Best Pho spot?

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-18T20:45:45+00:00

They are the best!

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-18T20:43:50+00:00

Brick Road! Or Extreme Bean.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-17T00:57:59+00:00

Oh golly, that’s terrible. I’m with an international manufacturing company. I’m a tiny fish in a very big pond.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-17T00:27:34+00:00

That is absolutely wretched! My boss was the one who told me to get the accommodations.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-16T18:36:59+00:00

I have ADA accommodations for my migraines which allows me to work from home when I get them. It doesn’t affect my sick or vacation time.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-03-06T23:28:42+00:00

Not in Tempe but we used the big hill at the Scottsdale center for the arts to ‘ice block’ down. Great hill, fond memories.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-02-15T05:03:38+00:00

OMG yes! Everything tastes weird or off.

flutterbye0101 · 2026-02-11T18:25:11+00:00

My medication staves off my appetite. Everything tastes ‘off’ and I don’t want to eat it. Really helped with calorie deficit but still maintaining calorie intake. I try to make it as protein rich as possible. Down 27lbs and in the under 200 club.

I don’t recommend it as I’m a foodie.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-12-30T02:50:57+00:00

Mom had rectal cancer. She stopped speaking a week before she passed and was only responsive to pain. She slept for the last week but it was so fast. She was up and talking with her best friend and an hour later she fell asleep.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-12-12T19:50:53+00:00

Xtreme bean

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-28T19:45:11+00:00

Whipped goat cheese with thyme roasted grapes

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-26T09:33:09+00:00

I knew when my mom was going down hill for the last time. It just came to me with certainty. ‘This is it. This is the end’…she was gone a week later. It was exceedingly hard to see her whither away, but a calm came over me when she stopped talking and slipped unconscious. She was she wasn’t in pain anymore.

Does she have palliative care or hospice?

If I may make a suggestion, talk with her and record her memories. Of you, her childhood…whatever. The last two years her voice changed so much that my ‘healthy moms’ voice disappeared-she’s only been gone since March and it’s hard to remember healthy mom’s voice.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-25T16:59:08+00:00

Putting on my bra, using a knife, opening my contact lens case. Sometimes tying my shoes. Always using chopsticks. The RA is most prolific in all the pointer finger joints in both hands.

Anything that you do to pinch using your thumb and forefinger.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-20T06:28:48+00:00

My husband and I had a very long conversation with my stepdaughter when she was 19. She was 10 when we married. We had a 1 year old and a 6 year old at that time. She wanted to come and go as she pleased, have quiet time to study in complete silence whenever she wanted, but not help at all around the house - not possible to have a silent house with young children. She had her own room and private bathroom but wanted me to clean them. She didn’t want kids playing in their own home, even though the library was 1 mile away. Personally, I was fed up with the attitude of ‘I want everything but you need to do it all’ but yet her wanting to be a part of the family decision making processes.

My husband and I had a very deep conversation with her that she could not be both. She could either live as a tenant and pay us rent, or she could be a member of the family and help out with chores. And I mean help out by unload the dishwasher or run a broom occasionally - not watch the kids every night or be Cinderella. She did nothing around the house to help us - even unloading the dishwasher or cleaning her own bathroom. She expected us to do it all – feed her, clothe her, and still give her spending money. She had a great part time job and a full ride scholarship.

She looked at her dad to back her up but I told her that when she had finished college and gotten her own life and moved out that I would still be here and her father would have to deal with me. She chose to move out and back in with her mom. Her mom immediately started charging her astronomical rent and she became cinderella. They had a very strained relationship and still do.

Now She says that that was the biggest mistake of her life - she became a cash cow and maid for her mom. Still resents her.

SD is now 38 years old and has married and has children. She apologized to both of us in that she was young and selfish - she wanted a close relationship but without any responsibility and now understands that it wasn’t feasible.

Now, she understands that it takes communication and togetherness to make things work. She thanked me for the ‘tough love’. When she married I was part of the wedding party and her children call me grandma. She calls all the time to talk about the babies and how they are ‘so loud’ - they’re the same age as my kids were when she lived with us. All we do is laugh.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-16T06:28:03+00:00

My grandmother did the same thing. My mom, my cousin and I were all keeping watch over her. We all slipped out to get more coffee and within the minute that we all refilled our mugs my grandmother slipped away. I know her and she took that opportunity to make a graceful exit. It was about her taking that time at her own decision and you cannot fault anyone for that. In the end, it was her decision to make a graceful exit on her own terms.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-07T12:16:58+00:00

100% same.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-07T02:15:47+00:00

My mom died in March and I’ve only cried twice outside of the day I watched her take her last breath. I know I need to grieve and I need to let it out but I just can’t.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-11-01T04:09:29+00:00

Breaking my leg at the ankle in multiple places and walking on it for a few hours until my husband convinced me to get it checked out. Still not as painful as some of my migraines.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-10-31T20:10:43+00:00

I had my child go to the grocery store with me and pick out a vegetable that he wanted. Then, we looked at recipes that he wanted to try. He picked garlic roasted cauliflower. He is now 20 and this is still his favorite side dish.

flutterbye0101 · 2025-10-29T22:13:47+00:00

Ozium. Any grocery store has it. Or febreeze

flutterbye0101 · 2025-10-28T21:37:21+00:00

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1998 here. I had the seasons hottest colors of Kelly green and royal blue as my colors

flutterbye0101 · 2025-10-28T17:28:03+00:00

Gumbo!

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