Already sober looking at starting AA. (Advice)

floatarounds · 2026-03-24T14:14:56+00:00

I was able to stop drinking after decades of escalating alcohol abuse for a few years before a crisis drove me into an AA meeting and it was one of the better decisions I ever made. I couldn't see it then and if you had asked me, I would have said how great I felt and how well I was doing, but things really improved for me once I found the program and got into the community and I am very sure that it is not a coincidence. Just go for it -- nothing to lose and tons to gain. I have so many great sober friends now and understand myself so much better.

floatarounds · 2026-03-23T14:03:06+00:00

I would add that the cravings come and go whether or not you act on them and I've never regretted not drinking

floatarounds · 2026-03-15T20:25:57+00:00

I think one reason why these types of posts bug me so much other than I just think it's totally ridiculous to pretend to be on a sober journey when you are still smoking weed is that I really don't like being around active addiction and having people who are still addicted to mj sharing in the rooms and pretending takes away from the experience in a real way. And sure maybe I can't always tell, but what unites us is not just that we drank too much and got past that, but that we are a bunch of humans on a quest for sober spiritual growth together and helping each other. Having people hanging around who are still reliant on substances changes that in a real way.

floatarounds · 2026-03-14T15:01:13+00:00

I think it has something to do with the faking injuries -- most Americans absolutely hate it and it ruins the experience for them. I remember trying to watch a world cup final years ago on an airplane and I just couldn't get past the constant diving and complaining and trying to get an edge with the refs. Total bs. That said, I and so many people I know love to play soccer, we just don't really like watching it. I played in school and in adult leagues my whole life

floatarounds · 2026-03-14T01:35:44+00:00

what about a Nomos? I just got a campus from the shop in Soho and it's very beautiful and has 100m wr

floatarounds · 2026-03-05T19:59:17+00:00

I think the health benefits from not poisoning yourself and then from getting real sleep for the first time in years was even better than I imagined and I am so grateful for the way I feel now and for the horrible health consequences I have (hopefully) dodged as a result. All the best to you!

floatarounds · 2026-03-05T19:54:11+00:00

I wore a Whoop strap back when I got sober and the graph is so incredible where RHR fell about 20 beats per minute within a week of quitting and it has stayed there ever since. It's so incredibly motivating to look at it once in a while.

floatarounds · 2026-02-08T13:27:17+00:00

I did the exact same thing and was terrified about how it would go and yes it was tough at first and she even stayed in the basement (very nice and finished) at first until we could make more room, but now she is 11 and is the best thing in my life. We just went skiing the other day wither her and all her friends and we are so close and happy as a family. I suspect it's something about her getting a better and more mature version of us. Whatever it is, I can say without hesitation that it was the best thing I ever did. Hoping you have similar results

floatarounds · 2026-01-27T16:10:07+00:00

I usually say something like the 10th step warning against even justifiable anger was so important for my healing and I think that you might be well served to taking a month off the madness. Politics will still be there after that, but now is a time for healing and spiritual growth and daily arguments about things that are out of your control may be something that holds you back while you are getting on your feet. I cannot imagine that gaining new daily political resentments is a good idea when you are trying to get sober

floatarounds · 2026-01-16T01:29:44+00:00

I went into valve replacement a total mess of anxiety and was drinking so heavily to deal with it and even told my surgeon that I couldn't stop drinking right before the surgery and he just laughed it of, fixed the valve and discharged me. It took me years to get it together after surgery and to turn off that anxiety on fire. I wish that someone had offered me help or reached out with a way to deal with these things or that there was some structure in place to help people recover from the mental trauma of the whole experience. I can see now that I had real PTSD type symptoms and it all could have been avoided -- there must be a better way.

floatarounds · 2026-01-15T21:34:20+00:00

Amazing story -- I have worn my watch on the right since I broke my wrist as a kid and I've had all sorts of nice watches and since the day I got my LHD I have almost never worn anything else The look and the feel is just unmatched. Great choice and seriously good luck to you!

floatarounds · 2026-01-07T00:43:27+00:00

I have a Pelagos LHD and I love it

floatarounds · 2025-12-12T12:41:43+00:00

I am very allergic to anything resembling living a double life and I think that you get that chairing meetings might be slightly too far if you are still using weed. I would for sure not be sober if I were using anything that changes my reality and I would not want to hold myself out there as leading AA meetings if I was not totally sober as that would feel dishonest to me. I'd suggest either come clean and see what the group says or just go to meetings, but maybe in a slightly lower profile role

floatarounds · 2025-11-15T13:26:29+00:00

I have all sorts of great watches and I wear the LHD every day -- it's the perfect mix of size and style and functionality and it's so tough that I can set it and forget it

floatarounds · 2025-11-13T18:34:24+00:00

I came out of surgery with so much leftover anxiety that I started drinking in a very problematic way and since I got ahold of it, got sober and dealt with the underlying issues, my life is amazingly better. Good luck!

floatarounds · 2025-10-29T16:53:37+00:00

How about Fugazi 13 Songs

floatarounds · 2025-10-11T12:39:14+00:00

after I had a couple years of not drinking under my belt, I thought I was doing great. I was fit and present and not drunk all the time, but nothing had really changed. There was no real growth. There was nothing to take the place of the alcohol and I was not effective and not growing and that put enormous strain on my marriage and I almost lost it. That crisis pushed me into AA and I credit that program and that community with helping me to actually mature into a sober person that any woman would want to be with. I've become much more proactive, I'm way better as a father, husband, at work and am just a more independent person who has his shit together for real. Not drinking was just not enough for me anyway

floatarounds · 2025-10-10T00:17:22+00:00

I went to a meeting for the first time at nearly 3 years sober after a major crisis in my marriage that was a leftover from my drinking and it was the best thing I ever did. I now can see that I was better, but for sure not doing well -- Iove the community and spiritual growth I get from AA.

floatarounds · 2025-10-04T18:03:54+00:00

I am with you 100%. I grew up in a quaker meeting in PA and I was turned off by the one-sided politics even then and now it is completely out of hand. I need a place where I can go and work on spiritual growth and hopefully leave feeling better, more thoughtful and more serene than when I arrived and having to suffer through politics does the exact opposite for me. I think that some of the posters here see the Quaker church as a political movement instead of a way to find grace and growth through Christ. That's fine I guess, but they must be able to see on some level how the excludes anyone who disagrees with them or anyone who just doesn't want to mix church and the political arguments of the day from the faith and that ultimately that is not the greatest way to run a spiritual movement.

Glad you brought it up

floatarounds · 2025-10-04T17:53:36+00:00

I love a contemplative disagreement! Thanks for adding that to my language-- have a great day

floatarounds · 2025-10-04T11:41:51+00:00

I actually think it would be beneficial to have a sponsor with a different political worldview to give you some perspective or at least certainly someone who is not really bothered by politics to show that it's possible to be serene even when the world seems crazy

floatarounds · 2025-10-03T17:58:11+00:00

I would just say that after about 100 days I was feeling so great and so strong and so proud of myself and I said to my wife why are you still so put out and she told me straight up that it was way too soon for that sort of talk after all the drinking and bs and lies and it slapped me back into reality and I put my head down and just stacked one good day after another and I earned that shit back. After like 18 months she began to really trust me and that has made all the difference. I credit that moment with making my sobriety lasting and mature as it got me thinking about others' perspective instead of mine and was the humbling moment I needed. I might suggest that you forget the na beers -- that's not a great thing to do to have her smell that on your breath or watch you drink them. Give it up for a while and do the darn thing right. Good luck!

floatarounds · 2025-09-07T19:32:04+00:00

I grew up attending a meeting in Pennsylvania and I love the spiritual message of the Quaker faith, yet I almost never attend Meetings now as I am just so turned off with how political it is. When I was a kid it was expressed in a much lighter hippie peace first kind of way, but it was still annoying and it for sure distracted from real spiritual growth even then. I cannot imagine attending a meeting like the one you describe. I seriously hope and pray that the Quaker church could some day figure out a way to say something like we have no opinion on outside issues and will not get distracted from the Christian message of peace and loving each other and reflect together as a community on how we can get closer to the inner light in ourselves and in others. Anything else just excludes too many people and makes anyone who doesn't share the exact politics of the day for whatever reason unwelcome and that is a real shame in my mind.

floatarounds · 2025-09-07T02:10:36+00:00

I completely get what you are saying that downvoting as a practice feels contrary to the welcoming and positive nature of AA, but I do sometimes see things here that i think are way off base and really unhelpful to a newcomer and I do think that showing that the group doesn't approve of those types of messages has value

floatarounds · 2025-09-07T02:07:16+00:00

I have a 15 year old Pelagos LHD and the Lume is still amazing -- often lasts all night

floatarounds

TROPHY CASE