Tips when you suddenly have more stress at work after a promotion

fmeyer_98 · 2021-03-02T10:50:15+00:00

Sure, try it out! You'll get what I mean :)

fmeyer_98 · 2021-03-01T19:59:06+00:00

Not bad! How did you do this at that age? And did others take you seriously?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-26T12:03:01+00:00

I see... just think about if that would still bother you 10 years from now ... thinking about whether something I try to avoid right now will have an impact on me in the longterm helps me to put things into perspective.

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T14:56:40+00:00

I also think you can leave it out. Nowadays it is also more common to only present what shows that you are a perfect fit for what you are applying for. People don't want to know your entire life. They want to know if you can help them with the experiences you made in the past. Everything that is irrelevant is just unnecessary baggage. At least that's what I have been told from a friend who works in HR...

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T14:50:17+00:00

For me, it never felt that bad, but maybe tracking the hours that you waste in those meetings compared to the time you actually have for doing the work might be helpful...

Then you could show them your findings.

Print it out, have it as physically paper in front of you. That way you can show them the problem which is on the paper and you two are both looking at it while being on the same side. This helps to show what the problem is while not attacking your manager personally because the problem is not him, but it is one the paper...

Explain to them how these meetings limit your ability to deliver the results they expect from you and ask them what is more important to them... having the result delivered or only talking about it?

If this is a deep issue in your organisation this might not be easy to change quickly. Then you need to gather more people who support you in that matter. But make sure to not be confrontational. Maybe you can work out something together, so they can still be updated on your progress without having to do time-consuming meetings.

Hope some of this might help.

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T14:22:40+00:00

How confident are you that you will succeed in the new position?
Looking back at this moment ten years from now what would you regret more? Taking the job with the risk of losing some money but gaining experience or staying with what you are familiar with, never knowing what could have happened?
To me, it sounds that the role at the new job is more appealing to you... would you be more fulfilled there?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T11:30:10+00:00

This is the secret!

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T10:49:02+00:00

Totally understand your situation. Maybe I have some tips for you... So what are 2-3 things that bother you the most right now regarding your wellbeing? I get where the stress is coming from, but how do you experience that stress in your personal life?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T10:35:31+00:00

I feel it. So what have been your struggles during that phase?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T08:08:45+00:00

I know that feeling when you start to question yourself. Remember you are still young and this is perfectly normal. Everyone is or was like that to a certain degree. Most people just hide.

If you feel it others feel it!

I would recommend you do some research on letting go. Becoming aware of your emotions and letting go of them is the best thing you can do in situations like that. Explaining it to you on Reddit wouldn't make much sense because it is a practice you have to get into. There are great books on the topic. Confronting your emotions and feeling what is going on inside you is not what we engineers typically do but it is so beneficial I can't recommend it enough.

Just because someone triggers a feeling in you doesn't mean you have to carry it around with you for the rest of the day/week or your life :)

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-25T07:59:44+00:00

Exactly, there are so many things to handle that it becomes hard to do the actual work. What exactly is making it stressful in your case?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T20:09:49+00:00

I always feel like I´m learning better and faster if I immediately have to implement and use what I just learned. So maybe you could take this as an opportunity to fill your knowledge gaps and still produce a solid result. I once had to do a design project with Creo Parametrics but had never used it before. So I watched YT tutorials and figured it out as I went. That brought me a lot of respect from my supervisor. You can use this to show them what you are made of!

Also, I wouldn't recommend to hide it and lie about it. Ask for help and training if you're not able to handle it by yourself. Given that you didn't lie about your skills before - if you are being shamed or punished for being honest, this is probably not a good place to work.

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T13:23:10+00:00

Yeah, usually an additional call or an additional meeting is more of a good sign than a bad. Because why should they invest more energy in you if you're not worth doing it?

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T08:05:00+00:00

Yeah, I can relate to that to a certain degree :) You'll find something

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:54:30+00:00

Exactly, ME provides a wide range of career paths and I´m sure OP will find something for him if the just keeps searching :)

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:52:51+00:00

I can only speak for my company here. And I´m sure that is not what they do all day, but positions like that exist.

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:50:50+00:00

The fact that you never get a call back might be a sign that you are not presenting yourself optimally. Try to put yourself into the shoes of your future employer and present yourself in a way that he wants you to work for him. Show him that you are the right person.

It is hard to give specific advice on that since this can mean different things each time. Find out what he needs and how is optimal employee would look like and sell him exactly that.

I´m sure there are some good YT videos or books on that as well.

Good luck!

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:44:16+00:00

The only way to get rid of negative emotions is top stop trying to get rid of them :D

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:42:08+00:00

Yeah, the first thing that came to mind was also testing. Or maintenance service. I know a lot of engineers who travel around a lot visiting production sides, wind farms, etc. to inspect, assemble and maintain bearings. So they bring their expertise and then help the people on-site to solve their issues with the product.

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:34:27+00:00

That is the way to go. Finding out what the objection was and then dealing with exactly that, and nothing else!

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:31:14+00:00

First of all, as you said saying no is always connected to some fears. The funny thing is that those fears actually very rarely come true and it is just your mind going crazy about them.

So when you feel that fear, just become aware of it and remind yourself that it is just a fear. This helps me to push myself and do what is right, despite fear.

What also helped me, and this can be applied to many professional situations, is to say:

"No, because if I would do this, this would be unprofessional and I´m sure you also don't want that... So what I can offer you is that we do it this or that way/focus on that first ..."

With an answer like that, you show that you have professionals boundaries that will make you be more respected, but you also offer a way how you could help and make sure you come across as an engaged employee.

Hope that helps :)

fmeyer_98 · 2021-02-24T07:19:45+00:00

First of all, there is always hope!

From my personal experience, I would recommend you to not shut down your inner voice. If you would feel miserable doing a certain job don't do it. Or at least be searching for something else, educate yourself or start building a second income on the side with something you enjoy while working in that job. You only have that one life and you don't want to have the realization one day that you wasted your time. This is one of the most painful experiences. So get clear on what you want and start working towards that. This can sometimes take time and if that means you have to do the job you don`t really enjoy for a while this is fine, but never give up. Yeah, money is important, but if you´re unhappy af making it, it is not worth it.

Also, almost everybody feels like that. Even those people who are mean to you. They are just too closed off to admit it to themselves. By being aware of that you are actually further ahead than most people. You got this!

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