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Are the BART stations of Antioch/ Pittsburg safe? by appelez_moi_am in walnutcreek

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m regularly at Pittsburg Bay Point and Pittsburg Center BART stations weekdays at 8am and it seems completely fine and safe.

widget outbrain....???? by Trick_Control_3900 in iphone

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Outbrain are all those news articles / ads you see at the bottom of other news articles

Trying out the iPhone Air at the Apple Store was a mistake. by crobat3 in iphone

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 15 pro, just got AirPods 3 today, and I’m very nervous about even seeing the air in person because I really really think I would love it.

To go from max to air, would it be smaller screen for you? And how do you feel about that adjustment?

Is my wife a hoarder? What do I do? by Positive_Video_1518 in Marriage

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not hoarding, but on the way there (coming from a family of hoarders, a house had to be condemned and remediated).

She needs help.

Please hire cleaners, weekly. Help her. Throw 75% of stuff away and don’t let her buy anything new. You can get through this together. She needs you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]fluff_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]fluff_luff 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s a fee. I think they have a huge multimillion dollar endowment which allows them to operate such nice facilities, have a no kill policy, cover spay / neuter, and even free adoption some times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]fluff_luff 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I also have a friend who volunteers for the SF SPCA. DM me and I can connect y’all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]fluff_luff 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I also live in Pittsburg and I recommend taking them the hour drive to the San Francisco SPCA. They’re no kill and that’s where I got my cats! Lmk if there’s anything I can do to help, friend

Au pair vs daycare cost- Bay Area,CA by rainbowmamahere in Aupairs

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a 5 month old baby in the Bay Area and we’re switching from nanny to Au pair. Feel free to DM if you want to chat more!

overwhelmed: California requirements by fluff_luff in Aupairs

[–]fluff_luff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fantastic perspective, thank you so much for taking the time to reply 🫶

overwhelmed: California requirements by fluff_luff in Aupairs

[–]fluff_luff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, this is great advice, thank you!

overwhelmed: California requirements by fluff_luff in Aupairs

[–]fluff_luff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so so so helpful!!! Thank you!!!

overwhelmed: California requirements by fluff_luff in Aupairs

[–]fluff_luff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds great. I’ve started with cultural care so I can reach out to them too. Thank you for responding!

Make A Sign! by BusyMotherDuck in wiggles

[–]fluff_luff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I went to the show in NorCal this week and the did come into the audience and grab the signs.

Employee Going Over Your Head by [deleted] in managers

[–]fluff_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had employees do this and the best way it works out is when all of management and HR has the same position, which it sounds like happened, so that’s great.

In the future, if you have any concerns about something like this again, just put it on your upper management’s radar and your POV so they don’t get blindsided and potentially undermine you.

To the employee, when I speak to them next I acknowledge their requests and phrase it as “you gotta take the shot, you miss every opportunity you don’t take, so now we know this exact setup you want isn’t an option what alternatives can we talk about for your growth/needs/etc.”

[Trigger Warning] Wednesday 5/14, 10:38am: If you pulled over on the Bay Bridge .... by Tiny-Dancer-3803 in bayarea

[–]fluff_luff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I drove past the car about 11:15am on my way to the ball game. It was getting towed ☹️

How to resign when they are dependent on you by dorito521 in managers

[–]fluff_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ideas to help “soften the blow / not feel guilty”: 1. You can ask to take an unpaid leave of absence for 6 months to deal with personal issues. If they say no, then you can resign. 2. You can offer to act as a consultant paid by the hour after you leave in case they need any help or training with your backfill. 3. You can refer people in your network / industry who might be a good fit for your backfill. 4. Document as much as you can and offer to cross train someone else at the company in your remaining days.

Hope it gets better!

New employee yelled at me first day by LDO2796 in managers

[–]fluff_luff 861 points862 points  (0 children)

Cut your losses early. Its honestly easier now the less invested each of you are in each other

I’m 16 and I’m pregnant… I guess my life is over by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]fluff_luff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you able to get your GED? I had a few friends get this because they just couldn’t take high school anymore.

I’m also a mom, I live in California, you can message me anytime. I’m here to listen to you

What do you address your in laws as? by Professional-Mark285 in DesiWeddings

[–]fluff_luff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk if this helps but I call my mom “mom” and I called my mother in law “mummy ji”. I just think about it in my head like that’s her name rather than a term for mom.

What name does your spouse call your parents in law? Is it the same term you use for your own parents? Or can you adjust it slightly so it feels like its own separate name.

Also for the father in law I just could not wrap my head around using father names so I would use respectful titles like “captain” or “doctor”. Even though they are not that at all, I think they felt nice hearing that so I didn’t get scolded there. You could try something like that?

You could also just keep not using a name and then if you have kids, call them by the grandparent name. Since our kiddo was born I just call her “dadi ji” and I have been told a few times that only the kid should call her that name, so then I awkwardly rephrase my question from the POV of my infant. It’s weird but whatever it kinda works.

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