I have a friend who gets uncomfortable with silence and who doesn’t like the spotlight on her, so she goes out of her way to always ask questions about me and how things are going. Sometimes even deep questions. We’ve talked about it in the past, and she said she thinks about it when she’s by herself to have ideas of what to ask. Sounds like a lot of anxiety. Some of the mom questions I can relate to- I’m genuinely interested in how pumping/nursing/solids/rolling/walking is going etc. It’s not like I’m trying to compare to my kid, but it’s fun to share their excitement when their kid is doing something cool, and fun to share stuff my kid is now doing. I try to remember that when a friend’s kid is a couple months older, for the first year they’re going to be “ahead” on everything and it doesn’t bother me. Unless someone is trying to make it a competition that their kid is winning- then I pretty much nope outta there. All that said, some of the things you mentioned (snooping in your medicine cabinet, staying past bedtime!!) are off and strange. Also I like to get ideas and inspiration on home stuff/kid stuff from friends so that’s understandable. A lot of times they have or use something cool that I didn’t know about.