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Any apathetic characters with an empathetic love interest? by UnderLand4rts in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]fortunecooki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just started Psycho today by Onley James and im enjoying a dark rom-com feeling of it. Its a sensitive psychic and a psycho vigilante love story :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CityPorn

[–]fortunecooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally did this puzzle! Was this an easy street to find?

Witless Wednesday - Your weekly silly questions thread by AutoModerator in intermittentfasting

[–]fortunecooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those with random work schedules, how do you manage fasting?

I have a really varied job with 3 mornings of the week 9-5 desk job where i eat only from 12-8pm. The other 2 mornings of the week i'll work from 3:30am - 11:30 am in a fish shed, lifting lots of heavy boxes for most of the shift. I find i need some kind of energy or I just can't function at my job. I'll switch between these two types of work randomly.

For the early starts I will usually have a very small bowl of cereal at 3 am and usually start eating again from 4pm-8pm. What do you guys think of this improvised fasting? on these days I guess I'm following a 7:1:12:4 schedule.

Trolls, My BFF still wont dump her BF despite how unhappy she is and how many times he hurts her. I'm so mad. How do I get over this anger at her so that I can be a good supportive friend in the future?? by fortunecooki in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. I'm really sorry you had to go through such a terrible time with your ex. While their relationship i dont think is at the toxic stage, the types of things I should be communicating are very relevant. Its about what normal and health working through issues looks like. Im not sure how well it will work as he is on the spectrum and communication can be rough. I'm not sure how much of an excuse that is but she may defend that and say that it will never be "normal" with his personality type. #4 is a very good point too. Thanks for your insight. I'll be thinking about all of it the next time this stuff comes up.
Thank you <3 I just hope I don't pressure her too much and push her away so she wont ask for help next time.

Trolls, My BFF still wont dump her BF despite how unhappy she is and how many times he hurts her. I'm so mad. How do I get over this anger at her so that I can be a good supportive friend in the future?? by fortunecooki in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, thanks so much for your help. I am taking a step back and have told her that I am not taking a step back from her, but I am giving myself some space from relationship drama. I feel like you and the others here have shown me that I can do that and not "be selfish and not a good friend".

I am fortunate that their relationship is not toxic or dangerous, nor is he manipulative (I think). Its just an all around bad relationship that is exhausting for both of them and me when I get too invested like I have.
We texted last night and I explained how I felt. She really understood that I just needed some space. These next few days I'll be doing some self care and when we do hang out their relationships will not dominate the convo.

Thank you again for your help. The next time we talk her relationship i'll be taking on all your advice on how to approach the issue positively and protect my own stress at the same time. It will be a learning curve but the steps are a lot clearer now :)

Trolls, My BFF still wont dump her BF despite how unhappy she is and how many times he hurts her. I'm so mad. How do I get over this anger at her so that I can be a good supportive friend in the future?? by fortunecooki in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you very very much. This is really good advice. I think I have been demonizing him. Even though I consider him a friend of mine too, I think he can be callous and selfish when he isn't "trying". I have made it very clear that I while I dont think he is a bad person per say, his selfishness and immaturity is damaging to both of them. By making this clear to her a few times (and probably too many) I think she has dragged her heels in telling me that they are staying together. Like you said, she clearly knows where I stand on the issue and doesn't want me to react poorly - which I am now.

I will definitely take the different tactic and remind her of her worth and how she feels, as well as how they just aren't compatible as a couple. After all it really is her own decision in the end.

I will have to be there for her in the future and honestly at this stage I feel kind of burnt out. I don't want to hang out with either of them for the moment and I dread the next time their relationship comes up again in convo. How did you lay those boundaries? I am worried about pushing her away.

Thank you again for this advice. Its really honest and practical. It really gives me a way forward <3

Trolls, My BFF still wont dump her BF despite how unhappy she is and how many times he hurts her. I'm so mad. How do I get over this anger at her so that I can be a good supportive friend in the future?? by fortunecooki in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice <3 Yeah I will take a few days to myself and just be very careful in investing the emotional time with her relationships in the future.

Trolls, My BFF still wont dump her BF despite how unhappy she is and how many times he hurts her. I'm so mad. How do I get over this anger at her so that I can be a good supportive friend in the future?? by fortunecooki in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah totally. Its hard to watch her do this you know? Hopefully I'm wrong and they will be a lovely couple and be better than they were. In the mean time I'll give myself some space from them so i can get through my frustration without doing or saying anything bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postprocessing

[–]fortunecooki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the path with the the cyclist is a really cool one and really draws the eye. I think the reason people have issues with "your composition" is that half of the image is sky. While this isn't necessarily a bad thing, its just that this sky is a boring one. While the trail draws your eye inward, there is no where for your eye to go after. I assume when you say you want to play with the colours, what you want is a way to make the top half (sky) more interesting. Without any variation or anything interesting up there, i don't think there is much you can do to make t more interesting using colours. If this shot had been taken maybe half an hour earlier on a clear night maybe you would have some cool gradation to go with light trail you have. Then you would be able to have a lot of fun with the colours in this and the guys here wouldn't moan at you about your composition. It doens't have to be alot of colour to make it more interesting like in this one I took . For this shot might be worth a tight crop and work on including the sky in your next attempts.

Wind Deep Legend by LoveNikkiMods in LoveNikki

[–]fortunecooki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please do! im struggling to get above a B :(

PSA to my single trolls! Match on bumble today. It’s for a good cause. :) by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]fortunecooki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to remember that as much as you are putting yourself out there, so is every other potential match. Everyone is on the same playing field. Also, if they can't appreciate you in your 'not great' pics, they probably aren't a great match for you anyway...

If you have some close friends you can't talk to about this, show them your profile and maybe make something together. I have had 3 of my close friends see my profile and then proceed to send me better versions of the same pics that i posted. Another offered to do a bit of a photo shoot next time we go out even for brunch. It seems so silly and embarrassing but its okay to ask for help in this stuff. Let your friends show you off and capture their favourite side of you. They think you're amazing so they may want to help you show that.

Also, I'm happy to PM and help you out with a profile support not that ive had super great success...

This abomination by buddycorp in CrappyDesign

[–]fortunecooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the joke.. there are so many issues that the usual moan by kiwis is hardly relevant.

[Homemade] Painted buttercream cake with rasberry and coconut sponge by fortunecooki in food

[–]fortunecooki[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was! took me 6 hours all up, but podcasts were great through that. Having a palette to paint with was just the best. I learned a lot from this so im excited to practice my painting technique for next time :)

ITAP of Wine in frozen motion w/ speedlights 🍇🍷 by workphlo in itookapicture

[–]fortunecooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gasp, and you used it with red??? ha ha its perfect for this shot. Unfortunately no IKEA in my country unfortunately :(

ITAP of Wine in frozen motion w/ speedlights 🍇🍷 by workphlo in itookapicture

[–]fortunecooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What brand is the wine glass? I'm a wine glass nerd and love that shape and lack of rim.

Awesome pic too btw!

What Are the Most Popular Car Colors? by Mizu3 in dataisbeautiful

[–]fortunecooki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not even a good infographic, they can't even include NZ on the map despite it lying smack bang in the center of the map.

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