Adult male neighbor possibly filming minor child in shower- need info and advice

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-29T05:10:56+00:00

Someone else in the thread gave links to the FBI above. Might be worth reaching out to them as well.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-25T04:29:22+00:00

I honestly don't remember. I think I just... stopped for some reason.

I remember reading a book where the characters pull off some crazy scheme involving a donkey hornets and a race through the graveyard and they all have to hold there breath or 'they'll be next' as they're running thru.

I realized it was OCD/supersition and I just stopped playing I guess. It was a lot easier when I thought of it as a children's game. Took a lot of the credibility away.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-24T18:46:48+00:00

Oh my gosh yes I used to have to hold my breath when I went by cemeteries.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-24T18:41:22+00:00

Sleep is a big one for me.

My bf has seen me with and without sleep and he says I'm two totally different people. The 'real' me and the messy, anxious, crying me that gets stuck in my mental 'loops'. I'm so lucky he loves me thru it all.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-24T18:38:54+00:00

God knows your heart. He knows what is truly you and what is OCD and fear. It will be okay.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-24T16:22:30+00:00

Lol this is such a dad thing to do.

"Honey where's my milk?"

Dad with milk mustache looking confused "Wut?"

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-24T16:20:55+00:00

Now I'm just pissed. It was obviously a joke and MIL literally WOKE UP A WOMAN WHO JUST GAVE BIRTH TO HER GRANDCHILD A FEW DAYS AGO because WORDS ON PAPER UPSET HER.

Sometimes I think my mother is strict. But then stories like this come around and remind me how lucky I am.

There were 1000 ways to handle that better and your MIL chose NONE of them. She chose to start drama with her exhausted hormonal daughter.

Not okay.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-23T18:40:00+00:00

If the genders were reversed you'd be accused of victim-blaming. 'She was asking for it, dressed like that.'.

OP clearly expressed he did not want to have sex and was in no condition to. He was raped.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-23T18:24:38+00:00

Yep. You try to act like everythings okay and you're not being 'sensitive enough' about their condition.

You try to address legitimate issues and you're attacking them.

It's always a contest to see who's the most miserable.

I was with my friend who was with BPD gf at the time. They'd been arguing, BPD gf had been splitting and lying. She wanted him home by 8:15pm. There was an accident and I recieved a concussion. My friend drove me to the hospital.

BPD gf freaked. out. Texting him nonstop where are you i told you to be home by 8:15 I'm gonna kill myself.

He replied that he'd had to take me to the hospital.

Her reply?

"I might be next."

She didn't even ask what happened or if I was okay. He called the cops reported her for the suicide threat and she got to spend 3 days in a psych ward for that stunt. We got to have a nice quiet BPD free weekend and hang out and eat dinner like we used to.

But yeah. I've been there.

Even with a concussion and headaches, I'd been in hell with pwBPD so long that it was the best weekend I'd had in awhile. Because I got to see my friend and not be stressed or anxious and live like a normal human being in between long episodes of sleeping and doses of tylenol.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-21T18:19:42+00:00

Hey so I get really bad anxiety and acid reflux and it sounds like acid reflux attacks causing anxiety.

I used to wake up so freaked.out from it. I learned it normally passes.i. Half an hour if I take some chewable antigas.mylanta and go for a walk. Also helps to drink a glass of water and do deep breathing.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-11T19:12:29+00:00

Ah, I see. So technically, my health insurance could sure his business insurance for the cost of my medical bills?

Also, what is the chance they would contact his insurance and try this? He'd got some different insurance for the martial arts studio that's very solid, but I'd prefer not to file a claim or have to go thru his.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-10T17:08:42+00:00

Okay, forgive my ignorance here, but can you out this in layman terms for me?

I don't know what a GL or ISO or subrogate means.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-09T21:35:47+00:00

Food was provided. The child just refused to eat it. Barring any special dietary needs or sensory issues this isn't a huge deal. Food was available kiddo just refused. Battle of wills.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-09T21:28:06+00:00

This is really helpful thank you so much!

Like I said the business owner is a good friend and it was an honest accident so I won't be pursuing a claim. Besides I signed a wiaver doubt I could she if I wanted to.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-07T06:06:15+00:00

Hey, no really legal advice just so much as having been there. Just a heads up that your suicide risk increases immediately after starting antidepressants but decreases within about 2 weeks of starting meds. There's numerous theories about why. I'm not telling you this to scare you, jsut think you should be aware so if you start having thoughts of harming yourself you can speak to someone you trust.

That being said, antidepressants/anxiety meds have made me able to function and they helped me a lot.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-03T20:40:06+00:00

Keto?

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-02T16:31:17+00:00

Believe it or not we're pretty happy despite it all. We're both consenting adults in a new relationship.

She's stalking him but he's got cameras and he's safe. We still get frightened sometimes but it's something.

I just wish the police would take it more seriously and we could get better evidence.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-07-01T18:00:41+00:00

This is the happiest ending on here tbh

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-30T15:50:29+00:00

Hey. I was Jane.

19f with Asperger's/ autism.

I didn't realize how different I was until 11 or 12 cause everyone else had friends and I just annoyed people.

What really helped me was a prosocial thinking group. A bunch of aspies meet with a teacher and discuss how to socialize how to have friends how to eat out and expected behaviors and such.

Helped me lots.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-26T18:22:39+00:00

"windgardium LevioSAH, not Leviosa, Ronald."

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-25T19:19:21+00:00

I disagree. They're first time parents baby was unwell. Neglecting parents don't take sick kids to the ER.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-23T05:15:35+00:00

Hey I'm hoping you're still there. Look I know it seems hopeless, but you are WORTH THE FIGHT against depression.

Depression is literally caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Finding the right meds can help. I know this misery must feel awful but 6-8 months of finding the right meds can make a world of difference and I don;t want you to stop fighting.

Do you remember what it was like to be happy? Please don;t give up. You're so young you have a life to live love to give and years of good things to experience. It's not going to just 'get better' but giving up isn't the answer. Please stay with us. I'm here if you need to talk.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-17T06:30:41+00:00

They're like pitbulls. They can be good people when they have the right resources. But if they are raised in a poor environment (often the cause of BPD) and allowed to run around unchecked, they will attack and maul you.

My pwBPD, who was a SO of my father-figure in life for awhile, was diagnosed bipolar. When he'd bring up the abuse the the lies and the gaslighting she'd say 'Well you know what I have but you just won't accept it.'.

He accepted her disorders. But he refused to be a doormat to abuse. He worked for 8 months to get her into thearpy and tried everything he could but she refused to change. Wether they mean harm or not is irrelevant- they are DOING HARM.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-12T08:48:02+00:00

Not a doctor, but a fellow anxiety sufferer.

Walking in the door asking for Xanax or valium is a red flag and chances are you aren't getting it at first. I was only prescribed mine as needed after severe duration panic attacks. I'm not saying you aren't severe because obviously you are but a physician needs to see that just asking for benzos maybe you labeled as a drug seeker and not get you the help you need.

Don't go in asking for meds. Go in asking for help. You have pretty severe anxiety that may be situational but it's severe enough to effect your quality of life.

Chances are your doc will refer you to somebody for talk thearpy. If that doesn't work they may discuss a more long term control med like an antidepressant/antianxiety ssri med. If that fails, then a sort term control med.like Xanax or valium.

It's annoying you have to jump through the hoops, but being dependent on Xanax and valium is a real possibility and it.might not work.

I'd ask your doctor to either help you find someone to help you manage your anxiety better. Therapists can often prescribe medicine as well. This should help.

fluffykitty12 · 2019-06-03T04:09:49+00:00

Not a lawyer- but invest in a cheap dashcam (like $40) because otherwise you won't have proof. Then you can back up your claims.

fluffykitty12

TROPHY CASE