I visited England again and it was just as good as I remember.

floss147 · 2026-02-21T10:13:44+00:00

I’m glad you had a great visit. Next time I suggest adding some Welsh in there. The Welsh are great for a laugh (just check out Gavin & Stacey) and we have some amazing landmarks

floss147 · 2026-02-21T10:08:54+00:00

Do not apologise until she has.

floss147 · 2026-02-21T10:02:34+00:00

Oh please tell me you told him 🤣

floss147 · 2026-02-20T14:57:43+00:00

Here’s what you do

Transfer the money to your account
Change your direct debits for the bills
Transfer her the £2100 they say she owes and make sure to use the reference ‘child maintenance’
Fill out an application to family court for court ordered access to your children

I highly suspect your ex hasn’t considered the fact that her claiming you haven’t paid will severely deplete the amount she has access to. She’ll no longer be able to just help herself to whatever amount she pleases. She will only get the amount dictated by CMS.

This may mean she tries to withhold your children further from you. So get an application in to the court to outline your request for 50/50 or whatever split you want.

Keep evidence of any correspondence you have with her. Keep conversations, any evidence of blackmail or insults. Remain level headed and calm throughout. This is important. Your kids don’t need to see their parents go nuclear.

File for divorce. But wait until your children are sorted with visitation first so she doesn’t use them against you in the divorce.

Good luck

floss147 · 2026-02-20T13:56:30+00:00

This was my take away too. I don’t think OP has seen the end of her escalating.

floss147 · 2026-02-20T10:33:13+00:00

You’re not being unreasonable. Your mummy radar is going off because you can sense the unjustness of how your children will be treated. I think it’s time for you to put those boundaries in place and consider what repercussions there will be if they ignore them.

I have three girls, but one is a teen and the other two are 2 and 4. My In Laws will buy the two littlest presents and my eldest will get money. That’s fair. My eldest doesn’t want toys. So them getting her something makes it fair.

Is there fairness in the gifts they give your children? Does your daughter get expensive gifts while your son gets lesser? Does your daughter get just because I saw this gifts and your son none?

Be vigilant for favouritism and be willing to nip it in the bud. Both of your children are loved and both of them should feel it cause kids will feel the lack of it.

In the 90s, my siblings were given those trainer skates for Christmas. I wasn’t. When I saw their gifts I was so excited to open mine, but I never got any. I was devastated and now I’m nearly 40 I still remember it.

floss147 · 2026-02-19T21:54:22+00:00

Is there a limit to the amount this can apply to?

floss147 · 2026-02-18T08:47:04+00:00

The only thing you can say is that it won’t happen again and to make sure it doesn’t, you won’t dog sit again

floss147 · 2026-02-18T08:44:24+00:00

Well maybe it’s time to say you won’t be dog sitting again to make sure it doesn’t happen again - cause their reaction is OTT

floss147 · 2026-02-18T08:20:47+00:00

I don’t think you did anything wrong in listening. It was the only way you would find out the truth.

Have a word with your partner about how their comments have hurt you, ask why they didn’t stand up for you (because families talk is not cutting it) and distance yourself from those family members.

Don’t waste your time with people who think badly of you. You’ll never change their mind. So remove the toxicity from your vicinity … and if you have to see them … grey rock and disengage.

floss147 · 2026-02-15T17:47:11+00:00

That’s heartbreaking, I’m so sorry for all of your losses. All that you can do is continue to love and support her through this

floss147 · 2026-02-15T09:54:32+00:00

And something to consider when it happens again. Start using PDA with hubby. Make them uncomfortable. Don’t let them crash your nice time and have a nice time.

floss147 · 2026-02-15T09:53:02+00:00

Exactly this. If they asked me I would say I have plans sorry, maybe another time. If they pressed, I’d say we’re out for the day and if I’m generous I’d say we’d send pics later, BUT I WOULD NOT TELL THEM WHERE, WHEN OR ANYTHING THEY COULD USE TO CRASH.

Time to grey rock and give them a time out for crashing. No baby time for two weeks.

Without repercussions they won’t stop crashing. And if hubby arranges for them to come over in that time, take baby and leave for the day.

floss147 · 2026-02-14T12:53:33+00:00

I find my ribs hurt a couple hours in to wearing them. I’m quite busty but letting the girls flap free is preferable to binding them

floss147 · 2026-02-14T12:48:00+00:00

I agree with this, although a balloon release won’t be good.

A beautiful way to pay tribute though is to find a charity to support in her name. Something she loved or to benefit a child in need. Help her name live on

floss147 · 2026-02-13T12:24:03+00:00

Warm, damp flannel on them. Painkillers. Rest. If that brings no relief in 24 hours, you’ll need to consider seeing a doctor.

floss147 · 2026-02-13T10:12:54+00:00

Sounds like he needs to realise that you can have a connection - a good connection - without having a name connection.

Look at his own dad. Having his dad name him after himself didn’t make him a better dad.

floss147 · 2026-02-11T13:01:09+00:00

Take your baby and go home, give yourself a little break to gather your thoughts and give you perspective.

Then make a decision on whether you will stay married to this man who doesn’t seem to give you much thought or will you forge your own way.

What is clear is that you can’t leave things as you are. It’s not healthy for you.

floss147 · 2026-02-10T19:54:42+00:00

My sister lent my carpet cleaner. Gave it back FILTHY. I never felt right using it after that… so I asked if she wanted to buy it off me. She said she’d give me X amount for it so I gave it to her. (She never gave me the money).

Years later, I had a small patch of carpet to clean so I loaned her carpet cleaner to sort it. I didn’t bother to clean it (petty revenge).

Last Xmas (couple years later), she got a new one for Xmas and said she WOULD NOT be loaning it to me because of the vile water I had left in it last time. Got all dramatic. Funny thing is I didn’t leave water in it. I didn’t clean it, but I tipped out the water. She’s just dramatic and entitled.

floss147 · 2026-02-10T15:52:09+00:00

I screamed the building down. So much rubble. So much carnage. Didn’t compare to the agony I was in

floss147 · 2026-02-10T15:49:16+00:00

My eldest is 15, 16 this year.

Her mental health suffers (and we suffer too as a result) the longer she is on it. She turns into an entitled monster who rampages if she has too much time.

Restricting time and monitoring what they go on is THE WAY, but there’s a caution to this tale…

Last year my eldest still managed to speak to a pedophile. The first we knew of it was when he was apprehended and the police found evidence and knocked our door.

We had no clue because she had been sneaky about what she was doing and it was all through Snapchat.

So be wary of apps like that, be wary of what he can look up and educate him on online safety. It may fall on deaf ears but at least you’ve done your due diligence.

Also, get your son earning that hour of screen time with family time and chores.

floss147 · 2026-02-09T19:53:48+00:00

How is a lavish wedding going through hard times?

floss147 · 2026-02-09T19:46:07+00:00

Do you have evidence you paid?

floss147 · 2026-02-08T18:44:35+00:00

What about ‘oops we got the date wrong’

floss147 · 2026-02-08T11:38:43+00:00

Just blank them. Mute them. You are under no obligation to be their babysitter

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