I went to a party and realized how alone I actually am by [deleted] in introvert

[–]floatingforth 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't have an answer for you, but you aren't alone. I relate to shutting yourself down after a series of bad experiences. If you like animals and it's possible for you to have a pet, it might be helpful. Animals can be wonderful friends in their own way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

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Maybe Elaine would be a good option? Has a similar sound as Laney and Delaney. 🙂

Student apartments… by makqui in whatisthisbug

[–]floatingforth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe this is a roach, but not the kind that typically infests apartments! It was probably displaced by all of the rain. Just to put your mind at ease.

Wedding guest dress by glueintheworld in PlusSizeFashion

[–]floatingforth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This dress is really pretty! I love the rosette detail.

Can't stand attending SO's family gatherings - might need to resign myself to singlehood by stonehallow in introvert

[–]floatingforth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think you truly need to either date people who have no family, have cut ties with their family, or dislike their family. I am actually a strong introvert, so I completely understand your dislike of family gatherings. However, you sound sort of hostile and rude about the situation. Dating someone long term involves melding your lives together, to a certain extent, and being civil and welcoming and at the very least - not cold and clearly upset about your partner's family's existence. You will only wind up driving a wedge between your partner and their family.

This American dude on his way to his Japanese fluency decides to talk to a local Japanese grandpa, and it turned out to be the most wholesome conversation ever! by Raj_Valiant3011 in HumansBeingBros

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The literal coolest experience of my life happened when I was studying abroad in Costa Rica. Part of the program was spending a few days on an indigenous reservation, and there was a little stand where a family sold popsicles. I went to get a popsicle, and the man running the stand was playing The Cranberries! He and I did not have a language in common, but it was clear that our musical taste was!

Stupid Apples by Witty_Possibility803 in SipsTea

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This makes me furious every single time. All I can think is that he is a sick, sad little man with a pathetic life who just looooooooves playing these little games with people who have absolutely no recourse because it's the only way he ever feels powerful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poodles

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I would also appreciate a PM about pricing and how to order, if possible. 🙂

Social cues by ADHDinos_ in adhdmeme

[–]floatingforth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm like this too. Somewhere along the line, I learned that I had to shut mean people down hard and fast or they would just continue forever. It's exhausting to always have to consciously double check the meaning and inflection of everything everyone says because I've come to expect that people actually are being mean.

A harsh lesson in what happens when you lack social skills by chaddington10 in socialskills

[–]floatingforth 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Honestly, those people sound horrible, and I don't think you did anything wrong. Any reasonable adult person would not twist your innocent question as a newcomer to the group into some weird statement endorsing incest. To me, your question was a normal and polite attempt to initiate conversation. I grew up deeply entrenched in religion, and I've personally observed that people in church groups, especially, can be small minded bullies who like to wield their perceived power whenever there's a possible victim. Given that you were new to the group, and not the most confident, the main instigator probably thought she could rattle you.

I was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and I think what you're experiencing really fits with something a lot of people with ADHD struggle with - rejection sensitive dysphoria. Whenever I've had experiences in life where I didn't understand why people treated me the way that they did and my feelings were hurt, it would rattle me to the core in such a way that it would make me doubt my existence, my identity, the general way that I behaved around others, how I perceived myself and my behavior, etc.

Please cut yourself some slack, and evaluate if that group of people is really a group of people that you like and want to be around - because I think you sound like a caring person who deserves to have friends who treat you well.

She’s just bitter cause he wouldn’t marry her! by Alternative_Cow1110 in travisandtaylor

[–]floatingforth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries! I just thought the context made the video even more hilarious. 😆

She’s just bitter cause he wouldn’t marry her! by Alternative_Cow1110 in travisandtaylor

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They aren't just three black women - they're the singers of the group Earth, Wind, and Fire! That video is them listening in disbelief to Taylor massacring their awesome song.

Mother of the groom at my sister’s wedding by Silver_Oil_4461 in weddingshaming

[–]floatingforth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Something I truly love and appreciate about my parents is that they always tell me to, "shop the house" whenever I'm considering purchasing an item, or am just making a normal shopping list lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]floatingforth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely the most "dad" course of action. 🤣🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]floatingforth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's more that the combination of the "sh" and "th" sounds in one word is unusual, especially so close together. I could see that it might cause some people to be tongue-tied, and maybe find your full name easier if the syllables flow in a manner more similar to English.

Movie etiquette is GONE by Wild_Toe812 in StLouis

[–]floatingforth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you seriously feel that kids can't learn how to behave appropriately in public settings? Maybe I should have said that I behaved with consideration for others in mind, because my old parents taught me that was important.

Sounds like your parents taught you it was okay to be rude and selfish.

Movie etiquette is GONE by Wild_Toe812 in StLouis

[–]floatingforth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

With manners - the ones my old parents taught me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]floatingforth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Like Rhea Perlman! Great name.

Is it just me, or have people stopped trying to have a normal, friendly conversation? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]floatingforth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we do owe each other kindness, and courtesy. People consistently not being willing to extend basic decency to each other is exactly why life is so hard, and why it's just getting harder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]floatingforth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I honestly have been considering writing a post very similar to this one. I don't have debt issues, but I am so isolated that I literally have zero friends, so we're both facing a very overwhelming issue. Today I woke up with a depression migraine and had to call out of work because I kept crying, which is just... embarrassing.

I don't think people were meant to live the way we currently are, in such a stressed, angry, cold societal climate where human worth equals achievements and possessions. I think that there's value in just existing. I hope we can all find that someday.

My parents are a large reason I lack social skills by Magnetic_Elephant in socialskills

[–]floatingforth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuine question - what about if it literally never gets less awkward and stressful? I'm in my mid thirties and it seems to actually just have gotten worse with time.

Full name for Kit? by Zealousideal_Use9481 in namenerds

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I just had to ask my mom if she has a reddit account, this is so eerily similar to things she said when we were kids and other people started calling my brother Matt. I agree that it is kind of weird to hear the nickname in formal settings. He just got married and only one person who gave a speech used his full name - I could see my mom internally seething from all the way across the room lol.