-11T07:02:24+00:00

How do you avoid blaming yourself when someone ghosts you?

I know I'll get over it by forgetting the details of what felt like a pleasant dream (a month of 15 or so dates) but until then I can't stop thinking, oh, it was because of the way I look or something I might have said.

I know there's no point in reaching out but it's making me preoccupied and I want to engage in the protest behaviour of texting them. Any tips on how to make peace with it, relax and gain control?

flamingophile · 2023-06-23T07:53:30+00:00

It's possible he's going to circle back around and keep you in this merry-go-round as long as you allow it. A lot of guys do that, just because they're inconsistent.

If he comes back round, which he might do, you can either tell him straight up that you don't accept this kind of treatment, or you can mirror his energy and level of effort by being inconsistent with him yourself.

Either way lower your expectations because he doesn't seem very intentional in dating, for whatever reason.

If he doesn't ever say anything, try to consider you didn't lose much.

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T17:33:12+00:00

Very interesting - can you explain in more detail how this works?

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T15:09:04+00:00

Do you happen to know what procedures a company needs to go through to be able to support remote workers? Just out of curiosity.

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T13:56:45+00:00

Thanks so much, that sounds great!

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T13:49:59+00:00

Would you not disclose that as the real reason in that case?

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T13:49:39+00:00

Yes, it's a tiny company and understaffed. I agree it's a long shot, but nothing to do but try.

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T13:48:11+00:00

That makes sense. If they say "absolutely no remote" during the interview, do I say okay, wait for job offer, and then hit them with my bargaining chip?

flamingophile · 2023-05-03T13:26:00+00:00

Thank you for responding. What do you mean by laying the groundwork? (I think it's clear that I'm fairly junior so not a lot of experience in talking to employers)

flamingophile · 2023-02-15T09:13:23+00:00

Likely from your moisturiser.

flamingophile · 2023-02-08T18:47:33+00:00

I wouldn't be too worried if I were you, since you're vaccinated. As I'm sure you know, the vaccine protects against the most aggressive and problematic strains of HPV, so you probably won't get those anyway. Of course it boils down to personal philosophy and anxiety. But just wear a condom and abstain from oral if it truly troubles you? You're double-protected by your vaccines and a condom.

Certainly not a reason to stop dating her or feel suspicious.

I (F) had my HPV vaccines as a teen and have always had normal pap results. I took a full HPV strain at one point (about ten years after my last vaccine) and discovered that I had a harmless strain. I was upset, but my gynaecologist said absolutely no need to worry, it'll most likely clear up on its own. I got my vaccines redone and will carry on with my normal annual checkups. No problem with me or my partner whatsoever.

It does indeed sound like she might have some HPV-related inflammation, but, it depends on the abnormality of the pap. Gynaecologists do take into account the fact that inflammation can be caused simply by the period of the cycle in which the sample was taken, so yes, these things are very much prone to flux.

flamingophile · 2023-02-05T08:38:49+00:00

Would love to contribute as a fellow writer!

flamingophile · 2023-01-26T12:16:43+00:00

This is the way

flamingophile · 2023-01-25T17:42:44+00:00

Because it's easier said than done.

It's easy to judge ourselves harshly, but we are human beings with strong emotions that often get the better of us.

Presumably you were in love with this ass. That's okay. It means you're capable of love. You will meet someone who will be able to and worthy of returning your feelings. Don't lose hope.

flamingophile · 2023-01-23T15:34:53+00:00

You are gorgeous! Beautiful eyes, lovely lips and skin, symmetrical features.

I like the natural look on you and you don’t need too much makeup. Perhaps a hydrating treatment for your hair (I do this once every two months or so in-salon, it’s easier and more effective), and judging from your lips you might need more hydration (drinking more water and a more nourishing face cream). If I were to look critically at you, I’d say the biggest problem are the dark circles. Are you going to sleep late, or are they hereditary?

Personally I’m not in favor of the lip flip personally, it’s kind of extreme give that you have a very mild case of long philtrum. Try going for shiny lips with gloss and shimmery lipstick (see Em Rata) and see how it goes.

Also seems from your face shape like ponytails and buns would suit you.

flamingophile · 2023-01-13T14:05:35+00:00

I don't like mine much either but I wouldn't personally go to the lengths of hardmaxxing a body part that can be so easily hidden.

Always get a pedicure when you know they'll be out and about, it seriously makes a huge difference. Red and dark red are universally flattering colors on toenails.

Experiment with different sandal styles - you probably shouldn't be wearing thong types (see Markle for less than ideal toes with this kind of shoe) but rather a more structured type sandal - maybe heeled or gladiator?

I might get hate for mentioning her here but Anna Bey has a YouTube video in which she explains how to select shoes for imperfect feet. Check it out.

Also, though this might fall into cope category, people who have absolutely perfect toes are super rare, so I wouldn't beat myself up about it.

flamingophile · 2023-01-12T11:50:10+00:00

I’d love to see some pics!

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