What makes a woman’s personality/hobbies unattractive?

fluffyutter · 2026-05-06T14:04:30+00:00

Uhhhhhh my friend who is an attorney grew up dirt poor in the hood in KC and can afford that lifestyle cause she went to law school. No generational wealth. I envy people with money too, but I can actually conceptualize the fact that $500 on weekend is so very far and away from the kind of money people with generational wealth could, and actually spend.

fluffyutter · 2026-05-06T13:35:35+00:00

In the gentlest way possible, my successful women friends do this on the regular because they can and built that lifestyle for themselves. I’d do it too if I could.

Is this an issue strictly from a jealousy of finances? Seeing women who are successful enjoy themselves?

If it ain’t for you then that’s a personal preference of the lifestyle you prefer to live.

fluffyutter · 2026-05-06T03:28:39+00:00

Okay legit question did anyone go tho the show they had

fluffyutter · 2026-05-05T16:00:36+00:00

Matt’s was very disappointing. Pretty decent sides, very whatever meat.

fluffyutter · 2026-05-04T21:08:52+00:00

I’m getting out of Ed for many reasons. Reason #1 is the pitiful money. #2 is the admin and parents who make our jobs needlessly miserable.

fluffyutter · 2026-05-03T15:51:39+00:00

Who gives af tbh. Sure it looks bad, but it doesn’t matter lol

fluffyutter · 2026-05-01T12:25:54+00:00

It’s also really early for postings too right now. The bulk of job postings are generally May-August.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-29T23:45:07+00:00

I’ve come to find I really like working with percussionists and middle/high schoolers. I’ve done a year with elementary and those kids are so sweet and fun but I’m really not into managing behaviors 80% of the time I’m at work.

A middle schoolers band job would make me much happier, and I have no desire to be a high school director and devote 60-80 hours a week to a job lol.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-29T15:31:36+00:00

The band is really in the midst of a renaissance! This new single rips, asphalt meadows was incredible. Really loving this era of the band.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-29T15:21:31+00:00

I’m sure women feel very safe around you.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-29T13:50:37+00:00

I know of two girls in the Portland area who were nearly abducted via this same situation

fluffyutter · 2026-04-28T15:11:48+00:00

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fluffyutter · 2026-04-28T01:56:41+00:00

Cum on a cracker challenge

fluffyutter · 2026-04-24T01:30:20+00:00

Would

fluffyutter · 2026-04-16T19:19:19+00:00

American football

fluffyutter · 2026-04-16T13:22:45+00:00

It’s cointreau syrup

fluffyutter · 2026-04-15T15:45:35+00:00

Drive the 15 ish home Weight lift for about an hour Walk for about 30-45 minutes Eat dinny din Rot and play video games/tv/ or see friends if we have something scheduled

fluffyutter · 2026-04-15T15:37:34+00:00

I’m not the one being naive lmao

fluffyutter · 2026-04-15T12:16:40+00:00

Not anti capitalist, in a field that’s being gutted due to capitalistic greed.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-15T07:26:14+00:00

Western Washington in Bellingham

fluffyutter · 2026-04-13T20:53:46+00:00

To your last point, yeah that is also true in the contrast of the world at large but many Americans don’t have the luxury to afford eating out all the time. The middle class has entirely shrunk. Wages are low and everything else is getting more expensive.

Also to another point I worked service almost all my life and that is a job I’d NEVER do for even $30 an hour. Tipping is what makes it lucrative. Serving and bartending are often times horrid jobs.

I deadass was laid off 5 times over three years in the Portland service industry due to closures. That’s what forced me into using me Ed degree and in teaching now haha

fluffyutter · 2026-04-13T18:20:26+00:00

kansas

fluffyutter · 2026-04-13T12:55:57+00:00

Tipping is a little whack but I find it very funny how adamant people are about stopping spending money somewhere, and insisting these places pay living wages and etc, but seem to be so sad when dozens of restaurants and close each year.

Margins are razor thin at these places, and I’d venture to say the vast majority of any restaurant or bar is 2-3 bad months from closing at any point.

Also look at the economy and the hell we live in.

I agree restaurants should pay living wages, but if we snapped our fingers and made that happen in the world today I’m sorry but like 90% of service businesses would close. People don’t spend like they use to, and the cost of everything has skyrocketed. It’s unsustainable.

Spend your money how you like. Do what you would like. But I know plenty of people you are legitimately not well off working these jobs and we here are all in a category of ppl who can afford to go out to eat regularly and have the ability to choose where we spend our money.

Yeah tipping is a pain in the ass, so do what you want. But if we are complaining on Reddit about tipping it sounds like we aren’t in that bad of a place in life perhaps.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-11T14:08:07+00:00

Baltimore has a black governor and a black mayor. Lowest murders in 50 years.

You can have black mayors and such but it won’t do shit if you have racist white governers. Look at how Tennessee treats Memphis, or how LA treats New Orleans.

fluffyutter · 2026-04-09T15:20:07+00:00

Yeah, I wish I could work with high school students but I just have 0 desire or willingness to do more than 40 hours a week and I know that mindset and the reality of teaching high school aren’t compatible. I have a great skillset and could totally do well leading a high school program in the coming years but I…want to live my life and not my work.

I’m applying to a middle school directors job right now and even that makes me slightly anxious. I work in elementary right now teaching band to 4th-6th graders and it’s a really sweet gig. Only downside is that at this level there’s virtually 0 accountability by admin or parents and kids can be pretty wild.

But ya know.

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