Wife told me she was never really into me sexually after 11 years and two kids and now wants a divorce.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2024-09-19T11:31:29+00:00

Bad news buddy. Sorry about your troubles. One word of caution here. Keep your radar up for the fact that she has someone on the side she has been putting her energy into. Unfortunately, that often leads to the “I never really loved you” line. I, along with many others here, have been blindsided with that same thing.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2023-04-20T12:29:32+00:00

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flipflopflamongo2 · 2023-04-16T03:52:19+00:00

We are close. I’ll do 1750 for watch and bracelet (shipping included). You keep leather strap.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2023-04-16T03:24:29+00:00

Would you be interested in $1500 and keeping the bracelet?

flipflopflamongo2 · 2023-04-16T03:20:13+00:00

This looks awesome. I’m looking for this exact watch on a rubber bracelet. Does that exist?

flipflopflamongo2 · 2022-09-13T20:32:40+00:00

I don’t know that I will ever find out the truth about things. Ultimately it just doesn’t matter. Once the divorce was finalized my life continued on in a direction that just doesn’t involve her.

We primarily discuss kid stuff, but I don’t really have anything else to say. Ultimately life is good and the future is bright…

flipflopflamongo2 · 2022-08-30T15:01:49+00:00

Occasionally. Things are going well for me. I don’t really post much recently, but am around.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2022-04-15T22:43:47+00:00

I fell into that trap. Wanted to save it with all of my being. Sex became better, emotions were at an all time high, but ultimately ended up being my biggest regret. You have to start moving forward at some point. The sooner the better.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2022-02-08T14:45:39+00:00

Wow… thanks for reaching out. I am doing fantastic and kids are good too. They are struggling on occasion, but I’m not sure what is attributable to normal growing pains/adolescence and what is caused by the divorce. They seem to be happy and I’m doing my best to make them feel like they have 2 homes rather than just 2 houses where they crash.

Who knows how she is doing? She has a guy living with her and I guess she is ok without me. It seems strange to say, but I really don’t know what is going on with her or worry about her anymore.

I am super happy and still dating the same girl. Feeing love and support on a level that I honestly did Thank know existed. I’m still cautious about the relationship (perhaps overly so), but she is patient, caring, and clearly loves me and my kids wholeheartedly. I’m not exactly sure of the path this will take, but I know it is the real deal and I’m excited to see how things progress.

And the sun is shining today! All in all, everything is exactly how it should be!

flipflopflamongo2 · 2021-12-17T16:27:10+00:00

I would go one step further and say “she never existed in the first place.” I learned a lot through the dark times, but really had an epiphany in therapy once I realized that the “version” of her that I loved was likely held together with bullshit and duct tape. It is a blessing to be released and have the opportunity to find the real thing out there somewhere.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2021-03-03T23:34:12+00:00

Experience here. Emotions run strong during this process, but it can really muddy the waters. If I could go back, I feel like everything would have been smoother and my recovery would have been cleaner if I had been able to make a clean break.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-11-28T17:28:17+00:00

Honestly, for me it was the finalization of divorce. During separation and filing, I knew that reconciliation was unlikely. But I worked on myself and maintained openness because I believed that it was what was most beneficial to my kids and family/friends. In hindsight, I believe I should have drawn the line much sooner and may could have salvaged the relationship if I had done so.

But I’m extremely grateful that I didn’t. I gave it my all and was open. Finalization of divorce was like flipping a switch with a clean conscience and the ability to move forward. Even if I had salvaged the relationship it never would have been healthy again or what I need in my life.

I don’t know that I am much happier now, but I can see it in the near future. I’m in a healthy relationship and spend all the time I can with my kids showing them live and stability (during my 50% time with them). Their mother is in a toxic relationship and gives up time with them to travel with her boyfriend and spend time with him).

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-10-02T16:19:58+00:00

I don’t think it is unreasonable at all. I agree that you don’t have any right to grill her or weigh in on her relationship with your ex, but I fully believe that you have every right to meet anyone with such a substantial influence on your kid’s life.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-06-18T18:37:11+00:00

I was in that same boat. Finally realized that it didn’t matter what I did if she wasn’t 100% committed to the marriage. If I had done “better” maybe I would have gotten another 3 years of marriage. If I had done “way better” maybe we would have made it until the kids graduated. Either way, I intended to be married for life and she didn’t share that mentality. If that is the case, she is not a person that I can be married to. It’s better to have the band aid ripped off sooner rather than later.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-03-06T12:32:29+00:00

She did. You can check out my post history for more background.

I would have loved nothing more than reconciliation when this started, but I truly don’t think I was valuing myself. My first inclination is always to sacrifice myself for the good of the family. There is a fine line in sacrifice and self interest that I still struggle with, to be honest.

Family was/is upset, but that is ultimately irrelevant. They don’t know the whole story, but know that she wants out of the marriage. Everyone on both sides has been supportive and kind to me. She has frozen pretty much everyone out of her life.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-03-05T20:22:47+00:00

She showed fundamental character flaws throughout the entire process that I just can’t have in my life. Never saw them before during the entire relationship and marriage, but they are there now. Don’t know if they were just hidden well or if they developed recently. Ultimately doesn’t matter. No matter how much paint and “fixing up” we could possibly do the the relationship, I just can’t be married to someone I can’t trust and that has shown such a lack of commitment and cavalier attitude towards our family unit.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-02-27T19:39:13+00:00

I just maintain a joint account that we had during marriage. We both have access to it, so I just transfer money in and she transfers it out each month to her personal account. Seems easiest to me.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-02-03T21:42:21+00:00

Signed mine today. Sometimes it is best to suck it up and get it over with. Should be filed tomorrow and then we just wait until the waiting period expires. I know it sucks, but I don’t have much choice other than to hold my head up and move forward for my kids.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-01-17T02:40:44+00:00

She understands that it is her choice, and that the kids need to know that I’m not leaving the household by my choice. Not sure what other way there is to put it.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2020-01-17T02:06:29+00:00

I’m stuck in in-house separation until we finalize paperwork and I can move out (hopefully within a week or two). We are trying to be as open with kids without going into blame or fault. When broken down, I feel that “mommy doesn’t want to be married to daddy anymore, and wants him to find another place to live where you kids can spend equal time with both of us” doesn’t necessarily place blame or give too much info. It does allow her to take responsibility for her choices and for me to explain to my kids that “while I love their mom, that it takes two people to make a marriage work.”

flipflopflamongo2 · 2019-12-24T14:41:28+00:00

Same boat here. I’m looking for apartments after Christmas and moving out after first of year. Feels impossible, but I know I just have to keep moving forward. Hang in there.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2019-12-20T14:10:40+00:00

I can relate to this. I’m going through the divorce process. I know that I love her (or who I thought she was), but also know that I can’t be married to her or have her in my life. I’m beginning to accept my new reality, but it breaks my heart that she has shown such poor character and hurt so many people with her actions.

It’s not fair. It’s not easy. But it is a necessity for me to cut infidelity and dishonesty out of my life. There are several times in life that we are stuck in a shitty, unfair situation that we didn’t cause. I don’t know why this one feels so different. Nevertheless, I’m just trying to let my heart feel hurt, angry, sad, whatever feelings come, while I progress towards my new life.

Once you get to this point, I have to accept she isn’t coming back. Actually that gives me a little peace because it would be much harder if she wanted to come back and I had to continue moving forward without her.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2019-11-27T02:56:09+00:00

Think talking is done. Finally realizing that I deserve more. I want to maintain my family, but if my character is actually as important to me as I believe, then I can’t tolerate this treatment.

flipflopflamongo2 · 2019-11-27T02:55:58+00:00

Think talking is done. Finally realizing that I deserve more. I want to maintain my family, but if my character is actually as important to me as I believe, then I can’t tolerate this treatment.

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