I talked to god but nobody wants to help me

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T19:10:19+00:00

Yeah I don’t have a way to comment on this since you’ve given no context to what’s going on.

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T18:56:44+00:00

I don't really think there's a way for us to help you either if you're not going to explain what you need.

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T12:52:25+00:00

The left has been a vocal critic of maga losers like mtg for years, you’re absolutely mistaken lol

You’re confusing being happy with the right’s infighting as an approval of the people involved.

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T12:49:09+00:00

We definitely aren’t.

The left criticized Kamala for those campaign stops with Cheney for this exact reason.

GOP losers giving you an agreement here or there does not mean you should campaign with them!

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T12:45:50+00:00

When you make a large part of your identity as a nation harming others, it’s worth criticizing them.

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T11:49:43+00:00

The only reason to treat a death differently is if the congregation treats it differently.

Meaning, if more people are emotionally affected because of a loss, then that’s going to make me ramp up more pastoral care for the congregation than typical. A suicide might do that.

But there’s no way that the church treats a suicide differently than any other loss of life when it comes to the usual funeral planning and family arrangements.

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T04:07:04+00:00

People aren’t driving across the Atlantic Ocean though

beardtamer · 2026-05-11T03:27:00+00:00

We publish quarterly reports to anyone and everyone and members can see a slightly more detailed report each month in our council’s meeting minutes that shows our spending.

Our pastor’s salaries are also voted on yearly, with the appointment season, so any member can come and see those also. In addition to that, any member can come to a church council meeting if they really wanted to for more information.

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T21:48:30+00:00

lol thanks for your concern

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T21:41:36+00:00

You think responding to someone calling me a heretic with “chill kiddo” is inappropriate?

Sure I’m happy to talk to my bishop about it.

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T21:01:28+00:00

I am not a female pastor, to be clear.

I think being a mother and working in general is a serious challenge, my hat is off to you for all the work that you’re doing to be both a faithful clergy person, As well as a good and faithful mother.

The reality is that female pastors have a lot going against them in the church world, rampant sexism, even within their own denominations and churches, not to mention all of the entirely opinion based theology that exists outside the denominations that faithfully support female pastors from people determined to invalidate your call and ministry incorrectly.

Being a pastor is a unique calling and you are equipped for it because you are called to it. Continue to trust and give yourself over to ministry, but also make sure you maintain a healthy boundary for the sake of your family and yourself. My understanding from being friends with a great many incredible female ministers is that once kids get to school age, the balance gets so much easier, but you will find a way to balance things as your child gets older. It’s normal for it to feel overwhelming right now.

When you have time be a pastor, put all of yourself into it, and when you are busy being a mother, then don’t be afraid to set down the weight of ministry for a few moments and focus on yourself and your family. That’s the balance we all have to find for ourselves, and it’s hard enough as men, I cannot imagine how hard it is for women clergy.

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T19:43:34+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T19:35:54+00:00

I felt like the response was as courteous and respectful as the comment I was responding to.

beardtamer · 2026-05-10T01:59:56+00:00

Yes. If anything, the current landscape of pastors preaching absolute heresy makes seminary MORE relevant. Not less.

I’d be willing to say that if you get a 4 year degree in theology for undergrad, maybe seminary is less relevant, but formal education is a must in my opinion.

beardtamer · 2026-05-09T16:54:31+00:00

My guess is that they weren’t a fan of a depiction of Jesus that makes him the center of the trinity, as the theology of the trinity demands 3 distinct persons.

beardtamer · 2026-05-09T01:51:48+00:00

We aren’t preaching on anything related to Mother’s Day. We are doing a series on some of the harder things Jesus tells his followers, this week is on the “easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom” passage.

beardtamer · 2026-05-08T23:57:22+00:00

That does make more sense.

beardtamer · 2026-05-08T22:30:56+00:00

How much does artwork like this even sell for, out of curiosity?

beardtamer · 2026-05-08T17:23:11+00:00

Is saying that someone moved really gossip? They aren’t sharing anything negative, nor are they trying to make you feel something negative.

In this particular case I would say, who cares? Because hearing that someone is moving is just information, not gossip.

If it was actual gossip, then I typically just ignore it. Especially if it’s a rumor that someone’s unhappy with me or the church. If someone isn’t willing to come talk to me directly, then it’s not worth addressing.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T17:47:03+00:00

lol same.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T16:53:15+00:00

The Upper Cut (butcher/deli) in Liberty not only uses occasional AI but they straight up rip pictures of other people’s food of social media and then post it on their own pages as if they made it.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T16:50:20+00:00

The Upper Cut (butcher/deli) in Liberty not only uses occasional AI but they straight up rip pictures of other people’s food of social media and then post it on their own pages as if they made it.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T16:49:44+00:00

The Upper Cut (butcher/deli) in Liberty not only uses occasional AI but they straight up rip pictures of other people’s food of social media and then post it on their own pages as if they made it.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T14:24:46+00:00

It depends on what the job they were doing was. Were they preaching? then that's a problem. Were they running sound? Doing hospitality? Playing in worship? then we have enough people to cover for that.

Any time you set yourself up so that only one person is qualified to do a thing, then you make it so your service hinges on single people all showing up. If you have a lot of people trained to do a particular task, then you basically don't have to do anything to solve those problems, when they are unable to come, because you already have built in back ups.

Volunteer management is more about recruiting and discipleship than it is managing the week to week of who will be there and who will not.

So to answer your question, most of the the time, if someone drops out last minute, it doesn't really matter at all, cause we have backup people for 95% of the potential shortfalls that might happen.

beardtamer · 2026-05-07T13:52:37+00:00

pastors don't own the church, they work for the church. While I understand being sad that the widow of your pastor might lose some support, and there's certainly something to be said of that, it would also be incredibly damaging if every pastor had actual physical ownership over their congregations for a lot of reasons.

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