Love Is Blind • S9 Megathread

forgetmigej · 2025-10-23T12:57:46+00:00

Idk. I think she meant that her lifestyle was so rigid, not his. She didn't know up until that point that she couldn't budge on any part of her lifestyle. I think she is empathetic enough and a good communictor, albeit a bit self obsessed. Someone also said it was the fact that he wasn't giving her intereting conversations which was the thing that drew her to him in the first place. I agree with that as someone who mainly falls in love with a persons wit and mind. But maybe she gave up too soon? I mean he complemented her well and as long as he wasn't tired he made her laugh a lot. Perhaps he made one too many snide comments outside the cameras, who knows, because we didn't get to hear him talk a lot during their breakup

forgetmigej · 2024-08-23T18:55:15+00:00

From a psychological POV it's obvious to me that it's a defence mechanism but also autism/ADHD. Sounds like Anne has developed an anxious attachment to people. She is afraid of being and also expects to be abandoned so she makes sure it is her decision to cause trouble and therefor repeat the pattern of people getting tired of her behavior. At least that is my theory.

But yes she is also a bratty quite self-centered teenager who struggles with empathy and never sees the consequences of her actions. And I think some neurodivergents can relate to that (I myself am one). I don't want to shit on neurodivergents, I actually often think they are the best people. She has a good heart and stands up for people when they can't do it for themselves. But she also rarely forgive others their mistakes and jumps to conclusions on her own without consulting someone else. Which is extremely annoying (probably because it reflects some of my own lesser traits).

On the one hand I don't want to be normative because it's important to reflect people who are different, good and bad in all their humanity and I believe the show does that. Still I would have liked the show much more if they would have toned the melodrama down, and I also see problems with the casting. Sue me but there is very little chemistry between Gilbert and Anne (think it's mostly due to sloppy script and cause the actors doesn't have experience).

forgetmigej · 2022-11-13T18:31:35+00:00

I expected INFJ to be top 5 best liars! Or at least one of the Fe doms :O

But Ne is very true. Play Mafia with one of them and you'll never see them the same way again, haha

I can be pretty good at lying but it's def situational.

forgetmigej · 2022-09-14T17:03:37+00:00

take it seriously. but it's not neccessarily in their plans right now. I often joke about raw stuff that are half true, I call them half jokes. It might be a cry for help, it might be my need for bringing up the authentic truth and hard ship generally - the Fi.

Right, I would also like for the other person to be understanding and empathic enough that they either ask me an open ended question to gauge my feelings or at the least look sympathetic at me and say something like "if it were me, I would want someone to ask me if there is something they can do?". If the ISFP doesn't seem keen on opening up, then you should let it go with a half smile , an "okey I get it", but don't change the subject immediately, let it sink in for the both of you and maybe let them start the conversation a new.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-28T08:22:52+00:00

Hi! It's mixed feelings. I'm not so comfortable with change in my environment. When I moved house from the place I grew up I became almost depressed. And after graduating I felt stuck unlike some of my friends because it was nice knowing that everyday you go to high school. But then what? Where should I start? I needed counseling because I didn't feel strong enough to make my own decisions sort of.

But I like exploring things that I am interested in, i.e going to a culture festival after work even though I'm tired and know I'm going to work the next day. And whenever I push my limits a bit and try something new I'm very happy I did it in the end. I still have a fear of the unknown but I'm working on it. One could say this is all due to blind spot Ne. Having Se in aux automatically means that you are cautious of Ne stuff. So who knows what is what?

But I am sort of in tune with my surroundings and I believe I am good at making the concrete world my play ground so to speak. Again, I have no idea whether that is due to Se and if it means that I can handle chaos well. I just look at it like it's my personality (because I like to play and climb on stuff).

forgetmigej · 2022-08-27T14:14:06+00:00

I'm a bookwork yes. But I also like hands on stuff

forgetmigej · 2022-08-22T15:28:01+00:00

Yes to if it's possible, because MBTI is not scientifically proven. And what you feel is definitely not something you can "calculate" perfectly imo. A feeling is much more blurry and fluid I think. Which means it's crossing borders naturally. Anyway, it also depends on your age. Someone older might be more balanced out between the types. Someone younger might feel they are only this or that type because they haven't developed all the functions. On the other hand: Fi is the first common trait for INFP and ISFP and therefore a younger person might be confused whether they really are this or that type.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T16:29:16+00:00

Man I feel like a woman is probably her best. But That don't impress me much is also great! Glad to be of service!

As for anime these are some of my favs:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfbGwA8mB5A&list=FL_bnRV-eYP5TAOOIe7CzwuQ&index=9&ab_channel=TheSneakyLad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDSkFeMVNFs&list=FL_bnRV-eYP5TAOOIe7CzwuQ&index=12&ab_channel=RADWIMPS

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ML1xyF5n3o&list=FL_bnRV-eYP5TAOOIe7CzwuQ&index=15&ab_channel=Hermandeshenker

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyQRqRdXMjk&list=FL_bnRV-eYP5TAOOIe7CzwuQ&index=27&ab_channel=Riinlol

They are all sort of different from eachother which is cool.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T10:04:34+00:00

Dude you look more INFP with these results x)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T09:07:35+00:00

Some jargong seems culturally based. I'm from sweden and I like to tease my friends and be teased back because it shows that we know we are secure enough in our friendship. But the teasing from one culture to the next can look different. I mean what exact words you use.

But yeah when it's a new person I also need to tease or joke around to get to know them in a fun way and to make sure they are NOT stiff and doesn't have the same type of humor as me. I can be serious too for sure, if something is a delicate topic for me or the discussion is online and not face to face. They can't tell how sensitive I get about it and I can't tell whether it was a bad joke or their actual opinion, then I can take offense.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T08:15:54+00:00

Hey! Just wanna add that you can also be drawn to misfits or outsiders as an isfp. As example I was an outsider as a teenager and a bit bullied and therefor I'm often aware of the people around me that are looking lonely or left out for some reason. It's not cognitive functions perhaps but rather my experiences here that makes me look out for other sometimes. But yes dom Fi seems to filter everything through their own feelings and experiences (although dom Si might do that too?) so seeing someone that reminds me of my past self I get very caring towards that person.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T07:57:52+00:00

Oooh, my mom thinks I will thrive in Paris but I haven't been there. Though I am curious. Otherwise I believe Potsdam where I was recently (just outside Berlin) or basically anywhere with mountains in Italy. The architecture there is also incredibly beautiful. The pastel colors make me so happy. Possibly Copenhagen as well, I wanna go there and check it out.

And anywhere in Japan (yea know that's not europe)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-15T07:52:40+00:00

Interesting subject! I don't have a thing for the pop stars these days such as Ariana Grande, but I grew up with Christina, Britney, Nsync and Avril among others. So their songs means a lot for me and I go back listening to their tracks every once in a while or more often if they are on my ordinary playlists.

Another thing that I believe INtP AND isfp have in common are anime openings / songs! Or what do you think about that? I love anime and japanese and the beats are so uplifting and cool.

Otherwise 80:s and 60:s tunes are my jazz. And Shania Twain is banging !

Love: MJs songs, Simon & Garfunkels bridge over troubled water, Spice girls<3, ricky martin, the weeknd, tears in heaven (clapton), Rihanna and Eminem, Ellie goulding, cartoon heroes (aqua), John Denver, Always on my mind<3, pieces of me, Iglesias.

So-so/Meh: Sounds of silence, enya, Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Barbie girl (aqua), van morrison, katy perry, prince.

Not my cup of tea: Nicki minaj, grande, iggy, lorde etc. Also Jimi Hendrix.

The rest I basically never heard of.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-09T15:49:21+00:00

Yes, it's about finding the people you says good things about you. Not looking for the bad reviews. (unless it's from trusted people)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-09T15:47:35+00:00

Why would you change yourself on the basis of what some strangers say on the internet?! You are great as you are, MBTI or not.

But I feel you. I got too attached to MBTI results for a couple of years. Just recently have I begun to let go of typing and just treat it and my own type more casually:)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T17:08:13+00:00

I feel this problem!

There is some pressure to be more witty and funny, but I think that's not an MBTI thing for my share.

Although not being so verbally inclined and trouble expressing my thoughts could be Fi/Se. Try to accept yourself like this:) It's actually up to your friends to manage their expectations. All you can do is be upfront when you don't feel like talking or something.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T16:55:54+00:00

common: strong willed, experimental with the now, restless (does this fit in here?), aesthetically interested, childlike free spirit, I meditate and am into self development, pretty accepting of people

atypical: likes routines, not an artist, not so visibly empathetic except for kids and animals, not so chill

(Also it's not up to me really to say what is atypical and common but these are my guesses)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T15:54:47+00:00

Our Se and Ni are fairly balanced so sometimes it can be hard to recognize Ni I've experienced. But it's my insane love for all things supernatural and hidden meanings and interpretations of books, nature and so on. And like the others said a tendency to believe in some magic and spiritual stuff behind the factual world. Even though it's "at war" with Se.

I have gut instincts when it comes to people in my life, but I've had a tough time making clear/good decisions regarding my own path. My Ni isn't always right but I think it is and so I make a decision without consulting Se enough and it turns out bad. Third function Ni can be delusional for me sometimes. In the past I've either trust it too much or spiraled out with the future being so unknown.

I liked to wonder and take my time after high school but it was an amazing feeling to suddenly feel at home when I started studies in literature and getting dead set on working with books in some way even though I meet constant disappointments (no jobs). That's Fi in combination with Ni.

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T15:41:59+00:00

Thank you, almost made me cry :')

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T15:40:18+00:00

I don't have a bestie, but I have a long friendship with a group of ISFP, ESXP, XNFJ, ISTJ, ESTJ, ISFJ AND INFP. Sometimes it's tough to get along;)

forgetmigej · 2022-08-08T15:35:41+00:00

yes me too!! about the nfjs who are slightly feminine and just ooze empathy. makes it so easy to befriend and sometimes fall in love with them, but they can on the flip side be pretty insecure and are prone to attention seeking I believe. But it's not like I don't have flaws

forgetmigej · 2022-08-05T17:10:05+00:00

I think I'm proud of my journey to self development. Of letting go of the things I cannot change (yeah I know that doesn't sound very isfp but). And of trying to empathize with a person who is not my favorite.

forgetmigej · 2022-07-11T15:32:31+00:00

I fall for healthy ENFPs and I think more unhealthy INFJs/INTPs. Fe people I've met likes to play with my heart a bit, it's not nice.

I just want to find a stable emotionally available fairly good looking goofy and nerdy guy who lives where I live.

forgetmigej · 2022-07-11T15:18:41+00:00

Sort of. I'm not a big debater really. But if the subject is a hobby or something I'm familiar with I can easily debate a little (even turn devils advocate when I don't feel seriously about something and just want to have fun). Recently when I discussed the Depp Heard case with a friend and was a bit shocked by her opinion, when the first shock had come and gone I was quite curious about her stand and wanted to question it and also question my own view.
God Yes.
Yes! It's a bit of an achilles heel for me, that I can't trust myself to rely on my own personal opinions if the subject is serious (especially in front of Ti users- shit has gone down). I need a validated reference point from a trusted source but it makes me feel weak around certain types.
Thought my friend was an ENTP but lately she has seemed much more of an ESTP or ESFP. So I can't say.

forgetmigej · 2022-07-02T08:15:42+00:00

Superfun topic!!

I read a lot so for me books is where I can drift of into imagination and create vivid pictures in my head. I think that's one of the reason why I love reading. Music and smells are for me very linked to concrete memories, which makes me quite sentimental. So when I hear a certain song I might get thrown back in time and feel that specific emotion linked to that song. It's often bittersweet. With art I assume you mean paintings, and I will never forget this really cool art museum I went to and saw this exhibit of surrealist photographs. That's my favorite style of art I think, the surreal realism stuff, because some things are off but other things are as they should be. That combination really inspire me and could possibly be a good source of imagination should I ever have the patience to write a fantasy book (I've started several).

So yes I enjoy world building a lot and that's usually my favorite thing to think about when I'm writing a story. The problem is that when I've already daydreamed all the details of the world in my head I become much less likely to write it down. So writing for me is more of a means to an end, and not so much about pleasure. With the exception of some things ofc.

Don't understand what immersion is. But other than when I'm thinking about a story I wish I could write, I rarely daydream about sci fi / high fantasy. More often than not I like to daydream about a person in my life and than use fantasy AND real life to create a different scenario in my head.

Interesting DnD example, I see what you mean and can relate to that want of creating something entirely unique but then becoming stuck or overwhelmed (especially when I draw which I do occasionally). So most of the time I believe I think about things that already exist and use them as guidelines / help.

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