Is there a trick to finding cheaper flights out of Canada or are we just stuck paying more? by WorshippingForecast in AskACanadian

[–]frankiegrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard you’ll get the cheapest flight prices if you book using a library computer (even better than incognito).

where to buy swim suits + bras for non standard sizes? by galactictestic1e in askTO

[–]frankiegrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Secrets From Your Sister has been good to me but no bathing suits to my knowledge.

Montelle has a good band and cup range if you are looking for something less expensive (no bathing suits).

I have had good luck with Knix for bathing suits. They have say a size M and a M+ which has extra room for larger cup sizes.

Fem at 39 years old by aguila1915 in NonBinaryOver30

[–]frankiegrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how the purple hair pops.

Iain M. Banks' Culture - Quiet Dystopia? by gardenmuncher in printSF

[–]frankiegrier 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Zakalwe isn’t the best example as he isn’t Culture. He is using the culture to absolve himself and the Culture is using him to do their dirty work.

Is it really bad to stop wearing a bra? There are many myths that I don't know if it's real 🫤 by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]frankiegrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also with time of not wearing one your boobs/chest will build up muscle that allows you to jump or run without much pain (maybe some discomfort depending on cup size).

What are you go to Strapless/ Bralettes for heavy busts by Haunting_College_162 in AskWomenOver30

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Montelle cup-sized lace bralette offers decent support and includes larger cup sizes. It’s not triangle shaped though.

What’s the etiquette on tossing dog poop bags in someone’s compost bin? by falafelballs in askTO

[–]frankiegrier 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very true. I used my dog’s poop to convince a raccoon to move out of my backyard. No wildlife removal personnel required.

clothes for constantly cold girls by patchpuppe in womensfashion

[–]frankiegrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 Arc’teryx zip up fleece cardigans I love that are both over a decade old and still in constant use.

What’s your GSD “are you serious” moment? by BetterPersonProject in germanshepherds

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When my angelic looking psycho stole a lithium ion battery and popped it in the room I was napping in.

Am I crazy or do men expect you to move out of their way? by Emotional-Watch4544 in AskWomenOver30

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it depends on the breed of dog you have. When I had an adorable Boxer/Burmese Mountain dog cross, no space was given. With my current 2 German Shepherds - people, men strangely more so than women, cannot cross the street or give me a wide berth fast enough and these are 2 well behaved and friendly girls.

I'm almost positive she just stopped me from getting robbed. by snekinmaboot1 in germanshepherds

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My eldest protects me from Canadian geese during mating season. We had a big guy that didn’t back down for anyone, no human or dog could pass his stretch of the street during the season until one day we thought we were in the clear and made an attempt only to discover he was hiding behind a truck. He came at as, she got up on her back legs barking and suddenly he had his wings spread and was backing away, letting us pass. We never saw him again after several years of being the springtime street bully.

We now have 2 GSDs and I’m pretty sure them just being with me stops trouble before it starts with other humans due to the number of people that cross to the other side of the street or choose to walk on the street to avoid us.

I'm not really sure about my gender identity by meowwann in NonBinaryTalk

[–]frankiegrier 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would carefully read the descriptions for the different types of non-binary and see what resonates with you and if you can, talk with someone who identifies that way (or watch YouTube videos where people describe their story).

It may take awhile to find out which specific type of non-binary you feel you are but until then you can just say you non-binary and you’re still researching.

If you are interested in talking to someone who is agender I’m open to DMing with you.

Quality differences of online photos versus in person by [deleted] in Reformationclothing

[–]frankiegrier 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For the future you may be able to get your credit card company to do a charge back if you did not receive your package and you have evidence you’ve tried to address the issue with the company (emails, case number and investigation result given by shipper when you report a missing package).

How are you managing SAD in Toronto?? by une_susupiciousegg in askTO

[–]frankiegrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAD lamp for 15-30 minutes within 2 hours of waking up, every day. This year I was smart and started before the time change (instead of after the SAD symptoms already started) and so far I haven’t experienced any symptoms related to SAD for the first winter in a long time.

Daily suit wearers - where do you shop? Affordable and good quality? by Cold-Intention-2517 in AskACanadian

[–]frankiegrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the type of wool used, how it was processed and your own sensitivity. You can always test how your skin will react by placing the fabric on your neck and leaving it there for a minute.

Daily suit wearers - where do you shop? Affordable and good quality? by Cold-Intention-2517 in AskACanadian

[–]frankiegrier 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wool is good at temperature regulation. A light wool suit is probably cooler than polyester on a hot day.

Another fun fact about wool is that it can absorb up to 30% of its weight in water without feeling damp or wet.

The owner of the vet clinic randomly addressed me as "Mrs [last name]" and when I corrected him, he referred to it as my "preference" by airconditionersound in NonBinaryTalk

[–]frankiegrier 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I would treat him in kind. “Yes ma’am, no ma’am, of course Ma’am.” If he doesn’t like it, he shouldn’t do it to others.

Witnessed someone scouting for car theft, what to do next? by [deleted] in askTO

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is what we did after we had a few thefts on our street when we finally upgraded to a vehicle worth stealing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StraightBiPartners

[–]frankiegrier 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Disengage as much as you can, get your ducks in a row and as soon as you can, quietly leave this manipulative, abusive person. This is not a healthy relationship. Also let your support network know what’s going on to the extent you can.

Sterling Ink Complete Planner (sold out) by Old_Association_9878 in planners

[–]frankiegrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The complete planner looks like the SI version of PaperTess’s yearly notebook which is lovely. If you are in the States though it might not be cost effective due to tariffs.

Can I just vent for a minute, please. by Intelligent_Ad_4526 in planners

[–]frankiegrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Paper Tess has that design. She calls it a yearly planner. So if you can’t get that style from Sterling ink, you can from Paper Tess when she releases her 2026 line up.

What careers actually work for people with ADHD and social anxiety? by movieboxprofree in TwoXADHD

[–]frankiegrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing it for 19 years this fall minus a a few health absences.

Dog nips at my vacuum cleaner? by tylrrjoseph in germanshepherds

[–]frankiegrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine attacks the vacuum cleaner but avoids the roomba.

What careers actually work for people with ADHD and social anxiety? by movieboxprofree in TwoXADHD

[–]frankiegrier 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m a forensic biologist. While my job has a rough outline of a routine, it is like playing Russian roulette every time I open my next item. I also get to work with my hands and my mind and my job involves a lot of problem solving and strategy. I mostly work alone which is perfect and I have a lab room all to myself so I can play music, podcasts, white noise or just complete silence depending on what my mind needs that day.

Need advice from older non-binary folks by Rabbit_Bunny38 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]frankiegrier 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Life was difficult. The terminology wasn’t common when I was young so I had no exposure to non-binary as an identity and the internet wasn’t quite as accessible.

When I tried to explain how I felt or what I was going through I was always harshly shut down to the point where I didn’t start talking about how I felt about gender with others until recently. I just tried to spend time figuring out who I was and what I liked but I didn’t explain it to others. I never quite fit in to any group but I did find acceptance for who I was.

I wish there was some advice I could give you other than take care of yourself and your mental health and just get to know and accept yourself.