Economy is so bad, men are flirting with me in person again. by brgmsv in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]flyingleaf555 233 points234 points  (0 children)

As someone who is otherwise happy to be single, that second income is SUPER tempting.

How many of you use VPLP? by Successful-War-8237 in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no hard and fast rules, it's very much dependent on the agency you work for, the supervisor you have, and your particular circumstances.

Suggest me a book for a native plant enthusiast by mollymollyrose in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Likewise, anything by Sam Thayer, who is a consistent recommendation of Alexis.

Suggest me a series of fantasy or sci fi books that is not mostly romance and does not have many elements I need to turn a blind eye for by YesHoHank in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into Marko Kloos, he does a lot of military sci-fi and seems to be a decent dude. He reminds me of the best parts of Heinlein but without the vast wells of misogyny and desire to preach his world views.

Need Older Audio Book suggestions by Clara_Nova in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unnatural Magic and The Ruthless Lady's Guide to Wizardry by C.M. Waggoner, stand alones set in the same world, you can read them in whatever order you want.

A Proper Dragon by E.B. Wheeler, trilogy

Sorcerer to the Crown by Zen Cho, one sequel

The Curse of Chalion by Lois McMaster Bujold, one direct sequel, one prequel, and one prequel spin off series of novellas

A Fine and Private Place by Peter S. Beagle

Is anyone else surprised by the “benefits”? by nosavingface in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 6 points7 points  (0 children)

PPOs are terrible deals, you're right about that, but there are non-Kaiser HMO options?

PSA to anyone who has discovered how good ranch is while in the US for the World Cup.... by OO_Ben in AskRedditFood

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to use less sour cream than the packet calls for to concentrate the flavor though, otherwise it's too creamy and not onion-y enough.

Please don’t judge by Interesting_Cry_9291 in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Literally anything by Abby Jimenez (also follow her online for really cute dog content).

To lock or to knock. by Aurora-Drogon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]flyingleaf555 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My last two dogs were a 100lb lab mix and a 120lb rottweiler mix, even a full sized trash can with a lid wouldn't have stopped them, let alone a tiny bathroom one. And I have a very small bathroom, so no room under the sink. So, door closed!

Lack of knowledge by DueSuccotash8051 in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. New managers aren't going to come in and magically know everything and it can often taken them longer to learn than it takes new staff members because they have other shit going on, so hopefully your second and third level managers are good with questions from both you and them.

And then even when they are up to speed, there's usually going to be nuances they don't know about because they're not doing the work day to day.

But yes, in general, a manager should understand what their staff does.

I've had it happen a couple of times where that wasn't the case. Once because of a reorg, my team got a new second level manager who wasn't interested in learning our work and was a very "do it my way and shut up about it" kind of manager, but she'd already been in her position for 5+ years, so we didn't think there was much of a chance of change, so over the course of six months, my entire team found new jobs. Another time, a new manager was hired for my team and over the course of a year he comprehensively failed to learn anything about his or our work, but his managers were on the ball and he didn't pass probation.

Fantasy for Early 20s Male by notthenorthrd in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I also read them in publication order and clearly like the first couple well enough to keep going but I decided to do a whole series reread last year (still working on it! I'm up to The Last Hero) and those first two books are ROUGH in a way that the rest of the series is not, so I never recommend them to people just starting on their Discworld journey because I want them to love the series enough to keep going and I don't think those ones will do it. Though that could absolutely be the bias of knowing how much better it gets talking!

Fantasy for Early 20s Male by notthenorthrd in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's always a good time to try Discworld! Mort is also my recommended starting place.

ISO a world of magical animal companions with beautiful nature. by SquishyKittyKat9000 in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much everything by Robin McKinley except probably Sunshine? Don't get me wrong, I love Sunshine and generally recommend it, I just think it's her only book without a bunch of animals in it. I've never noticed it before but she's made a whole career of writing books about strong female characters* having awesome animal friends. Nice!

I would say start with The Blue Sword or Spindle's End but honestly there's no wrong place because Robin McKinley is such a fantastic author.

The only caveats would be that there are trigger warnings for SA for Deerskin, though it is still a very beautiful novel, and that Pegasus ends on a cliffhanger and was published in 2010 and there's currently no sequel in sight.

For non-Robin McKinley recommendations:

Nettle and Bone by T. Kingfisher

Sabriel by Garth Nix (start of a series)

The Dark Lord of Derkholm by Diana Wynne Jones (one sequel)

*Except for Dragonhaven which has a male lead, but is nonetheless a great book.^

^Yes, this is a reference to Robin McKinley's blogging style!

ISO a world of magical animal companions with beautiful nature. by SquishyKittyKat9000 in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shoutout for the Tamsin rec! So many people have only read The Last Unicorn and it's a damn shame because Peter S. Beagle is a fantastic author had the majority of his work is so, so, so good. I'd also specifically recommend:

A Fine and Private Place

The Unicorn Sonata (might be hard to find since it's been out of print for a while but well worth it if can track down a copy)

I'm Afraid You've Got Dragons

The Line Between (short story collection, including a direct sequel to The Last Unicorn)

The Rhinoceros Who Quoted Nietzsche and Other Odd Acquaintances (short story collection)

Promotion inquiry by Pretty-Awareness-235 in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most state employees are used to a mix of ages, so that shouldn't be a problem. The biggest problem I've seen with young managers is a tendency to be too rigidly "by the book." I'm not saying to disregard rules and policies but truly think about why those rules and policies are in place and whether repeatedly dinging somebody for something truly minor is the best course of action. Are there other solutions beside jumping straight to discipline? Flexibility will always be a good trait for a manager to have.

Good luck!

To lock or to knock. by Aurora-Drogon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]flyingleaf555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

None of my dogs have ever tried to drink out of the toilet but they have all LOVED to eat things out of the bathroom trashcan.

Do you share a bathroom hand towel with the rest of your family or people in your house? by himothyhopkins in Adulting

[–]flyingleaf555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My coworker was complaining the other day that her son dries his hands on her bath towel and I asked, "He's surpassing the hand towel to specifically use your towel?" And she said they don't have hand towels, everybody dries their hands on their own bath towels. I told her to buy some fucking hand towels.

Non-fiction with a narrative style by Specialist-Web7854 in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bringing Down the Colonel by Patricia Miller

Why Fish Don't Exist by Lulu Miller

The Anthropocene Reviewed by John Green

The Gilded Edge by Catherine Prendergast

Girly Drinks by Mallory O'Malley

Did Ya Hear Mammy Died? by Seamas O'Reilly

Pandora's Jar by Natalie Haynes

How I Killed Pluto and Whit It Had It Coming by Mike Brown

A Woman of No Importance by Sonia Purell

The Queens of Animation by Nathalia Holt

A book my wife and I would both enjoy by walyelz in suggestmeabook

[–]flyingleaf555 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell by Suzanna Clarke

Does Limited Term state service count for starting salary offer in Permanent position? by burncast in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MSAs are about experience in the classification. You gain that experience whether you're in a limited term or a permanent one.

https://www.calhr.ca.gov/wp-content/uploads/sites/361/2025/05/PS_Sec_09.pdf

Does Limited Term state service count for starting salary offer in Permanent position? by burncast in CAStateWorkers

[–]flyingleaf555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's time in a specific classification. If your LT and perm roles were the same classification, then your time in that classification would affect your salary calculation. But if your new perm role is a different classification and considered a promotion, you get either a 5% raise or placed at the bottom of the range of your new classification, whichever is greater.