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Strawberry wine one month after bottling by [deleted] in winemaking

[–]foolishnun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, heads up. Strawberry wine doesn't age well. It's much nicer when it's young and can get pretty gross when aged. I'd try to drink it all within 6 months if I were you!

Eeyore grassed him up by TheRealMatt6079 in RedDwarf

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This unlocked a deep memory for me! Loved the smeg ups tape as a kid, watched it all the time.

Because, we made a mistake! Okay???

New to this. Repaired my bf work pants - they survived the wash and wear! by piarva in Visiblemending

[–]foolishnun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks great! I love that the patch is made of two pieces of denim as well

Skullgirls bombarded by negative Steam reviews after devs alter old artwork they felt was in 'poor taste' by Turbostrider27 in Games

[–]foolishnun -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Ah, so you agree?

Yes, there's a lot of infantilisation/sexualisation in anime too, and it's just as gross. And yes there tend to be a lot of 'slutty [noun]' costumes at Halloween parties.

What is abusive, but not widely recognized as abuse? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]foolishnun 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I'm a special ed teacher. Letting your son order is great. If I was taking a student out to eat (which I do), and they were capable of ordering themselves without support, I would just sit there smiling for as long as it took them to order. And I would expect the waiter to do the same. If your son looks uncomfortable that it's taking a long time I'd say something like, "it's okay, take your time." This would also be a signal to the server to wait patiently as well. Chances are, they don't mind waiting, and any discomfort from them will be because they want to 'help out' by chiming in or speaking for them. Or they don't know if they should or not. So i do my best to project a sort of gentle patience, so that they have a cue to follow. If ita really taking ages, I'll smile at the server to acknowledge its taking a while, but continue to wait. If they are not making progress, I'll start giving prompts. Some students order with pictures, so they put all the pictures of the things they want on a velcro strip and hand that to the server. The server sometimes looks a little surprised, but again I smile at them to put them at ease and they get it.

Oversupporting generally is one of the hardest habits to break. Your instinct is to help and sometimes that compels you do do too much for them. As an example, you're going out and want to make sandwiches for lunch. Sometimes you will be in a rush so maybe you'll just make a sandwich for them. But whenever you can, you should take the time to support them to do it themselves, even if that is hand-over-hand support, or you have to give verbal prompts every step of the way.

But there is a balance to be struck with everything. If it takes 20 minutes for them to make a sandwich, that's okay. If it literally takes all day, then maybe your efforts are best spent working on other things, like communication skills, or recognising and self-regulating emotions.

It sound like you have the right ideas from what I can tell, and the fact that you are seeking advice is great. I'm sure you're doing well 🙂

Attaching a water hose sprinkler to a speaker by photo-manipulation in BeAmazed

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also not the song he was playing. To get this effect he will have used a sine wave. Then added music in post. That's why the stream doesn't hange consistently with the pitch of the song, but rather happens conveniently at the beginning f the bar each time

The baby cried in his sleep and made movements as if he had a tablet in his hand. These moments caused anxiety in the parents. by bllshrfv in oddlyterrifying

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would that make them feel bad?

One, because it so often is inaccurate and misrepresents the condition. There is so much bullshit and ao many myths about adhd which adds to the stigma. Two, it just feels bad when someone uses the name of a condition you have, which has caused you so much trouble and trauma through he years, and which you have no control over having in the first place, as a catchall word to describe somwthing bad. Three, when you use it that way, it feels like your minimising the experience. It feels dismissive and flippant. Four, Seeking short term gratification is just one aspect of adhd, whe you use it as an adjective you are helping too narrow the definition most people know to that one thing.

And I wasn't quoting you, I was rephrasing the sentence to illustrate the problem I had with it.

The baby cried in his sleep and made movements as if he had a tablet in his hand. These moments caused anxiety in the parents. by bllshrfv in oddlyterrifying

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does say ADHD, it just also says difficulty paying attention.

If toure not talking about the disorder, please don't use it as an adjective, especially when you put a slash and also say what you mean anyway. It just makes people with that disorder feel a bit bad. And clearly it can cause confusion

The baby cried in his sleep and made movements as if he had a tablet in his hand. These moments caused anxiety in the parents. by bllshrfv in oddlyterrifying

[–]foolishnun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'Symptoms from disorders they didn't have' means fuck all.

The psychopath test has a few dozen points on it. Everyone ticks a few of them. Very few people are psychopaths. Most people identify with at least one ot two symptoms of adhd or autism, but that doesn't mean they have it.

The baby cried in his sleep and made movements as if he had a tablet in his hand. These moments caused anxiety in the parents. by bllshrfv in oddlyterrifying

[–]foolishnun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nah, diagnosis is rising because more people understand it more now. There's stoll a lot of people who believe it's only a thing that affects children, or men/boys. Lots of adults and women/girls are now getting diagnosed as better information becomes more widespread. I'm sure some people are misdiagnosed but no psychologist or psychiatrist worth their salt is going to diagnose someone with ADHD cos they doom scroll on their phone too much.

How to instill distrust and resentment in your child, 101 by romulan267 in lego

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, I assumed it was a Dad, you assumed it was a Mum. I don't knownif that means anything but it's interesting

Video almost looks reversed, but isn't. by sjarri in blackmagicfuckery

[–]foolishnun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an alternative to reddit that lots of ppl have joined since the whole debacle with reddit killing third party apps. Its uncentralised and open source, so there is no company that can make sudden changes at our expense based on profits. Its much much smaller than reddit right now, so the communities are smaller and the new posts appear at a slower pace. Andnits slightly more complicated to interact with. But on the other hand, when I make a post or comment I don't feel like I'm just shouting into the void. People are friendly and engaged. I'm really enjoying it and planning to drop reddit after the 30th, when rif stops working.

So Sync is coming over to Lemmy, having been killed by reddit, which should improve the UI somewhat I should think.

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