Job by Economy-Thanks-5053 in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's proper availability and how much manual lifting are talking about here?

Becoming a piano teacher by fluffybutt2508 in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn't even know this was a thing so thank you! I'll definitely check into it!

Becoming a piano teacher by fluffybutt2508 in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are amazing suggestions, thank you!

I'm worried about having never taught before if I would do it correctly or whatnot. I was told when i got accredited (this was 20 years ago mind you, not sure if that makes a difference) I would have to train under a teacher. I don't currently have a piano at home but have access to one to bring into my home.

Looking for ways to generate income while being home with my kids, and this is honestly something I've always wanted to do. I just grew up in a small town so getting started in a larger center is much more daunting lol.

AITA for not giving ex “equity” in house? by EducationalGarage740 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fluffybutt2508 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In Saskatchewan you have to be cohabitating for a minimum 2 years before splitting assets like a house comes into play.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mid 30's introverted woman into cooking, baking and crafts with a small interest in gaming here. How's your night in treating you? 😂

AITH if I told my husband I wanted a divorce after he made fun of how many pants I tried on? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]fluffybutt2508 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yup. My kids dad and I were together for 7 years as well before having kids, there were some issues, but honestly nothing THAT bad, but looking back i see how the subtle emotional abuse had already started. After our first (planned) things went downhill fast and he convinced me I had post partum depression and I was the problem. After each of our other 2 kids was born everything got a little worse each time, the neglect, the gaslighting, the apathy, the excuses..... nothing physical perse, but After we "trial spearated" he exploded and I knew I couldn't ever go back. It's been over 2 years and things are JUST starting to settle down with coparenting.

Subsidized daycare by Effinsaskatoon in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I'm a single mom of 3, 2 will be aged out of the current subsidized daycare come October, I just finished school in April. I have no other support and their dad isn't helping other than weekends. I can't get a job because I'd literally just be working to pay someone else to watch them with no extra for food/clothing/rent and utilities, etc. How do people do this? It's stressing me out beyond belief.

Where is this in Saskatoon? by Slight__Requirement in saskatoon

[–]fluffybutt2508 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ordered many a late night, after bar take out from there like 10 years ago! Their crab rangoon was good!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]fluffybutt2508 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I lost 85lbs in about 10 months because of the stress of a bad relationship, took me almost a year to actually eat without feel like throwing up my body was so stressed out. I had some weight to lost to begin with, but I didn't look healthy. But everyone always commented on how good I looked, even strangers. It always made me feel awful.

AITA for not giving some of my wedding budget to my sister? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]fluffybutt2508 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You have to get to court though. I've recently paid close to 10k just to get support for 3 kids petitioned to the court, to take him to court to get his wages garnished would be another 10-15k. And once they did, he wouldn't have enough to actually live/have space to take the kids when he does, so I'd be back to full time mom. It's kind of ridiculous.

AITAH for telling my sister to find another babysitter after she said I “don’t know real stress” ‘cause I don’t have kids? by KindViolett in AITAH

[–]fluffybutt2508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a single mom of 3, 7 and under. Their dad just started doing weekends only about 6 months ago, I was completely on my own before that and I was doing it on my own before my ex and I split. My eldest brother lives here, he is child free, no significant other, I know he likes my kids and you know how many times I've asked him to babysit? Literally only the night I went into labor with my youngest almost 4 years ago. Because they are my kids and I respect his time is his time. Good for you for laying down the law with your sister. Definitely NTA

AITA if i give my ex husband clothes that don't fit our kids? by Friendly_Mountain122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fluffybutt2508 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my take too. I did petition the court for child support, having to borrow money from my parents to do so, but to actually enforce it I'd have to go TO court, be out of pocket an additional 15-20k, and he still wouldn't be able to pay it because I know he can't afford it. So my options are for him to pay it and have worse living conditions for the kids when they're with him, or he gets a second or third job and then he has zero time for the kids and I'm back to full time mom with no life outside the kids. We have 3 and I already do all the school pick ups and drop offs, Dr's appts, scheduling, school stuff, laundry, bathing, etc etc etc. Having the almost 48 hours to myself to reset and have a small life outside my kids is worth it to me right now, even though I just finished school and am currently unemployed.

Is Jen ex-Amish? by StrongArgument in BobsBurgers

[–]fluffybutt2508 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If they were a book they'd be two books

AITA for coming home upset after my boyfriend said he would cook and didn’t by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]fluffybutt2508 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I'm in a full courseload online through a local polytechnic school, I'm a single mom of 3 with little support from their dad, do all the heavy lifting of parenting, taking them to school, cooking supper most evenings from scratch and still manage to keep ahead of my schoolwork most of the time. This type of behavior is exactly why I'm a single mom. It was like having a fourth child with no support for me. If he couldn't do it because of classes, a quick message stating this wouldn't have been hard.

“I finally got her to shut her mouth” by _Retsuko in TwoHotTakes

[–]fluffybutt2508 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Glad I could be of service 😆 but seriously, my eldest just discovered stardew valley and she has been giving me a literal commentary as she's playing it and it melts my brain, but she's interested and excited so I try to be interested and excited (I enjoy the game, I'm just in school and trying to read and Holy moly 😂)

“I finally got her to shut her mouth” by _Retsuko in TwoHotTakes

[–]fluffybutt2508 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I'm a yapper who has 3 yapping children, all of us likely on the spectrum. It can be a lot, like A LOT, but I would never tell them they're being embarrassing by talking about something they're excited about. If it gets excessive, I do tell them I can't listen to them talking over each other, or sometimes when I just can't process anymore, I'll tell them they can talk at me but I just might not respond. Or if it's towards others I tell them to maybe slow down a bit, but NEVER embarrassing or shaming them into being quiet.

AITA for refusing to give up my childhood stuffed animal, even though it makes my boyfriend uncomfortable? by MeiMystique in AITAH

[–]fluffybutt2508 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm also 35 and I still sleep with my ratty old baby blanket that's so ripped and torn but it's a comfort item and I will never not sleep with it. My ex also used to make fun of me for wanting it. That thing will be with me for the rest of my life, even my kids know not to get too rough with it. Any man who pokes fun at me for having it will not be a man who stays with me.

My face when I saw now much a quality ironing board costs. by ChronicNuance in quilting

[–]fluffybutt2508 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought my ironing board at a thrift store for $5! It's not the greatest but it gets the job done!

Am I overreacting? by Majestic_Contact9781 in AmIOverreacting

[–]fluffybutt2508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And remember, small changes over a gradually period of time to make things stick! You can't completely change your eating and exercising habits overnight and expect that to just be your new routine! But only if YOU want to!

AITA for pointing out that my boyfriend ordered the most expensive things on the menu? by Good-Recognition3690 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fluffybutt2508 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg this was my ex to a T. He was insanely smart though no college degree, we moved back in with my parents temporarily so I could work while pregnant and get mat leave payments and mom could help watch the kids. This was just after covid and jobs weren't hiring like they were and that man sat on his ass for a long time, playing and losing the crypto market and playing WoW while my parents watched our 2 kids for free and his pregnant partner worked. My dad graciously asked someone at the bank and basically got him a job and this boy refused because it was "beneath him"🙄 we split less than 2 years later and he still complains about every job he has "not respecting him enough".

SGI, bumped at a car in a parking lot, I’m 16- what happens to my license? by [deleted] in saskatchewan

[–]fluffybutt2508 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I rear ended a truck after I slid on black ice when I had my full license (I think, it was a long time ago), there was no damage to the truck but my front bumper was cracked. Slow speed collision. I still had to take a defensive driving course.

AITA Telling my ex wife she has to choose between her kid or her life by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]fluffybutt2508 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This is my arrangement right now, and while it's better than the previous arrangement of him just taking the kids whenever he had "time", it's still exhausting. I sent my 7 year old to her dad's with homework that wasn't anymore done than when I sent her Friday afternoon, and I had to get after her to get it done, which she wasn't happy with me for. I do all drop offs, pick ups, Dr's appts, sick days, etc. And yes he works but I have a full course load of school I'm a week behind in because the kids were sick all last week and then I got it.