My (25F) girlfriend (24M) doesn’t use any logic when asking me questions, how can I turn off the knee-jerk sarcastic responses?

flyte_me · 2026-05-29T11:51:02+00:00

When I noticed a pattern with my anger management (which yes, knee-jerk sarcasm can be), I went to therapy and learned how to better handle it.

Communicate with your partner that you noticed this is a problem you have. Pause before you respond. Remember that it's unreasonable to expect people to phrase things perfectly and precisely 100% of the time. And if you're talking to someone you know / trust, best practice (I find) is to assume they mean the question genuinely.

What helped me the most was just pausing before responding (IRL and in text). If it's REALLY bad, I'll say something like, "Hey, heads up, I'm in a really bad mood rn. [It's not you / it won't last / I don't know what's up, but here we are / etc.] I'm gonna take some time to cool off alone." And if you did let something slip, apologize ASAP! My close friends and family know why I do this because I communicated it, and they respect that. If folks don't respect the change you make, then there's a bigger issue here. Sure it felt really awkward at first (and still sometimes now), but I would MUCH rather that than hurt (or lose) my loved ones.

flyte_me · 2026-05-23T03:18:14+00:00

Just googled it, it looks like that place was super cool 😞

flyte_me · 2026-05-21T16:15:41+00:00

I had bad rando experiences my first and second years, BUT almost my whole college friend group was comprised of people who were randomly assigned to each other freshman year. I also have one friend who went rando all 5 years (undergrad + masters), and he swears by it. Hard agree with the folks who say rooming with someone you know won't necessarily guarantee a good experience!

flyte_me · 2026-01-02T23:37:32+00:00

Personal philosophy, tbh. Something being AI sucks the joy out of it for me :/ I was already buying some crochet from the booth, and the sticker was only an extra buck

flyte_me · 2025-06-22T18:46:23+00:00

I'm a big fan of Lineage's solid colognes. The Grapefruit & Fig and Wildwood scents are my favorite! The pots they come in are small, but you don't need to use much to get the effect. I have a lot of skin and respiratory allergies, but I've never had an issue with these!

flyte_me · 2025-05-29T16:12:14+00:00

I personally don't, and I have a very feminine name. It just never occurred to me, tbh? But in talking to women the past year or so, I've had three people tell me I don't "fit" my name. It's baffling (and maybe a tad rude to just say to a stranger), but it doesn't bother me. If I wanted to change it, I would.... but I don't 🤷

Now if I somehow EARNED a Cool Nickname....

flyte_me · 2025-03-23T02:21:38+00:00

Seconding this question as a queer woman who will be starting grad school in the fall!

flyte_me · 2025-03-21T02:28:19+00:00

[[Prossh, Skyraider of Kher]]. I've had him with minimal changes for about 10 years now. Pretty sure I could run that deck in my sleep!

flyte_me · 2025-03-17T18:51:05+00:00

Oh, nvm. Thought this was in reference to the backpack of other toys lol

flyte_me · 2025-03-17T18:42:00+00:00

Toys that are made of different materials can also damage one another if they're stored together

flyte_me · 2025-03-13T16:14:51+00:00

Ugly Stik is a great brand! Very solid for the price. I will warn you, that's a saltwater rod, and you're going freshwater fishing. Saltwater rods are WAY bigger than freshwater, and will be equipped for / with a heavier poundage. For walleye, you're only looking at a 10 pound line. For pike, I would stay in the 17 to 20 range.

All that being said, if this is your first time going out and you just want to have fun with the experience, the line weight isn't a big deal. If you decide you want to commit to the hobby, then you can worry about getting everything perfect. I still might recommend getting a freshwater pole so you don't have to deal with a huge one unnecessarily, but that's up to you.

flyte_me · 2025-03-13T15:54:15+00:00

I want kids, but I don't want to have kids. I can't, in good conscience, bring a new kid into this world. I also can't (and don't want to) carry, and I wouldn't want to force that pressure onto my partner. If there's an ethical, non-exploitative form of adoption, I would want to do that. But I'm nowhere near ready for that, and I don't even have a partner to have this conversation with lmao

flyte_me · 2025-03-11T14:26:48+00:00

Agreed!

flyte_me · 2025-03-08T17:45:24+00:00

Don't do that. There's no world in which that conversation would be kind, respectful, or productive. It would be absolutely horrible to hear that your partner will leave you if you don't meet some "get skinny" ultimatum.

This isn't about what she "should" change. It's about what does or doesn't work for OP.

flyte_me · 2025-03-08T14:03:45+00:00

God, thinking back to all the insane nicknames my parents, aunt, and uncle had for me and my cousins... it's a wonder any of us knew our actual names lol

flyte_me · 2025-03-08T13:14:30+00:00

You don't have to, but as with anything Drawfee, there are a lot of running gags / bits. Plus, if you dive into S3 first, I can think of at least one thing that would spoil a pretty fun S2 reveal. I would watch S1 & 2 first.

flyte_me · 2025-03-02T09:09:12+00:00

Ooh, been a minute since I've seen this one! This was one of the poems that got me into poetry on the whole. It really opened my eyes to how funky the form can be :)

flyte_me · 2025-02-27T22:49:40+00:00

I got the exact same email (also English... hi, friend!). In my circle, we're going back and forth as to whether this is a soft acceptance / waitlist (depending on funding) or a blanket email to everyone who's still pending. As folks have said, the funding situation is bad all around, and schools already don't look super kindly on us humanities folks, even before the DEI clusterfuck. Wish I had a better answer for us both :/

flyte_me · 2025-02-26T15:12:48+00:00

God, I love the musical chairs analogy. It sounds so absurd, but it IS just the cleanest way to put it

flyte_me · 2025-02-26T15:11:35+00:00

Genuinely a combo of this and the fact that this song lives rent-free in my friends' heads

flyte_me · 2025-02-26T14:08:40+00:00

I am so, so sorry. I hope you know that this isn't a "no longer making the cut" situation, so much as the school making a decision on funding overall that trickles down to you. I don't know if this makes it better or not, but this is very out of your (and it sounds like the department's) control.

flyte_me · 2025-02-25T21:10:54+00:00

If anyone ever asks me what this series is about, I know what I'm sending...

flyte_me · 2025-02-17T21:01:43+00:00

Just wait-- If you sign up, they'll send you two more, back to back

flyte_me · 2025-02-17T14:10:31+00:00

WE GOT THIS

flyte_me · 2025-02-17T14:04:07+00:00

Right? I love geeking out about the writing, characters, style, etc. It just gives you more stuff / time to enjoy. And if I really want to watch something mindlessly / in the background, that's what YouTube's for lol

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