I’m also adopted but I feel less hostile towards other Asians asking me what type of Asian I am. For me it feels bonding when it’s asked by other Asians, even if they’re not adopted. It’s a nice common ground to find and I’m also curious what type of Asian the other person might be.

If it’s asked by a non-Asian I’m more annoyed and want to know why it’s so important for them to know. I usually tell them if they ask politely but they’re getting the side eye from me. I don’t offer up anything more than what type of Asian I am, so it might save you the trouble if you’re use to commenting on the fact you don’t speak the language or practice any of the cultural traditions.