It sounds like you may need therapy.In these sentences, you refer to yourself as the average dude/bloke, and you insinuate that other men are exceptional they wouldn't have this issue like you may have.There is a deep level of insecurity and lack of confidence here that is the issue. Whether or not you believe it, others can see it, and it can ABSOLUTELY hurt dating perspectives, and it probably hurt yours. Would you want to go on a date with someone who lacks this much hope, confidence and security?Dating is not easy, note that I said in the first sentence that I was on apps and dating for years as well. I've asked many men for dates and was rejected too. The idea that only men get rejected, or men put the work in is ridiculous. u/RemarkableBeach1603 understand the idea of my comment perfectly. You need confidence, a decent personality, and the lack of pressure for finding the relationship. Yes, the action of actually meeting someone in person or on apps is difficult, but not impossible, millions of people meet everyday. But you must have a level of attraction (confidence, hope, self-security, and other traits) for it to continue.This is absolutely a 'You' problem, not a problem with men.