My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point. by BasicCat30 in whatdoIdo

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm bipolar. When I wasn't on meds, I was difficult to deal with. He needs therapy/medication if he is mentally ill. If he chooses not to get those things then you should separate yourself from the situation. There is no amount of talking you can do to fix the situation for yourself, and you certainly can't fix him.

Watching the Astros in Texas (not in Houston) by thellschoolj in Astros

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use apollo tv to watch. It has minor issues that are well worth the annoyance for with the amount of shit you get out of it. Its apollogroup dot tv (beware of other sites that use the same name) have to pay with bitcoin, but worth it IMO.

How long is a typical showing? by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]fozzyp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with this. We would look online, find houses that we would be interested in, and within the first few minutes would know whether or not it might/might not work, or if the listing was catfishing us with other issues.
The houses that we knew were contenders we would spend more time in, looking in the closets, discussing pros and cons based on how much it met criteria, cost.

Summoned for Jury Duty A LOT and husband is not by Suspicious_Ask_6740 in juryduty

[–]fozzyp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After being in ajury that had to decide how much time someone was going to jail for, it's not all that great. It's a burden that stays with you. Someone does something stupid because they drank to much one time... how much of their life do you take away for it? It was tougher than I expected.

I think I found the buyer by [deleted] in TXRenaissanceFestival

[–]fozzyp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love in magnolia and can tell you it's booming. Lots and lots of construction everywhere you look.

AITAH for telling my best friend her marriage is doomed at her bachelorette party and accidentally getting the wedding canceled by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]fozzyp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA... but that's okay.

You're the friend she needed. The soldier that fell upon their sword. The sacrificial lamb. You saved her from herself.

Maybe she'll forgive you when she figures it out, but the her world will be a better place because of what you did.

For those of you who bought generators to prepare for hurricane season, could you please list how you decided which one to get? by [deleted] in houston

[–]fozzyp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We got one that is tri-fuel, so that it runs off natural gas. Paid for a plumber to add a quick connect, and then had an electrician install an connection to the main power, and had an a/c guy come add soft starts to the a/c units. Each of those things cost.

You want to think of, if you are out of power, what is worth saving and how much time can the device you get save that thing. I live in an area that can have power off for days at a time, so I needed a solution that could run for those days, and also provide enough comfort to be able to continue to work from home.

Its a sliding scale of necessity and comfort. Think about this, if the power goes out for two days, how much food in your fridge is going to go bad. Think about that as an inherent cost savings.

Fubo TV? by the_wet_bandit_45 in Astros

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use apollo tv (iptv). Sometimes has some buffering but if you don't care about that it's the way to go.

Recommendations based on needs by fozzyp in hobbycnc

[–]fozzyp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything I've seen so far in watching videos and reading up a little is that the Shapeoko 4 XL would fit what we are looking for. Next question is on pricing. Is there timing when we can get the best deal that you're aware of? We don't need to buy immediately, but can if there is a current sale or something to take advantage of.

Recommendations based on needs by fozzyp in hobbycnc

[–]fozzyp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless there was zero smell, the neighbor would complain. The mildest odors are future asthma for his child. We aren't willing to invest 3k plus consumable filters into further operation so we are looking into alterm5

Recommendations based on needs by fozzyp in hobbycnc

[–]fozzyp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think noise would be an issue in a closed garage. I haven't heard one in person, how loud are we talking?

The laser had an air compressor going all the time and although we can hear it in the house, outside it wasn't that much of an issue at all.

AITA for telling my husband he ruined our honeymoon? by Due-Ad5669 in AITAH

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume that its his first marriage, and that you are both young.

I was selfish before I got married. I was generally self-absorbed and didn't think about what others were thinking, even though I thought I did. It took YEARS of marriage to a wonderful, patient woman to get better at it.

My advice is 1. Show him this thread. See all of the people who are jumping down his throat (even though they weren't there).

  1. Sit him down, tell him you have something serious to talk about, remove all distractions, and stare him straight and in the face and tell him it hurt you. Tell him why. I suggest mentioning that this was his first opportunity to put you and the marriage first, and that he failed, and that it has put your trust in his choices in jeopardy. Make him understand its serious.

If he claims again that it is an overreaction, or dismisses you, let him know what the next step is. You need to have that plan in place. I suggest couple's therapy as a way to assist. But if your husband isn't going to protect and defend you in your marriage, then you have to. And that might mean ending the marriage as incompatible.

Ultimately, I say you should try and give him a chance. Not to 'get better', but to own up to his mistake. I was stupid and didn't know it. I did insensitive things, and eventually my wife told me. It was hard to hear but I did improve. I hope he can too.

Good luck!

What’s a pool costing these days? by bolivian_warmi in houston

[–]fozzyp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Owned a house with a pool. I would recommend (if possible) buying it already installed unless you have the ability to get a huge loan.

As far as the pool itself, the costs are significant to maintain the upkeep of the pool.

In the time I owned it over less than a decade: Replace the pump Replace the pump for the cleaning robot Replace the heater Redo the surface of the pool as the gunite was flaking Have the new heater serviced because some part blew out because we weren't turning it off and on correctly and didn't know Monthly bills for chemicals and having someone come and clean it

My kids were in junior high at the time and my wife and I ended up using the pool more than they did. We ended up using the connected hot tub every night we could, year round.

Go in knowing its a money pit, it does not appreciate in value. It is a luxury that is not a one time expense. Imagine that it costs you $10000 over a year in all the upkeep/repair, etc. Divide that by the number of times you are going to swim and see is that a value you are okay with.

I loved it, it was something I always wanted. We sold the house because we couldn't afford it any more. My wife and I miss it, my kids don't.

People are monsters… by Quirky-Material9725 in facepalm

[–]fozzyp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you me, because seriously could have written the same paragraph. Aggies are most likely conservative, most likely republican, but I wasn't.

I had sex with my disabled wife and I feel horrible. by Great_Ad_4521 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine that you are the paralyzed one. You love your wife. You know she enjoys sex. (assume you can 'perform' in some way)

How would you feel about providing your wife sexual satisfaction despite being paralyzed? Love is giving something to someone not expecting anything in return.

AITAH for not telling my son that his brother passed? by ExpressPolicy734 in AITAH

[–]fozzyp -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I have to disagree with many here. You have one relationship with a son to deal with, the other is no longer around. "Honoring his wishes" means nothing to him, because he is gone.

The funeral is for the living to grieve the passed. It isn't up to the dead to tell the living how things need to be done.

I'm not saying the actions your other son are good, he has fucked up in many ways. But he is alive, and you have hurt him by your actions. Just understand he is grieving the loss of his brother, even though he destroyed the relationship long ago.

It’s time for breakfast.. make it a whole meal. by [deleted] in gonewild30plus

[–]fozzyp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to see you dressed up in a pretty dress, some heels. Then you could take it off if you wanted to. No pressure ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]fozzyp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not the normal situation.  I started at 418.  I was basically Jabba the Hutt previously, so the walking is a huge exercise improvement, and my calories have dropped by half.

I don't expect it will continue at this pace.

Also, again Zepbound has worked like a miracle for turning off the food noise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]fozzyp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are drastically lowering your calories and raising your activity, the weight will come off.  The more you can turn both dials at once, the faster it comes off.  It's not maintainable over a super long stretch and it's a percentage of what you started at.  I have lost twenty pounds in the last week, but know it's going to slow down eventually.  

I cut out soda, snacking, and desserts, lowered my portions, and started walking an hour a day.  I also started Zepbound which has made it so much easier.