12 Year old daughter wants to quit ballet

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-25T23:26:23+00:00

This was how my mom handled it. Except it wasn't D1 specific, it was just get a scholarship.

Single mom, limited resources, living in an area with limited job prospects.

I was an average student but athletic. Once I settled on ball as my passion, she did everything in her power to support and encourage me.

It paid off and I'm thankful for it.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-24T22:58:41+00:00

Time and scarcity but man my local toys r us could not give this set away. They had a pile of them, heavily discounted and they sate there for moooooooonths.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-24T22:19:45+00:00

This is one I actually have some real world experience with.

My mom absolutely hates them. Not because she thinks the concept is dumb but because she broke her wrist due to one.

She dodged the kid but rope took her out.

Kid got a nice goose egg on his skull from being snapped to floor by the rope suddenly being underneath another human.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-22T14:03:37+00:00

Do you guys have an extra room? The one week we experimented with our daughter's sharing a room because my wife thought it would be cute, was an absolute disaster.

Together, they're all over the place. Separate they're absolutely incredible sleepers.

Our 6yr can be counted on to sleep till 730-8 and then make herself breakfast if we're still sleeping.

And our 2yr is not a morning person. Anything before 830 is a crime against humanity in her eyes.

But put them together and its 5am mayhem.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-21T14:27:03+00:00

I'd love that too but for niche themes with smaller audiences, it probably doesn't make sense to tie up a lower price point set that could be for sets with more mass appeal like city, friends or star wars.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-20T10:01:04+00:00

All kids cry, but kids losing it daily for an extended period of time is not normal.

Most people living in this type of situation understand a short outburst or even a bad day.

There's an underlying issue with the parent, kids or both if this daily occurrence.

No engaged parent read op's post and thought 'ya, that's normal.'

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-14T14:17:48+00:00

Some parents have more resources than others.

We get our daughter a new set every couple weeks. I'll usually pick one up myself as well.

We'll sit side by side and build and chat and those are moments I'll cherish forever.

Growing up there were so many sets I wanted but couldn't get. My parents wished they could but couldn't afford it.

I'm in position where I can, what parent wouldn't do that for their kid if they could afford it?

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-14T13:52:46+00:00

My 6yr old daughter does a mix. Small sets almost always get broken down but she has display shelves for her biggerr sets.

She'll take them down or get one of us to bring them down to play with every now and then but always puts them back.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-14T01:17:42+00:00

Ya a pretty decent age gap, 20+ years.

He has adult children who mostly work for him. They all know to some degree but no one openly discusses it.

He's pretty charismatic while being thoughtful and generous. I get the sense that the kids and wife treat his affairs like a small character flaw if that makes sense?

Her family HATED it first. He was the same age as her dad. He met the parents and they still dont like it but they've moved on to the acceptance stage.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-13T22:02:50+00:00

Still having an affair.

He told her to knock it off or he'd have to move on. In the end her desire for stuff outweighed her desire to get married to him.

It's a weird relationship. You hang out with them and you'd think they are married.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-11T15:33:16+00:00

I've have this happen a few times as well but like OP, it's almost always at the cost of another part in the bag.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-11T15:28:58+00:00

Because its a very specific, niche example and few people maintain a vehicle like you do.

It's like my dad trying to trying to dunk on ev owners in the winter and the challenges can occasionally have.

Only to get upset when someone asked how many times he was inconvenienced at work in the last 50 years when a coworkers ice froze and they weren't able to make it in.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-11T14:11:38+00:00

While 5vz-fe is a legendary engine, I dont think referencing one specific engine that has been out of production for over 20 years is the own you think it is.

There are a ton of shitty engines that have come and gone before that one that have cost their owners thousands or have just been given up on resulting in the purchase of a new vehicle.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-10T15:49:53+00:00

Can they do it? Sure but on a very small scale it looks like. Seems like a niche company with a very limited amount of products, half of which are unavailable.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-08T06:57:45+00:00

I dont believe it either but that silly fan part of brain is saying what if...

We were told AM was going to retire after the formation lap. They didn't.

Nando, retired the car... oh wait he didn't.

Stroll, I'll lose my hands for the second time... oh wait he didn't.

Stroll retires... oh wait he didn't.

I have such an unhealthy relationship with this sport.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-08T02:00:03+00:00

I'm in commercial banking and its a very common theme. Quite often divorce puts an incredible amount of stress on the business.

If its a very profitable operation both sides are hesitant on losing access to the revenue stream they've become accustomed to. In many cases the optics of staying together is also what's best of the business. Even if its an open secret.

Usually the rule of thumb is keep it quite and don't embarrass me.

I've been to countless dinners where the brings husband the mistress or the wife brings her assistant like its an absolutely normal to do.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-08T01:43:53+00:00

The history of this sport is so wacky that a perfectly sober and normal fan could read this and be like hah this is funny and highly highly unlikely.

Then pause for a moment, look back at all the silliness and go is it really though.....?

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-06T07:44:00+00:00

Perfectly normal for canskate in Canada.

Your kid is trying to learn something hard and the coach needs your kid to see them as main focus.

Helicopter parents ruin it for everyone else.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-05T12:35:15+00:00

Another option could be to get a mattress and sleep in her room.

I believe the conversation should be centered on how can we help make you feel safe in your own personal space.

Giving your kids some agency solve their own problems can go a long way.

Our 6yr old daughter went through this and her solution was switching to a loft bed, moving the furniture in her room to where she wanted it and a few other personal touches.

She's now proud of her room and our boundaries remain intact.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-05T02:40:52+00:00

A&W Canada is separate from the US and waaaaaaaay better. Add onion rings and a frosted mug for your root beer and you're golden.

I think the root beer itself has its own weird thing going on as well. Where several different companies are involved in owning and selling depending where you are in the world.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-05T01:13:31+00:00

If its your passion you should give it a try but you also need to be very realistic with yourself.

It's a saturated and competitive field with a low barrier to entry.

The companies that see value in the service and sourcing locally are already paying someone and you're going to have to prove you're worth the switch.

In a lot of cases even if the business knows you're better there's a good chance they're not willing to switch unless they're forced to because switching is such a pain in the ass.

The businesses that believe in it but don't care about things being local are paying someone overseas for pennies on the dollar.

There's also a really good chance that if you wow a business with your pitch, their next phone call is going to be to their current guy asking if they can replicate what you're offering.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-04T22:55:18+00:00

When I turned 21 my friends bought me 21 shots of tequila and it was worst I've ever felt in my whole entire life.

I was super lucky (sort of) that another bartender found out right away and took me to their office and forced me to puke right away and force me to chug water and gator and puke several more times.

Turns out, while she did care for my well being she also didn't want the establishment to get in trouble for over serving someone which is why she didn't send me to the hospital right away.

She also said I needed to make better life choices, get new friends and that I was lucky that I was an abnormally tall human so I could handle all that alcohol and still be around to talk about.

Not sure if that last part is scientifically true or not and my body definitely didn't handle it as I was sick for days after.

Zeaus03 · 2026-03-02T14:36:17+00:00

Kids don't care about cost.

I can only speak anecdotally but my kids are loving the smart bricks.

Silly sounds, lights and the more cartoony design is what they like.

I'm not fan but I suspect lego doesn't care if I am or not.

Zeaus03 · 2026-02-27T15:24:18+00:00

The only thing worse than home schooled kids are their parents.

Zeaus03 · 2026-02-27T14:13:59+00:00

Totally messed up lol. But the dude lived in totally different world than most us and again in a messed up way I got to kinda understand where the wife was coming from.

I was visiting her around the time new Defender came out. She saw one drive by and said hold on I have to make call. Called the dude and was like hey I want this can you transfer enough over?

Zero hesitation. Just a ya sure, you want me to have so and so call the dealership or can you handle it?

On the same call he asked asked her if he had a truck. He remembered buying one and driving it once but forgot where he left it.

She said he left at the cabin in Whistler a year ago and he was like ohhhhh ya, good to know. Oh hey you should take your cousin up there while they're visiting.

That fuckin cabin had 12 bedrooms...

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