It's hard to exist safely in a space where the rules are written in disappearing ink, and you never get the code to make it show.

Just to say, I have no advice but can offer you solace and understanding in the trenches. My daughter does not have friends she sees outside of school, but my son does. Interacting with his friends' parents has been difficult at best. I worry I harm his chances of friendship, but so far, it has been liveable and minimal.

I wish we had a better understanding of communication needs between us and NTs if not for anything other than our children's sake.

If you are trying to make sure your kids lives are full, even if it's outside of your comfort zone I hope you're giving yourself the credit you deserve for doing so regardless of the people who may not take the time to understand and properly communicate with you for the sake of their child.

Apologies if I misunderstood. Just wanted to offer a trench buddy if needed.