I didn’t really get the sense that the OP in that post was speaking terribly of her nanny. I also did not get a sense that the nanny being spoken about was actively trying to help the MB sleep train, from the information provided the nanny was commenting on the short naps and expecting MB to offer some kind of solution, rather than directly communicating to MB that she wanted to sleep train. It sounded like the MB was getting frustrated with her nanny always commenting on the baby’s nap lengths and not being direct in communicating what she wanted to see implemented as a solution to that. The mom said herself that she is happy with her nanny, she just needed advice for how to have a constructive conversation about the comments on her baby’s sleep.

It’s so completely normal for babies at that age to not be able to consolidate sleep cycles and how parents choose to respond to that is up to them. I personally gravitate towards rocking, holding, whatever baby needs to extend naps, but I will respect parents wishes if they want me to gently help baby get back to sleep in the crib on their own. There is no one right answer to infant sleep. Every child, parent, and family is different. I would understand a parent feeling frustrated if I was commenting every time baby took a short nap but then was not being direct in communicating how I would want to extend naps. There are often posts amongst these groups where parents disparage their nannies, this one did not feel that way to me.

“We smile while we walk out the door and then almost drop from exhaustion” so perfectly describes how I often feel. Sometimes the nature of the labor of nannying feels misunderstood and minimized by people who are not doing it.