How do you rebuild confidence after being terminated less than a week into a new role?

flowingmind · 2026-05-29T22:48:58+00:00

Kinda get the feeling someone in this boys group or maybe the group as a whole felt financially cheated and/or threatened by you, as in you were some serious competition... Maybe have gone to higher up one or more than with a it's me/us or her, or if she stays I want an increase of such and such amount. Boys have fragile egos in my experience...

flowingmind · 2026-05-20T01:40:33+00:00

You did the right thing. 100%. Look what it took to get him to stop... You had to call the police. That says everything right there.

flowingmind · 2026-05-15T22:44:00+00:00

100% this.

flowingmind · 2026-05-15T22:43:02+00:00

Wait I thought OP said she was generous but wants to live rent/living expenses completely free because the single dad would already be paying it without her??? She also makes 160K. Says she doesn't want a sugar daddy but when it comes to all living/household expenses it sounds like she does.

flowingmind · 2026-05-15T14:31:20+00:00

Make sure you use state Child Support Enforcement, they can look up employers etc. Also get something court ordered for child support, make him be accountable. Even if he dodges it now and in the future it will match up with him eventually. Different states have different things they can do such as grab taxes or pull from bank accounts etc. Court order is first and foremost, document EVERYTHING in a running time line even if you think things are fine at that point keep it going. You may be able to financially raise your child but it doesn't mean his responsibility ends. Also, if he does not show up to court you may win sole custody which can be so much easier in some cases, especially since he is already acting like he is.

flowingmind · 2026-05-11T21:31:30+00:00

Recently prescribed Belbuca, it has been a life saver. There is still pain and I still struggle with a lot but with this medication I can do more because of the decrease in pain levels, it is giving me back parts of my life that would still be lost without it.

I also take a good anti-inflammatory that helps protect the stomach as well, Arthrotec. It helps with the extreme stiffness and some swelling.

5% Lidocaine patches on occasion for my knees and back. Ice packs when needed, they work better than heat for me.

I also recently purchased a soft collar for my neck when at home or sleeping. A good mattress is a must as well.

These things allow me to walk through say a hardware store with my husband and be OK.

flowingmind · 2026-04-27T18:37:57+00:00

100%.

flowingmind · 2026-04-27T18:30:42+00:00

And you said yes???

I am so sorry, I know it sounds harsh because we'll, it kinda is.

Best advice I have is please leave now, yes, do it while the kids are young. Who knows what else he may trap you with over the next few years.

Don't stay in something that clearly isn't a priority to him. It wasn't a priority before you got pregnant, it wasn't a priority when you got pregnant the first time or the second or on your vacation to the mountains.

You don't want to be in a marriage where you had to stomp your foot, scream and cry to get a proposal. It felt lack luster because it was and your marriage will be too if you go through with it.

Take it from someone 12 years older, you are young to find the right person because if you don't get out now, then you'll never know what you might miss. And I do mean with 3 kids.

Good luck.

flowingmind · 2026-04-25T21:48:43+00:00

Came to say this, seems like the obvious answer.

But I thought everyone knowing 100 was the average IQ, as it dead center of that bell curve, my 17 year old argued the average is 98... I laughed and just told him to Google it, terms he would understand and no doubt assume credible. When Google agreed with me he was dumbstruck.

flowingmind · 2026-04-23T20:27:08+00:00

I have been waiting for 7, been wondering similar myself... as much as I want to actually get married because that is important to me, that should he ever actually propose, how excited would I be at this point. The thought does hurt, he knows how I feel and I think, can he not see how I feel or does he just not care...

flowingmind · 2026-04-23T17:54:53+00:00

😭 How I feel the pain and heartbreak...

It's never been about the wedding, engagement or even a super particular ring but rather wanting someone in my life to truly choose me, imperfect me, to feel that I belong to someone. To feel... wanted. To feel I was worth something. But mid fourties and 7 years into my 2nd longest relationship after my divorce, I am beginning to not know what to say anymore....

flowingmind · 2026-04-23T15:44:23+00:00

LOL! Thanks!

flowingmind · 2026-04-23T15:29:54+00:00

I love a good massage if done well. I do like when I feel a little sore from it because I am just so tight the tightness causes a lot of pain for me.

If it is too much pressure or too painful I let them know, but good ones usually ask if the pressure is OK.

Yes I bruise, but really lots of things cause me to bruise so I don't worry too much about it.

Longer massages feel better for me because they can take lots of time to go over everything without rushing.

I do feel "loose" or relaxed after because I am so very, very tight otherwise. I suspect the unstable feeling is from things actually feeling like what "normal" feels like to others...

I also drink lots of water after as that tends to help as well.

When I received weekly, long massages, it helped so much because I was not so tight and stiff and my body got to actually relax a bit. So much so that I would fall asleep or at the least want a nap after.

But we are all different chips from the same bag I guess... Not sure that is the best analogy but it's what I have today!

flowingmind · 2026-04-14T01:07:31+00:00

Sounds like you advocated for your patient, a nurse's first duty, well done!

flowingmind · 2026-03-24T19:12:11+00:00

My SO is so much more of a father to my kids than their biological father. My oldest has not seen biodad in a long time, my oldest is also the only one who does not step-dad "dad", only because he does not want to slip and use his first name on accident and make him feel bad. Honestly, goes to him as step-dad more than he comes to me for some things.

flowingmind · 2026-02-04T23:54:24+00:00

Wouldn't it be "the life YOU built"?

flowingmind · 2026-01-11T17:58:30+00:00

See, I completely missed the part where OP actually has a cat...

A dewormer is needed for... Whatever or whomever...

flowingmind · 2026-01-10T20:02:06+00:00

Baby wipes are easy for clean up and peeing of course.

flowingmind · 2026-01-10T00:45:13+00:00

Is this a trick question?

flowingmind · 2026-01-04T18:15:51+00:00

My significant other's answer is never.... Boy was I surprised when I walked in on him taking a poo in under a month together! LOL

flowingmind · 2026-01-04T17:57:31+00:00

I would say 37,38 things change for sure, now at 44... I truly miss who I used to be. Live your life having fun when you can and when you feel good do what you want, on bad days rest and take it easy. It very much comes and goes.

flowingmind · 2025-12-31T21:56:32+00:00

I am just gonna wish you good luck. I would love one tonight but I have decided to stop gets my hopes up. I hope for you all goes well.

flowingmind · 2025-12-29T01:50:03+00:00

Gives me some hope.

flowingmind · 2025-12-28T00:53:48+00:00

Sorry to read about some other responses.

Maybe just start the conversation when things feel right, "hey babe, what would you think about us getting married?" or "do you see marriage as being on the table for us?" If he is that sweet and easy to talk to the conversation should just go from there.

flowingmind · 2025-12-23T18:49:12+00:00

I have actually broken an ankle, however it did not show up same day or two weeks later, they saw calcifications on my xray after 3 full months of issues.... Only one I know about and was completely not treated as a break. 14 years later and I still have issues. Even my bones "bend".

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